Good manners and rules of conduct in society
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In the past centuries, great attention was paid to education. Boys and girls from early childhood were taught the rules of social behavior and good manners. Among the noble classes, great attention was paid to teaching manners and rules of etiquette. The family always had an experienced governess who taught children at home. Much attention was paid to etiquette and good manners in such training.
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Currently, the rules of etiquette have been somewhat simplified. In the age of modern technologies and rapid informatization, many of them have lost their relevance. But nowadays it is important to be a well-mannered person who knows the rules of etiquette and good behavior.
Peculiarities
In the process of communicating with other people, etiquette is important. The media and special literature began to write about the problems of educating modern society. This is especially noticeable in the example of entrepreneurs of the late nineties of the last century. When ignorance of elementary norms led to absurd situations. Especially in the case of communication with foreign partners.
In Europe, the foundations of etiquette were finally formed under Louis the fourteenth. During his reign, all the rules and norms of behavior were thought out in the smallest detail. In our country, the concept of etiquette appeared only at the beginning of the eighteenth century. Until that time, there was a certain order of behavior for all estates, but there was no uniform and clear regulation.
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Among the nobility, the ability to behave correctly was a consequence of upbringing and was self-evident. The concept of honor, instilled from an early age, was the main value.Not only moral behavior is the basis of etiquette, the spiritual and physical purity of a person is equally important.
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The very definition of etiquette literally means the following: these are the rules of social behavior in society, which are well known to everyone and correspond to general principles.
Etiquette in each country reflects the characteristics of the nation. These can be some kind of traditions, ceremonies or rituals. Working relationships are governed by special charters and instructions. The main rule of a modern person is to respect your environment.
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At present, a person is judged by how refined his manners are, whether he observes the rules of decency in society, how he talks and treats the people around him. Much attention should be paid to your phrases and words "parasites". There are now a huge number of exercises for developing speaking skills.
A competently and beautifully speaking person owns the rules of good manners. This behavior will not be overlooked.
See the following video for some tips for developing a competent and beautiful speech.
What are they for?
The rules of conduct are different. Some of them are clearly regulated at the legislative level, while others are informal. Observing such informal rules is important if a person wants to gain respect, position and recognition in society. Knowing and mastering the rules of good behavior is important and highly relevant. Every day a person makes many social connections with others. These can be family members, colleagues, friends, or bystanders. The behavior of the person himself will determine how successful these connections will be.
Without following the elementary rules of decency, it is very difficult to adapt in society and make new acquaintances. Wealthy and successful people almost always have good manners and etiquette.
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If a person looks sloppy, uses profanity and does not know how to behave in society, then such he causes a feeling of hostility. High moral standards and principles will always be relevant.
The fundamentals of good manners have been preserved, but have changed somewhat under the pressure of social changes. But the ability to communicate and respectfully treat another person is invariable. Some of the rules have changed somewhat, based on convenience and democracy.
It is important to know the rules of conduct in order not to get into an awkward situation. It is necessary to give way to the elderly and pregnant women in public transport. You cannot call late at night for business matters. You need to be able to properly set the table and use cutlery. With the global development of information technology, rules for communication on mobile phones and on the Internet have appeared. Many people have started going to fitness centers, but often do not know the rules of behavior and are the object of universal ridicule.
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In order not to be the object of ridicule, to occupy a good position in society and have a wide circle of acquaintances, it is important to know the rules of good form.
Rules of behavior
Etiquette and good manners are divided according to several criteria. These can be the rules of conduct of a secular, religious, business, aristocratic, military, or professional society.
Throughout his life, a person is within the framework of the sociocultural space. Unless we are talking about life on a desert island. Knowing good manners makes a person much richer spiritually. This directly depends on his upbringing and manifests itself in the ability to dress, walk beautifully, follow his intonation in communication with other people.
