How to become kinder?

A kind person always evokes sympathy. It glows from the inside and thus attracts other people. This means that he will never be alone. In addition, it is necessary to take into account also the moral side. In a normal society, it is customary to promote a good attitude towards people. And this is a reasonable approach, since the dynamic development of any society is impossible in a negative environment.

For everything to go well in your life, you need to become kinder, softer and calmer. The rules of psychology say: people need to be treated more tolerantly and try to help them if it is required of you. Remember: the more good you bring to this world, the more good will return to you. However, many do not understand how to become kinder and how to force themselves not to react negatively to various manifestations.

It means being courteous in different situations and even when the situation is not very favorable. Simply put, you need to be able to "control yourself." Decent manners are not always useful. Sometimes circumstances arise that will prevent you from doing this. Negative emotions can take over. Therefore, first of all, it is necessary to learn how to tame them. And then try to rely on the points below.

• If you have not done this before, then start saying the word "thank you" to any seller who serves you in the market or in the store. This condition is easy enough to fulfill. In fact, you don't even have to try too hard. There is nothing complicated and shameful in this.In most cases, people on the other side of the counter will gladly respond to such a courtesy. It would seem a trifle, but it immediately becomes pleasant for both the buyer and the seller.
• Try to always say welcome words to your friends and neighbors. Do not forget to inquire about their affairs and health. Such a simple rule will surely improve the state of mind.
• If you are in a bad mood in the morning, never show it to people around you. On the contrary, control yourself and force yourself to be extremely polite. Gradually you will get back on track and your state of mind will improve.

Do not think that if you smile everywhere and always, people will mistake you for a stupid person. Remember, being positive doesn't mean being stupid. When a person meets on the way of any person who always responds to everyone around him with joy and enthusiasm, the world around immediately becomes brighter. So you try to bring a sea of ​​positive things into this world. For example, if you meet a friend or neighbor, do not say hello through clenched teeth, but smile. Then say a greeting. You will immediately feel a surge of strength and energy from the fact that the person will respond in kind to you.

With the help of a smile, you can easily get out of a conflict situation. For example, if you have an argument with your girlfriend (boyfriend) and do not want to continue the conflict, then first touch the shoulder of your significant other, and then smile. Once you do that, the annoying problem is settled.

There are different ways to become kinder. One of the most important is to help your neighbor. It should be noted that such an activity, in fact, brings great joy and raises self-esteem. Therefore, strive to be proactive and do not wait to be asked for help.

• For example, if you saw that a man (woman) slipped and fell in front of you, immediately come to the rescue. You always need to guess yourself that a person expects support from you.
• Keep in mind that many people themselves hesitate to ask you for assistance in any business. Therefore, try to always lend a helping hand when you see that a person is in a difficult situation.
• For example, your friend made a mistake at work. Because of this, he did not cope with the task and he faces dismissal. If you can fix everything and help a friend, do it.
• Many people help sick people or animals. Volunteering is a lot of hassle. However, it also brings immense satisfaction.

This is quite difficult to do if you initially set yourself up in a negative way. Let's say that the beginning of the day was not quite the way you would like to see it. It's raining in the morning, and it's damp and cold outside. In this case, positive thinking will come to the rescue. It can be gradually developed. Start with the simplest rules.

• Before going to bed, tell yourself: "I go to bed in a good mood, and tomorrow my day will be rich and wonderful." Imagine in your mind what your morning will look like (light awakening, invigorating music, exercise and a delicious breakfast). Tip: in order for you to succeed, wake up early, about half an hour.
• Before leaving the house, check all electrical appliances and taps. By doing this, you will rid yourself of unnecessary obsessive thoughts throughout the day. For example, such: "Did I turn off the iron?"
• Leaving your home, imagine that the air is filled with special aromas that inspire you to do new things.
• While at work, do your current business with joy, do not be rude to others and always smile. If your job does not give you pleasure, then you should think about changing activities. Find an option that will suit you completely. And this step will be almost the main point to rectify the situation for the better.

