How to get a person out of depression?
When your close relative becomes depressed, you always want to come to the rescue. Providing support at any cost, not letting you fall into the abyss is your main task. But how to make the most dear person come out of a negative mood and start enjoying life again? This will require patience in the first place. Once you start working on fixing the problem, you will feel like time is going well.
General recommendations and prohibitions
With depression, character and behavior change completely. This negative state can lead to complete despair and even to suicide. When depressed, the person becomes lethargic and passive. He is not interested in the world around him. That is why you need to try to get him out of depression as soon as possible. How this can be done at home, we will consider below. Psychology says - to fix a problem, you need to "look into her eyes." And this is the right approach. So first of all, admit to yourself that you or your family member is suffering from depression.
To support a loved one, you need to separate him from the disease. Remember: a person became withdrawn and angry only because he got sick. Therefore, you should not take offense at him if he was rude. At the same time, if you yourself, and not your close relative, suffer from a destructive disorder, you too need to understand that your bad mood is caused by depression. So explain to yourself that you have no reason to be sad or angry. And if such negative feelings arise, then you need to fight them. For example: come up with a signal in the form of a STOP sign.Turn it on when bad thoughts start to overwhelm you.
In a depressive disorder, it is helpful to ask questions either to yourself or to someone who is suffering from the illness. Questions should focus on the following:
- Why do I feel empty?
- What caused this feeling?
- Why am I not keeping it from growing?
Having answered these questions, you will definitely understand: there are simply no special reasons for further self-torture.
If you feel like you cannot cope with your mental disorder, ask for help from a specialist... He will prescribe the correct medication and your mood will improve. However, there are prohibitions here: uncontrolled, especially self-administration of drugs can bring a person to very bad consequences, up to death. When a person is possessed by a depressive disorder, you need to learn the general rules of behavior when communicating with him. It is necessary to weigh every word so as not to aggravate the patient's condition. So, let's figure out what not to do.
You cannot speak with a sick person in a raised voice. Such an attitude will drive the individual to complete despair, and he may take extreme measures. For example, commit suicide. Also, intolerance should not be shown if you are dealing with a depressed person. The person suffers from the loss of his "I" and therefore often engages in self-flagellation. If you constantly point out the weaknesses of the person, then he may not stand up to your accusations. Then his condition will reach an extreme point.
Comparing a sick person to other more successful people is a direct way to worsen the situation. If your relative is suffering from a depressive disorder, never even hint to him that he is inadequate. Take it easy if you are trying to relieve someone of depression.... Remember that treatment for this ailment is a long process. Don't be overly optimistic. Being too cheerful can drive the sick person to despair.
In a depressed state, all events are not perceived as needed. Therefore, he may think that you are making fun of him.
How to help a loved one?
Depression is a condition that is accompanied by self-flagellation.... If you want to truly help the subject out of the negative disorder, show compassion and perseverance. To solve this problem, you need to consider it in more detail. So, how to help a woman or a man get out of depression?
Woman
Women are very sensitive. Therefore, they are the ones who need to be supported in difficult times. You need to communicate more and talk about topics that concern a woman. For example, you might tell your mom (or friend) that you value her a lot. There is nothing more important than a trusting relationship. Thanks to them, you can calm your loved one in time. It is enough to say a few warm words to your wife or mother, and she will "blossom". For example, say: I really love and appreciate. And the mood will return to normal.
A woman who suffers from depression should be treated with extreme caution. Do not utter harsh words in her presence. You can cheer her up in time. For example, give a huge bouquet of flowers. Thus, you will save her from obsessive thoughts. Remember: beautiful gifts for a woman in the form of sweets and bouquets always give her great pleasure. If you want to cheer yourself up and a woman who is depressed, give her a pleasant surprise. Perhaps in this way you can save her from very bad thoughts.
There are general recommendations that will help relieve a woman of oppression. In order for a woman to get out of depression, she can be advised to get more rest. Sleep is the best medicine. Therefore, at least once a week, pause and "have a full blast." A woman needs to be given the opportunity to speak out. Let her describe her condition and explain why it arose.Perhaps some kind of resentment gnaws at her. For example, cheating on your husband or losing your job. Once the cause of the depression has been identified, it will be possible to start treating it. Exercise can help cope with depression.
The best cure for depression can be a trip to the hairdresser or stylist. It is better to combine these two activities. Appearance will change for the better. The woman will no longer be recognized by her acquaintances, and she will feel renewed. Then there will be a desire to live a full life again.
Man
Do not assume that men are very resistant individuals who are not prone to depressive disorders. Human consciousness is not fully understood. Therefore, in this direction, nothing can be asserted with precision. And this means that you need to know the ways that would allow you to provide assistance to a loved one who has fallen into a destructive state. Let's consider them in more detail. A man must understand and admit that he is sick. At the same time, you should not alleviate a bad state of mind with the help of nicotine or alcohol.
The best remedy for pathological manifestations is travel. From a distance, all problems seem not so terrible and insurmountable. An elderly relative can be advised to walk more in the fresh air. In addition, any person can always find such a hobby that will completely capture his consciousness. Let an old man do physical exercise in the fresh air. To do this, buy him special clothes and shoes. Such equipment will attract attention from the people around you. They will begin to compliment your relative and their mood will improve.
For a friend who is experiencing depression, you can advise them to distract themselves by taking part in a hobby club. If his poor condition is associated with the departure of his wife, then have your friend sign up for a dating club. In such a place he will not be bored.
A man's diet should be very harmonious. He shouldn't eat a lot of meat. You need to eat in a balanced way. Then aggression will not manifest itself in his behavior.
