Communication manners: what are they and how to make your speech beautiful?

Acquaintance with a new person begins with his assessment. First of all, the appearance is evaluated. The first impression depends on how the clothes, hairstyle, and additional accessories are chosen. As soon as a person begins to speak, reinforcing his speech with facial expressions and gestures, a more holistic image is obtained. By the manner of communication, the character of a person, his personal qualities, tastes and habits are often determined.

The concept of "manner" includes a combination of many factors. When communicating with other people, it is also important in what tone the conversation is conducted, and what kind of words are pronounced. Your facial expressions during a conversation, gestures, and even gait are also assessed.

From the assessment of these factors, a definite opinion about the interlocutor is formed. A person with bad manners uses obscene language, slang words. The habit of interrupting the interlocutor, intemperance, tactlessness, ill will are also considered bad form.

A cultured person is always respectful of other people. He is tactful, respectful with elders, courteous with women, knows how to conduct a conversation correctly, and is familiar with the intricacies of etiquette. Such people try to avoid conflict situations, maintain good relations with people. This determines the attitude of those around them.

People with bad manners are often unkempt or have a defiant style. A person with good manners usually has neat and clean clothes and shoes. Although there are situations when appearance is not associated with behavior. Teenagers can dress shockingly, trying to show their originality. However, they can be very cultured.

A correctly delivered speech has recently begun to lose its relevance. More and more often foreign words and slang expressions are included in our conversation. However, the use of new words can also mean the enrichment of the language. By using them correctly and to the point, you can easily support any conversation.

In modern society, people do not pay enough attention to the development of speech skills. Therefore, a cultured and educated person immediately stands out from the crowd by using the correct turns of speech and the absence of vulgar words. The manner of communication of such people will not remain unappreciated, because the Russian language is very rich and beautiful.

Competently delivered speech increases the disposition of interlocutors towards you, allows you to find a compromise in disputable situations, to come to an agreement on business issues. This moment should be especially important for you if you often take part in public speaking.

If you want to learn good communication and conversation skills, you you can start attending special classes in speech literacy... They are held for adults and children.

Schoolchildren will be able to tighten up knowledge gaps, master a competent speech, learn to behave more confidently. Thanks to such activities, older people will be able to improve their manners, get rid of the use of slang words.

You can master the art of public speaking on your own by performing certain actions.

• Start exercising by speaking tongue twisters or speaking words very quickly. This will improve your diction. Slow pronunciation of sounds and words will also help in this.
• Pronounce the words clearly and moderately loudly.
• Try to exclude slang words from speech, get rid of parasitic words ("well," "in general," "as it were," "that is," and others).
• Answer the questions clearly and clearly, exclude words such as "uh-huh", "no-ah" from the vocabulary.
• Develop your vocabulary, be open to new knowledge.

• Pay attention to correct stress.
• Try to express your thoughts accurately, concisely, and concisely. Do not get distracted by trifles, go straight to the heart of the matter.
• Make sure your conversation is logical. Don't "jump" from one thought to another.
• Don't speak too fast or too slowly, keep your pace at a moderate pace.
• In controversial situations, do not try to shout down others, proving your case. Give everyone an opportunity to voice their case. Don't interrupt others. When given the floor, calmly voice your objections.
• You can use other techniques, for example, learn the technique of correct breathing.

By strengthening your voice and practicing the correct tempo of speech, you will significantly improve the quality of your communication. And the final result of the conversation will depend on how you conduct the conversation.

With constant training, it will not be difficult for you to master the technique of correct speech.

Here are some specific activity examples to help you.

• No matter how busy you are at work, leave some time to read classic literature... This will improve your vocabulary. After reading the text, try to retell it. In the process of retelling, you will immediately notice mistakes and shortcomings and can work on them.
• Use play workouts. One of the most interesting and popular is the game in which the participants have to describe a certain object in 10 minutes. This is not as easy as it might seem. Exercises like these give excellent results for developing correct speech.
• Do the imitation exercise. Turn on the TV and try to repeat after the announcer, everything he says, using his intonation and observing all the pauses. Be sure to say the text out loud. You can also try to imitate your favorite singers or movie actors. Watch the style of performance, behavior.
• Many people are very humble by nature. Introducing yourself as a speaker in front of a large number of people can help you become more self-confident. Public speaking involves a lot of responsibility and increased attention to your speech.

