Etiquette rules for men
Etiquette for men is certain rules that the best representatives of the stronger sex, gentlemen, are guided by. Previously, in relation to the lady, speech and manners, it was possible to determine the representative of the nobility. These rules were considered mandatory for all those who entered or aspired to enter high society, since ethics played a very important role.
Nowadays, everything is different: men have ceased to consider the rules of conduct important, but in vain. Manners and appearance are the “calling card” that introduces you to those around you: people perceive other people as they present themselves.
Scent
Eau de toilette or cologne is an indicator of the taste of the sterner sex. This is a very important detail in the image of a man who looks after himself. The choice of eau de toilette, cologne, deodorant, shaving lotion should be taken as seriously as possible:
- Fragrances for the stronger sex are very different. It is also worth noting that some modern manufacturers have begun to specialize in the production of perfumes for men.
- When choosing hygienic and perfumery products, you need to take into account that the smells must be correctly combined. The range of aromas should be uniform.
- It is not recommended to mix different perfume compositions and scents, but many men still do it: for example, using first shaving lotion, and then eau de toilette or cologne. If you are used to doing this, it is worth choosing scents that belong to the same perfume line.
It should be borne in mind that during the day the concentration of aromatic agents should increase, and not vice versa.
- The same perfume can be selected up to twice a week. You should not add aroma during the event (this rule does not apply to the fair sex).
- At home, do not use eau de toilette or cologne before eating or preparing food.
- It is necessary to use aromatic agents in the heat as carefully as possible: in summer, only deodorant is usually enough. As for dense and woolen things, which are usually used in cold weather, it should be borne in mind that they very well absorb aromas from perfumery products and the smell of tobacco. Such combinations are considered by many to be very repulsive.
clothing
The wardrobe of the modern representative of the stronger sex is most often distinguished by its variety. Harmony of appearance plays an important role, and not a butterfly and a tailcoat. Every detail of the image must be carefully thought out (especially if the costume is classic). The fact that you prefer a free style of clothing does not mean that the image should not be harmonious.
You need to choose a tie so that it matches the color of your clothes. The suit is slightly darker than the shirt. The universal color of the shirt is white in all cases.
The use of jewelry and bulky costume jewelry etiquette for the stronger sex is not welcome. Some men think that in this way you can demonstrate their status or wealth to others, but usually their reaction in the end turns out to be completely opposite.
Shoes
Shoes are a very important part of a wardrobe. Basic rule: shoes or boots must be clean. Not only women pay attention to how the shoes of the stronger sex look.
Patent boots may only be worn on certain occasions. For meetings with business partners and dates, suede or matte leather is more suitable.
Remember to wear shoes that match the color of the suit.
Business conversation
In business, a certain hierarchy is always taken into account: in this area, the differences between the sexes are slightly blurred. At the door and at the entrance to the elevator, you need to let the manager go ahead. Regardless of whether it is a lady or a man. As for the greeting: subordinates should greet first.
A business person should have business cards. If you are communicating with a potential partner, it will be much more respectable and appropriate to give him a business card than to look for paper in order to write down a phone number.
This card should not contain unnecessary data, decorative elements. The most important information is quite enough: phone number, position, company name, surname, first name.
You need to prepare for business meetings in advance. It is recommended that you first take care of compiling a small questionnaire: this way you can maintain your business reputation, save time (the interlocutor and your own).
Be kind when dealing with a business partner. You can use a handshake (regardless of whether you are communicating with a man or a woman). Potential agreement can be expressed with a slight nod.
Culture in a restaurant
The choice of clothing suitable for a restaurant depends on the level of the establishment, the persons with whom you go there, the reason for the visit:
- If you are going on a date, you can wear a regular classic suit (in this case, you can do without a tie).
- If we are talking about a gala banquet, you will need to prepare a tuxedo or tailcoat.
In a restaurant, you need to remember the basic rules regarding cutlery:
- Do not pick up a dropped cloth or appliance. By returning the object that she dropped to the woman, the man will only show that he does not know about the rules. You need to call the waiter and ask him for a new napkin or other device.
- You cannot use toothpicks in a restaurant, even if they are on the table.
The new guest should be greeted (while standing up). Greet another man with a handshake. If a representative of the fair sex has come, you should help her to sit by moving the chair away for this.
In relation to women
When communicating with ladies, a gentleman should remember the main rules:
- It is accepted in society that a lady should walk on the right side. It turns out that a man should strive to walk to the left of her. To the right of the ladies, only representatives of the stronger sex associated with the military sphere walk: this way they can salute.
- If the lady slipped or stumbled, support her by the elbow. However, only she can decide whether to take you by the arm.
- You should not smoke in the presence of the fair sex until she permits.
- At the exit and entrance, you need to open the door for the woman. A man should let the lady go ahead.
- It is necessary to secure the woman by going down or up the stairs.
- At the exit from the elevator, the gentleman lets the fair sex forward, but enters there first.
- A man should get out of the car first. Then you will need to go around the car and open the door to help the lady get out. If both the woman and the man are passengers, they must be in the back seat. First the lady should get settled, then her companion sits down.
- The gentleman should help the lady take off her outer clothing, and also serve it when the woman leaves the room.
- If the fair sex is standing, you should not sit down (including on public transport).
- You should not be late for a meeting with a woman. You need to try to come in advance, because a man's lateness can put her in an unpleasant position. If an unforeseen situation arises, you will need to warn about it and apologize.
- Ladies need help to carry large bags, heavy items. This usually does not apply to light fur coats, handbags.
- In men's companies, frank conversations about women should be avoided.
- During a conversation, a representative of the stronger sex should not keep his hands in his pockets, fold them on his chest.
Public places
If you want to meet a lady in a public place (in a store, on the street), remember that this is permissible, but only if you have a good reason for such a step. Few of the fair sex like a pointless "pickup": usually this behavior is considered offensive for girls.
Do not call out to the woman, do not pull on her sleeve. Before you speak, you need to ask permission. Tell us why you want to communicate. A compliment said to the place will also help to make a good impression, however, it should be borne in mind that it should not be associated with vulgarity.
Even if you want to find out everything about a stranger at once, you do not need to start with a question regarding her marital status. Invite the lady to spend a little time with her, try to strike up an easy and casual conversation. If the woman does not want to give her phone number, ask if she would like to be contacted in another way - for example, through social networks.
Remember the main rule: you can not impose if the girl does not want to communicate.
Additional recommendations
There are many good manners, but it should be remembered that naturalness also plays an important role. Do not strain yourself trying to comply with ethical standards of behavior: behave as freely as possible. This way you can win people over to you. It may seem to some that the rules of good taste and naturalness are incompatible, but this is not so. You just need to remember them, learn to use them, and then everything will work out by itself.
Remember that even the simplest rules will help you win a place in society and win the heart of a lady. Real gentlemen who know what culture and good manners are are rare today, but they continue to be highly valued.
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