Be more condescending to people, especially those close to you. Sometimes they act rashly and thus annoy you. Know that many are not doing this out of malice. A person sometimes does not think that his actions bring inconvenience. To fix the situation, just tell him about it without annoyance in your voice or abstract.

For example, on the bus, an individual is talking very loudly on the phone, and it annoys you. In this case, try to distract yourself by remembering a pleasant melody. You can look out the window and think of something good. If you are still feeling discontent, then ask your neighbor to speak more quietly.

Learn to empathize with other people. If you are annoyed by someone close to you, try to enter his position. It is possible that he has a headache or some kind of trouble. Find out what is the reason for the displeasure. Try to help. Let the help be negligible. However, with your behavior, you will calm the person down and cheer him up.

Before committing any impartial action towards another person, stand in his place. Think about how you will feel if other people do something bad against you. For example, you are on a bus. At the next stop, an elderly woman walks into the salon. Her appearance suggests that she is not entirely healthy. Imagine how hard it will be for her to stand while driving. Feel the pain and resentment that no one took care of her. If you have any unpleasant feelings, then give the old woman a seat.

Gratitude is moving forward. If you meet a bad person on your way, or you accidentally find yourself in a bad story, accept this moment in life with dignity. Take note: you need to be grateful for everything that happens in your life. All bad things will pass, but the experience gained will remain. Next time you use your knowledge to avoid mistakes. You especially need to be grateful for the wonderful moments that fate sends. The more you send gratitude to Space, the more will be returned to you. Will return in the form of new and pleasant sensations.

All people experience negative emotions. Nothing can be done about it. If something bad happens in life, then the very first emotions always burst out. However, it is necessary to react in time to such a manifestation of the human psyche and pull yourself together. Say to yourself: "Calm down, now let's try to figure everything out." Start thinking and acting according to the situation. This will distract you from negative actions. For example, you left the apartment and met an inadequate neighbor on the landing. This happens very often. Your opponent is trying to throw you off balance with various steps. Don't give in to provocations. Even if you start to boil with resentment, still try to contain your emotions. Answer all accusations and attacks calmly and use logical explanations. If the person is not listening and continues to drag you into meaningless controversy, turn around and walk away to a safe distance.

When you realize that you have moved away from the negativity, try to calm down. And for this you need to perform certain actions (they can be used when you feel that you are overwhelmed by strong irritation).

• Take a look around and find a quiet, peaceful place. Stand up straight or sit down. Breathe deeply and evenly. At the same time, mentally say the following words: "I am calm (calm)." Repeat this exercise until your condition improves.
• Next, imagine a beautiful natural landscape. For example, a blue lake or mountain peaks with eagles flying over them.
• Try to remember that pleasant moments await you. For example, you will soon go on a trip and visit people close to you.
• Walk calmly down the street or hallway (if you are in the office).
• Tune in mentally for a new activity (work, meeting friends, etc.)

Don't expect everyone to be kind overnight. That will not happen. Therefore, always have specific personal goals and take action. The following tips will help you make this world a better place.

• Stop being selfish. To do this, think not only about your interests, but also about the interests of the people around you. The principle "let everyone be fine" should be a priority for you.
• Don't be greedy. If you’re spending money on yourself all the time, then stop doing it. Think of those in need of material resources to solve their most pressing problems.
• For example, there are very sick children. Their treatment requires a lot of money. Donate a small amount to charity at least once a month and you will help those in need. If everyone starts doing this, the world will change for the better.
• You can do the same if you want to help animals. Don't pass by an abandoned kitten. Help him find a home, and the Universe will thank you for this act.
• Forgive past grudges. Do not hold a grudge against those people who have long repented of their misdeeds. Learn to forget negative points.
• Try to criticize yourself less for a particular action. And if your conscience torments you and you want to get rid of this feeling, do something good.
• Communication with nature calms and pacifies. A person who lives in harmony with himself is always calm. This means that he does not experience negative emotions.