When going to a cafe and restaurant for dinner, a gala event or a business meeting, it is important to know and remember the rules of conduct in such places. Every cultured and educated person owns this knowledge. The behavior of a person at the table greatly influences the overall impression of him.The rules of etiquette in a restaurant are quite affordable for a modern person. This is very easy to learn. Then the person will feel much more confident at the table.
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There are special rules of conduct for guests. It is important to arrive at the appointed time, to be in a good mood and not to forget any present for the owners. You need to be able to leave on time so as not to fall into the category of annoying and ill-mannered guests.
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Many nationalities, estates and castes have certain rules of conduct. The royal family has a certain order of behavior that should never be violated. Much attention is paid to the position in which the members of the royal family sit. It is completely unacceptable to sit cross-legged.
The royal family has its own fashion for clothes. She is tailored strictly to the situation and corresponds to the status of members of the royal family. They even enter the room according to the line of succession to the throne. It is important to properly hold the cup and use the cutlery.... The royal manners are elegant and graceful.
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Correct and sophisticated girls and women take care of their appearance. He must be neat and clean. It is important to have paper and wet wipes with you to replace linen or silk handkerchiefs. It must be remembered that the strong scent of antiperspirant or eau de toilette is considered unacceptable. Also, you should not use a strong-smelling perfume during the daytime.
Girls should not wear multiple pieces of jewelry at once.... This is considered bad form. You need to tidy up at home or in the washroom. You cannot correct your makeup and hair in the restaurant hall or in the middle of the street.
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A woman can be late for a date no more than ten minutes, otherwise it is considered a manifestation of bad taste and disrespect for another person.
Children need to know how to behave properly at the table.... You need to sit down and start eating with everyone. Also, the child needs to be explained that they go to visit only by invitation. Sitting at a party for a long time is not decent.
A man in modern society should try to look good and be able to behave. Much attention is paid to the hairstyle. It should be neat and classic. At present, welcoming the lady is worth a slight nod.
When a man enters the room, he must first let the girl pass. Do not put your hands on the table. In order to light a cigarette, it is important to ask the ladies present for permission. When leaving the transport, you need to give a girl or woman a hand.
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Red and pink roses are given only to a lady of the heart.
Aristocratic manners
Manners for aristocrats are a kind of visiting card. Refined, strict and sophisticated manners are inherent in them. Scientists were able to prove that the propensity for good manners is achieved not only by education, but also by genetics. Modern media will help anyone acquire secular manners and learn all the subtleties of good form:
- A person with the manners of an aristocrat is fluent in speech, does not shout or raise his voice in any situation. Having his own opinion, he respects the position of others. The ability to get out of a conflict situation without shouting and scandals clearly indicates good manners and aristocracy. Bad manners will allow discussion of another person's personal life, but aristocratic ones do not. An aristocrat will never discuss another person.
- The lady is always dressed according to the place and circumstances of her stay. The girl's conversation should move smoothly from one topic to another. She should be able to support any topic of conversation. There is a ban on the use of vulgar gestures and loud laughter. Posture is a separate topic of conversation. Keeping your back straight is essential in any situation.
- It is important to use the minimum amount of accessories made of precious metals.You need to keep a certain distance in communication, but at the same time remain attentive and caring in relation to your interlocutor. A person with the manners of an aristocrat, as a rule, is reserved and knows how to control strong emotions. Such a person does not enter into an argument, but tries to resolve the conflict intelligently.
- It is unacceptable for women from this class to engage in gossip and intrigue. The man does not talk about his victories over the ladies.
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Aristocrats prefer to pay attention to quality over quantity, their habits are incomparable. Aesthetic traits and moral norms of such a person are at the highest level.
How to bring up in a child?
You shouldn't put off raising a child for a long period. Even at two or three years old, a baby, using the example of adults, begins to understand and accept the basic rules of behavior.
Even babies can begin to be taught good manners. Parents can do this with intonation, gaze, or specific words. You can wish your baby bon appetite or thank him when he held out the rattle. With the help of intonation, it is correct to praise a child for good deeds and show when he did bad.