With this exercise, you will not only be able to find your style and learn how to conduct a dialogue, but you will also be able to overcome the fear of such situations.

The general idea of ​​him as a person depends on how a person gestures. If you want to make a good impression, you must not only express your thoughts beautifully, but also be able to control your body.

Knowing what these or those gestures mean, you will not only be able to win over interlocutors. You will be able to analyze the behavior of other people. You will quickly and easily determine how interested the partner is in the conversation, whether it is worth starting a conversation or even doing business with this person.

Let's consider a few of the most common gestures.

1. Openness gesture can tell a lot about the interlocutor. If a person is in a good and joyful mood, he sits relaxed, his jacket is unbuttoned. This means that the interlocutor is positive, all his words are sincere. During business negotiations at the conclusion of a deal, if the issue is resolved to the benefit of both parties, partners usually move to the table and unbutton their jacket buttons. In some cases, they may even take it off.
2. For a person solving a problem or looking for a way out of a situation, a wistful expression is common. If someone pinches the bridge of the nose, it means that he is completely focused on inner reflections. In this case, it is better not to disturb or distract the person from the thought process.
3. If your partner rests his chin on his hands, this means that he is very skeptical, does not accept your evidence or objections. The content of the conversation is also not very interesting to him.

Pay attention to the position of your hands, especially if they are on your chest. This gesture can mean both a way of protection and a negative attitude. Depending on how exactly the person crosses his arms over his chest, you can determine the nature of this gesture.

• The simple crossing of the arms means that the person senses danger. Sometimes this posture can also mean a calm state if the conversation is friendly.
• Crossed hands with clenched fists indicate that it is worth ending the conversation. This posture speaks of hostility. As a last resort, try changing the topic or changing the pace of the conversation.
• If the interlocutor's arms are wrapped around his shoulders, this means that he is negatively disposed. Sometimes this gesture is accompanied by a mocking smile. In this case, it is possible that he is holding back with the last bit of strength. If urgent action is not taken in such a situation, a scandal may erupt.

You can also tell a lot about a person by walking. From the pace at which he walks, how elevated his head is, whether he waves his hands or holds them in his pockets, one can determine the character, state of health and even the age of a person.

1. Arrogant people can be seen in how importantly they "pace" with a raised chin, resembling a stork.
2. A confident personality can be identified by a characteristic calm and confident gait.
3. If a person walks quickly, waving his arms at the same time, you can understand that he is determined, ready to cope with any problems.
4. Closed and insecure people often slouch, walk with their heads down, not looking at passers-by.

Facial expressions are also of great importance. The effectiveness of your dialogue depends on how much you can "read" the facial expression of the interlocutor. By the facial expressions of a person, you can understand how he is tuned, whether it is worth continuing the conversation.

• During the conversation, try to look the other person in the eye most of the time. If you want to achieve results, your eyes must meet up to 70% of the time. Chained people who try to look away tend to be less trusted.
• It is also important to monitor the position of the lips. If a person smiles, he is friendly. If the lips are compressed, it means that he is doubtful or unhappy. The drooping corners of the mouth indicate that the other person is upset.
• And even by the pupils, one can judge the partner's reaction to what is happening. If a person becomes angry, their pupils become smaller. If he is happy or excited about something, they expand.

The attitude of those around you depends on what manners you possess.

1. Listen to others, be kind and honest, and smile.
2. In conversation, always be correct and restrained.
3. Try to look your partner in the eyes more often, especially if you are talking to a lady.
4. Control your posture during a conversation, keep a distance between your interlocutors.
5. Watch your facial expressions and gestures, pay attention to your partner's behavior.
6. Expand your vocabulary by reading more. Watch your speech, do the exercises described above.
7. By working on yourself, you can become a welcome interlocutor. You will find an approach to different people, avoid unpleasant situations. You can also earn the respect of colleagues and the trust of friends, develop business "acumen", achieve excellent business results.

You will learn more about communication manners in the following video.