How to stop thinking about a person?

It often happens like this: beautiful love and violent passion suddenly remain in the past. A huge chasm is forming between the two people. One of the partners has been living with new sensations for a long time, and everything is going very well for him. The other partner still cannot forget the old feelings and lives with distant memories all the time. Are you familiar with this feeling? If so, then the following information will come in handy.

All people are very different. Someone does not like to dwell on problems, and someone takes everything that happens in life to heart. It's the same with love. After parting, some individuals fall into complete depression, while others, on the contrary, strive for new sensations and feelings. It all depends on the temperament, on upbringing, as well as the environment in which a person is used to being. So why is it that some can deal with the problem and some cannot? This question cannot be answered unequivocally, but options can be considered. If a person becomes attached to his soul mate, then he can devote all his free time to past memories. Unhealthy attachment is different from true love and therefore is very dangerous for a person's mental state.

Inexperience in a relationship can also lead to strong attachment to someone who doesn't reciprocate. A difficult childhood is another possible reason. Some people from an early age get used to relying on someone (parents or other people) in everything. When they become adults, they continue to live in the subordination of someone close to them. For example, a wife is completely attached to her husband, or a husband is completely attached to his wife.

There are individuals who easily fall into material dependence. If this happens, then they cannot afford to be free. For example, a wife is completely subordinate to her husband because only he brings money to the family. If there is a break in relations, then the woman has to earn money herself. However, some do it badly. This creates a melancholy mood that evokes various thoughts about the past. However, when a person falls deeply in love, he somehow becomes dependent on another person. Love, like a drug, requires more and more emotions. If an individual cannot keep his feelings and desires "in his hands", then his life gradually turns into a nightmare. Therefore, after parting, many, albeit for a short time, plunge into depression.

Who among us has not experienced feelings such as love, passion and hate? If they come at an early age, then the situation is aggravated at times. In youth, every person is ready for new sensations and wants to receive them in full. However, in life everything does not always turn out the way we want. Hence the tears, and melancholy, and disappointment. A person with a still fragile consciousness cannot part with a beautiful fairy tale, but reality dictates its own conditions. This is where problems arise that attract sad memories into your mind. However, it's not just teenagers who experience strong feelings. Already in adulthood, a person can experience a lot of sensations associated with a sudden surging love. And you need to be ready for this. Please note: all ages are submissive to love. The main thing is that love is conscious and does not develop into addiction over time. If you begin to experience painful attachment, then you yourself will destroy your relationship with your partner, after which the time will come when you will suffer from your own poorly realized feelings.

It is rather difficult to answer this question, since all people on Earth have their own individual development, on which their worldview depends. If we rely on general information, then we can unequivocally say that absolutely all people living on this planet experience a melancholy mood about parting. However, for some, the suffering in their souls quickly subside, while for others they can last almost the rest of their lives. Why it happens? Let's consider this issue in more detail.

Very affectionate persons often suffer from unrequited love because they "invent happiness for themselves." They are confident that the whole world revolves around them. The partner chosen by such a person should be there, no matter what. When such people cannot get the desired "happiness" in full, they become very upset about this, depressed. It seems to them that their world has collapsed once and for all. Therefore, these subjects are completely immersed in suffering. Who has not faced unrequited love? There are very few such people. Unrequited love is the most offensive and strong feeling. This process involves human ambition, selfishness and the desire to get what you really want.

Therefore, the subject in love strives to be all the time next to the adored person. It seems to him that they are about to pay attention to him, as a result of which a feeling of complete happiness will come. Self-deception can last for quite some time. And the more such a person is in a "state of dreams", the more she will fall into despair. Ultimately, she can bring herself to a complete depressive state with all the ensuing consequences. So what prevents people from stopping and suffering? Once again, it must be said that, first of all, a special mindset prevents a person from forgetting.