Many experts believe that at two and three years old is the right time to teach your baby the rules of etiquette and good form. It is important to explain to your child how to do the right thing and how not to do it. And, of course, we must not forget about personal example. At this age, it is best to use play forms and methods for learning.
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The kid should know how to hold onto the table. You need to eat with special devices and use a napkin. Before starting the meal, you should wish everyone present bon appetit. Large pieces of food must be separated. Cutlery will help the child in this. Do not put your hands on the table.
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It is important to develop a child's sense of style.... If adults do not have such knowledge, then stylists can come to the rescue. A specialist, relying on the appearance and type of the child, will help you choose the main colors and style of clothing. Photos in glossy magazines are a good example and source of inspiration. But we must not forget about the individuality of a particular child and his desires.
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At festive events, girls should be in dresses and with a neat haircut. For a boy in such a situation, there is nothing more important than a well-fitting suit.
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The main thing is that everyday clothes should be consistent with the environment, clean and tidy.
International examples
The globe is inhabited by several billion people. There are many different cultures. They have their own traditions, values and rules of etiquette. There are some rules that may seem strange. But in certain countries, this behavior is considered normal. The world is quite funny and sometimes funny rules of etiquette, which in certain places should be observed:
- In Afghanistan they are very reverent and respectful of bread products. If the bread falls on the floor, then it must be immediately picked up and be sure to kiss.
- In Canada it is considered normal to be a little late for a meeting rather than arrive early.
- In Chile it is indecent to eat with your hands. Any dish and even small snacks are eaten exclusively with cutlery.
- In China it is customary to leave some food on the plate. Thus, the host will understand that the guest is full and happy with everything. Belching after eating is considered a good sign for hospitable hosts.
- In Egypt it is categorically unacceptable to pour into a glass to oneself. This should be done by the neighbor, and if he forgot, he should be reminded.
- In Ethiopia do not use cutlery. It is accepted by hand and from one dish. It is advisable to use the right hand.
- In France bread complements the meal. They collect food leftovers or use it as an additional cutlery.
- In Georgia after a long toast, the glass must be emptied to the bottom.Otherwise, it will look like bad upbringing and disrespect for others.
- Mexicans consider it snobbish to use cutlery for tacos.
- In Portugal the chef will be offended to the core if he notices that his dish is additionally salted.
- In Russia you can not refuse to drink vodka. This is a sign of trust. Do not mix vodka with juice or ice.
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It is important to know and be able to apply the peculiarities of etiquette in different countries and in the business sphere. In America, when meeting, it is customary to limit ourselves to a welcoming handshake. An attempt to show gallantry and kiss a lady's hand may end with a statement of claim in court. Gifts are not accepted in the business environment. They can be regarded as a bribe.
In British business circles, everything is extremely strict and formal. Warm and emotional greetings are unnecessary here. The norm is considered to be limited to a restrained smile and handshake. It is important to remember the titles of the British. They treat them with special trepidation.
You must arrive on time for dinner and lunch. You cannot come earlier than the agreed hour or stay late. In terms of business negotiations, British businessmen behave with restraint and never put pressure on their partners.
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German businessmen adhere to strict rules of conduct. The most important traits are clarity, restraint and pedantry. When meeting, it is customary to shake hands. It is customary to address by surname and strictly on "you". You can't be late. For all official meetings, a man must come in a suit and tie, and a woman in a skirt and jacket in seasoned and strict tones. It is allowed to wear aristocratic jewelry.
If your partner has invited you to visit, then it is worth taking care of small presentations for his family members in advance. The spouse must be given a bouquet of flowers, and the children must have nice little things. Presentation of a small souvenir with your company logo will be a good sign.
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The French are much more loyal to punctuality issues than the Germans and the British. If your social status is higher, then the French will be much more late. Small souvenirs at the first meeting are accepted but not distributed. It is not customary to invite partners and colleagues to visit. But if you are invited, then this is considered a sign of special respect and reverence.
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The best present for a Frenchman would be a book or art history of your country.
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