If a woman wants to get her husband out of depression, she needs to become the closest person to him. Always and in everything to support him. She does not need to be angry at aggressive attacks, but needs to understand that this is how depression manifests itself.
Psychological advice
If a person himself does not want to get out of depression, no one can help him. Therefore, first of all, a sick person must very much want to be cured, and only then seek outside help. However, if the subject makes a volitional decision and begins to monitor his mental state himself, he will succeed. Depressive disorder is always preceded by some kind of negative event. Therefore, first of all, you need to remember your negative experience and once again realize what happened. And then you need to act. First of all, admit that you are in a very bad mood. You have to ask yourself - is the reason that caused the persistent bad mood really so serious, maybe you screwed yourself up? After much thought, try to stop the cycle of your life. Maybe the reason for depression lies precisely in your workload.
In this matter, everything depends on you. If you want to change your being, you will definitely be able to do it. Next, you should forgive all the insults that you harbored in your heart. Only when you really stop remembering unpleasant moments can you get rid of the inner irritation. Every person, at least sometimes, commits rash actions. If you think all the time that you did something wrong, then try to forgive yourself for it. Forgiving yourself is a huge step towards overcoming a destructive state. Stop getting angry. To make it easier for you to fulfill this condition, perform the following ritual. Find a secluded spot in a forest or field. Stand up straight and close your eyes. Then scream with all your might. Let the bad energy go away with the scream. After these actions, you can kindle a fire and sit near it for a while.
When you have completed the so-called cleansing of the soul, start cleaning the house. Throw away all unnecessary junk that reminds you of the past. If funds permit, purchase new furniture. Change the bed and sofa first. These elements of everyday life are very strongly saturated with bad energy. When you use them, the negative ephemeral substance slowly flows into your body. Eliminate this source. Find something you like to do. This will help you distract yourself from negative emotions. If your hobby turns out to be serious, you can make money. They can be spent on rehabilitation. Continuing the previous point, it is necessary to add: if a person has money, then he can spend it on a trip. This activity is the most effective method to get rid of depression.
Interacting with people is another point that will allow you to get rid of depression. Even a fleeting conversation with a neighbor on the staircase always cheers up.
This way you can find out the latest news and get busy making sense of it. Please note: Communication with positive people is helpful. Such an activity will help you gain vitality and nourish yourself with good energy. Many people exist in a gray and monotonous way, as in the movie Groundhog Day. Their life is like a continuous series of job responsibilities, household chores and so on. Change the course of events.
How can this be done? Everything is very simple. Do an incredible act that is not your character. For example, jump with a parachute. This way you will get a lot of unknown emotions that will “shake up” your consciousness. In addition, you will get rid of the fears that have tormented you all this time. Next, you should think about the following problem: "How can I change my life for the better?" Consider options to help you meet this condition. This activity will take a lot of time and effort. This means that you will have no time to pay attention to your bad mood. If you find a suitable option, then your negative state will disappear.
Start meditating. Choose the appropriate technique and start doing it. Remember: meditations are designed to improve the emotional state of a person and even make a wish come true. The secret here is as follows: when a person focuses on a certain thought and on his condition, his consciousness can easily "connect" with the Cosmos. If your messages are genuine and persistent, you will definitely get feedback. Then you can have your dream come true and be completely healed. To improve your mental health, always prioritize. Do not prejudice your desires. Try not to highlight your life and your work. Your personal interests should always be in the foreground: rest, good sleep, and the like.
Preventive measures
In order not to become depressed, a person must always keep his state of mind under control. You do not postpone a visit to the doctor if you have a stomach or heart ache? Why it happens? Because you understand the seriousness of the problem. So why do people often ignore their mental health? In no case should this be done. Therefore, you can be advised to adhere to the recommendations of experts. First of all, a person needs to eat right. This condition will help maintain physical fitness and improve mood. Especially this advice must be followed in the cold season. In winter, the body's resources are depleted. He begins to slag due to overeating, due to a lack of vitamins and due to the fact that a person does not exercise much.A balanced diet can help you maintain your mental and physical health.
Observe the daily routine. If you need to get up for work early in the morning, go to bed early. Get up a little earlier than the set time so that everything can be in time, otherwise you will be nervous because of the fear of being late everywhere. Then your day will not pass in a positive way, but in a negative way. Drink a glass of warm milk with honey before bed. If you are afraid of gaining weight, then brew chamomile tea. All of these foods help a person calm down. In addition, they perfectly cleanse the body of toxins. Get some rest, both mentally and physically. To do this, you do not have to go on long trips every time.
You can just get out for a picnic. This can be done even in winter. A few hours spent outdoors can significantly lift your spirits.
If you have a summer cottage or you live in your own house with a garden plot, you may be advised to clean the surrounding area. Nothing cheers you up in winter like clearing snow. Take this activity with your family more often. Excess snow can be used to make a snow woman. And after a fun event, sip raspberry tea. Believe me, you will get a lot of positive from such fun.
Develop positive thinking. If bad thoughts come to you, try to fight back. To do this, draw a STOP sign in your mind. In the event of a bad state, present this sign and immediately switch your thoughts to something good. For example: You might think that very soon you are going to visit your old friend.
To avoid getting depressed, indulge yourself more often. Do not spare funds to raise your own mood. Do you like cakes? Forget about the figure for a while. Buy and eat your favorite treat. Moreover, then there will be a reason to once again go to the fitness room or go for a run. And such activities also help well if the mood is at zero. A healthy lifestyle is the key to success. In this case, you are guaranteed a positive attitude.
A healthy person is always happy, as he can move quickly and arouse the interest of the people around him. Apperciate things which you have. Let every moment of your life be invaluable to you.