Romantic people sometimes do not care whether the chosen one turns his gaze in their direction or not. They enjoy their feeling. Suffering from this sometimes brings them more satisfaction than a real relationship. In this case, unfulfilled dreams and thoughts about the object of adoration are the meaning of life. Naive and spineless subjects are carried away by their feelings so much that they stop noticing the world around them. They naively believe that someday their object of adoration will finally pay attention to their humble courtship. Such persons can wait for a miracle for years. Naturally, their expectations are often not met.

Inexperienced representatives of society (and in most cases these are adolescents) cannot determine their feelings due to their special mindset. Their consciousness has not yet fully strengthened, and therefore they are not able to soberly assess the situation. Therefore, their state of mind leaves much to be desired. There are other options, of course. It is possible that people who have been married for a very long time have become very accustomed to each other. For a long time they got out of bed together and went to bed together, ate together and spent their free time. Over time, the partners became one whole. Therefore, the departure of one of them will be a shock to the other, after which a lonely person becomes depressed. It will be aggravated by memories of the past.

In addition, the abandoned partner will urgently have to completely rebuild their life and establish new contacts. Unfortunately, such a leap is very difficult to accomplish, as the lonely subject will compare his past life with the present. And if real life turns out to be much worse than the previous one, longing and hopelessness will arise in the soul. In this case, getting rid of negative emotions is very difficult due to habit. No wonder they say that habit is a very strong factor in a person's life.

If you have a situation that begins to weigh you down and makes you suffer, you need to deal with it. First of all, you need to force yourself to stop thinking about the person who is gone forever. Naturally, such a condition is very difficult to fulfill. This requires certain knowledge, experience or advice from a psychologist - and sometimes even the help of other specialists. However, don't panic. First, try to help yourself in an independent way in order to forget the person who, by and large, is not worthy of you. So, we will describe the methods that can be applied in practice. Accept the fact that you will have to live with unpleasant feelings and thoughts for a while. Remember that rehabilitation will take time. So be patient. Know: everything passes - and it will pass.

Start looking for bad sides in your ex or in the object of your unrequited love. Remember, there are no perfect people. Therefore, your adored person will definitely have a couple of (or even much more) bad qualities. For example, he smokes a lot and is addicted to alcohol, maybe he is not as faithful as you thought. However, he may have other negative inclinations, which you must "pull" out and constantly "cultivate" them in your consciousness. By these actions, you can cause hatred in your soul for your former lover. And when you hate someone, then it will become much easier to forget him.

Then you need to understand and accept the fact that your ex-partner does not care about your condition and feelings. Do you really like to be just a shadow for your beloved (oh)? If not, then go for it. Next, you should mentally say goodbye to someone who could not become a truly close person for you.

Now imagine your bright future. Believe that you will definitely meet your loved one who will respond to your feelings and will not betray. Think about it all the time. Remember that our desires are material, therefore they are quite realizable. Start life from scratch. Schedule all of your activities for the month. Let your every day be scheduled by the hour. There should be no free time in it. Don't forget to rest. Pay special attention to this issue.

Minimize random encounters with your ex or your adored person. To do this is quite simple - there would be a desire. If at work you are forced to constantly communicate with a person to whom you are not indifferent, then at least try to minimize the time of each such meeting. In addition, take all your feelings "in hand" and emotionally do not react to contact. For example, you need to resolve a certain issue that relates to your work activity. Close your eyes and exhale before engaging with your ex (s). Imagine that you are wearing an impenetrable spacesuit. Now start chatting.

Have you talked? Exhale now. Then mentally "take off the suit" and throw it into the trash can along with the surging feelings. This way you can quickly get rid of first impressions. And then suppress the desire to continue thinking about the person you almost hate. Post on social media that you want to start a relationship with someone. Communicate actively with new acquaintances and do not rush to fall in love. Let your new relationship begin with more deliberate action.

Lead an active lifestyle. Start exercising or join a sewing and sewing class. You can do both at the same time. Through sports, you will improve your figure, and handicrafts will help you find peace of mind. Thus, you will gain confidence in your abilities. In addition, you will have friends and like-minded people. New acquaintances are a new round in your life. Take full advantage of this chance and don't miss out on your luck.