How to behave at a party?
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From the very childhood we try to teach our children to use good manners. Going through life, everyone has situations in which it is simply necessary to use the rules of etiquette in order not to get into a mess.
Getting to know good manners
So, let's get acquainted with the intricacies of guest etiquette.
Briefly about the basics
Etiquette is the behavior of people in society according to certain rules. Communication style, the ability to dress properly, the form of communication and mutual greetings, the ability to stay in society, to behave correctly at the table - all this can be called etiquette. In addition to the fact that parents teach etiquette to their children, teachers prepare schoolchildren in lessons about the rules of behavior in society.
Decent girls should conquer with their manners of good behavior, and not "fall face down in the mud" in society. The same applies to a guy, a real man must know the rules of modern etiquette, demonstrate the ability to behave on the street, at a party and at the table.
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Guest etiquette is a kind of instructions that must be followed when visiting, or when you invite someone to your place. Throughout their lives, people visit each other and it is necessary to behave in such a way that only good impressions remain of you. After all, good manners at a party contribute to the acquisition and strengthening of friendly relations between people.
How to invite?
If you decide to invite someone to visit, namely a few friends or a large company, you must inform everyone in advance about the date, time and reason for the event.
You can do this in person, by phone call, you can write a message by e-mail or phone.Remember to give the guest you invite time to decide whether to go or refuse the invitation.
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You should not be offended by a person if, for some reason, he refused to come to visit, probably, there were appropriate circumstances, there is no need to find out the reason - this is a sign of bad taste.
It is much easier to invite relatives than strangers. It is imperative to take into account the interests of all guests, as well as calculate the possibility of arriving on time at the appointed place of each guest.
When you make guest lists for your reception, of course, you know if a particular family has children or pets that guests might come with. It is better to negotiate their presence in advance, or, conversely, to make it clear that this is undesirable in this company. Thus, you will immediately eliminate the presence of awkward situations at your event.
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If guests come to you
After clarifying the list of guests, you can prepare for their reception and it is better to do everything according to plan, slowly. You need to clean the house and decorate it, but not too much. When decorating your home with flowers, do not forget to leave some flower vases that guests will bring. It is better to immediately fill them with water, so as not to waste time on this when you meet your guests.
Take care of a smoking area. Prepare ashtrays and empty them out of cigarette butts in a timely manner.
Be sure to prepare towels in the bathroom for guests to use to dry their hands after washing. It is better to put a basket for used towels or heavy disposable napkins if you decide to replace the towels with them.
Do not forget that using a host's towel is a sign of bad taste, do not create awkward situations for your guests.
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According to the rules of etiquette, the owner must meet the guests on the doorstep. He helps the guests to undress and escorts them to the hostess, who, in turn, introduces the guests to each other.
If the guests who came brought you any gift, be sure to thank them and unfold it in their presence. It is better if you immediately find a place for gifts in the room.
If the guests brought some dish or wine, according to the rules of etiquette, the hostess of the house should put it on the table. In the event that the guest mentioned that this is intended personally for her and her family, then the right to put the dish on the table or not rests with the hostess.
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By the time the guests arrive, the hosts must change. Even if the head of the house decided to do without a tie and jacket, then a man's shirt should be impeccably clean and perfectly ironed. The hostess must look good. Clothes should be appropriate for the event, but not too bright and elegant, hair should be in order, neatly styled into a hairdo. If the hostess comes out of the kitchen to the guests, she should wash her hands and take off her apron.
The host should help the guests to sit down at the table. Men and women should be invited to sit down alternately. Then each lady will have a gentleman caring for her. Lovers should be seated nearby, but spouses can and should be seated separately.
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Having seated guests at the table, the owners of the house should make sure that the guests have everything in the immediate vicinity. If a dish is at a distance from someone, it is appropriate to stand up and offer to serve it.
It is necessary to conduct conversations that will be of interest to everyone, without interfering with the guests to enter into a conversation, to give everyone the opportunity to express themselves if desired. The same goes for entertainment:
- you can see photo albums;
- listen to music or watch a movie;
- some prefer board games;
- you can get guests interested in playing a musical instrument.
It is necessary to ensure that all guests present enjoy the common pastime, and do not stand aside.
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You are in someone else's house
The culture of guest etiquette suggests that you should not go to visit without an invitation, especially without warning the owners of the house. It's another matter if you received an invitation.
An invitation is already a great honor, you were singled out and invited to share your celebration or simply invited to visit, which means they want to see you. It is imperative that you give an exact answer to the invitation, whether you accept it or not. You need to come a little earlier than the appointed time so that all other guests are not waiting for you at the set table, but you should not come much earlier.
When going to an event, you need to think about a gift. If it is a birthday, wedding or housewarming, then, of course, you need to think in advance about what you will give to the heroes of the occasion. And if you are just visiting, there will always be sweets, a cake, a bottle of wine or a small souvenir brought to the place, the hostess will be very pleased to receive flowers.
Dress appropriately for the event and location. Don't dress up in provocative outfits. The outfit of the guest should not overshadow the outfit of the hostess of the house.
If you are going to visit, you should not take strangers with you who have not been invited to the event. If there is no way to go alone, it is better to call and explain to the owners the reason for your absence, to postpone the visit.
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Standards of conduct for people who are at the table in the company of other people:
- You should not lean on your elbows or place them when sitting at the table.
- Do not lean too low over the plate; you need to bring a spoon or fork to your mouth.
- There is no need to stretch your legs, thereby showing a lack of good manners.
- Having fun with cutlery, twisting the tablecloth is also a sign of bad manners.
- Place the napkin on your lap.
- In front of you is a knife and a fork, hold the knife in your right hand, and the fork should be in your left. You can't go over them - it's ugly.
- It is necessary to eat at the table, slowly, and silently.
If you are visiting where there are not very many invited, then do not forget to thank and praise the hostess for the treats. In the event that you are at a formal reception with a large number of guests, it is better to refrain from praising.
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The guest should strive to take part in conversations, maintain conversations with other invitees and hosts of the event. You should not retire with any of the guests or whisper.
If the guest has a need to leave earlier, wait for a convenient moment, say goodbye to the hosts and quietly leave. Your departure should not be a sign of the end of the event. It did not work to leave unnoticed, bow to everyone at the same time and leave.
In any case, you should not stay for a long time at a party. Remember, the hosts spent a lot of time and effort preparing for this event and they also need rest. Thank you politely for the invitation, invite them to pay you a return visit, which you will arrange later by phone or in person.
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Memo for every day
Not only at a party you need to use the rules of etiquette. Every day you spend in the company of other people, whether they are relatives, classmates, classmates, work colleagues or just strangers. You must always behave in such a way that neither you nor others are ashamed of you.
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From greeting the person, how you behave at the table, even if you are dining alone, and ending with saying goodbye to people, you show everyone that you have good manners. And it's better if they are flawless. Then the environment will meet your requirements - polite and decent people.
It's never too late to learn the rules of etiquette, but how they help in life!
A polite, cultured, decent person will always be a prominent person in society. How to behave on a visit to men and women? How to be an exemplary hostess at home? You can learn about these codes of conduct in the following video.