What wedding is celebrated after 80 years of marriage?
Unfortunately, in this age of consumerism, marriage has become less important. For the desire to earn or accumulate capital, to have absolutely all the benefits and innovations of advanced technologies, we forget about the feelings of loved ones, we neglect them. Divorce in our hectic time has become something common and familiar. However, there are still people of the old school who still value their loved ones. Probably, this is the last generation that celebrates such big anniversaries as 50 years of marriage, 60, 70 and even 80.
The 80th anniversary of the wedding is especially impressive, because it is a lifetime. Today we need to take an example from such people, we need to strive for such feelings. From the article you can find out what this anniversary is called, how it is celebrated, and what gifts would be appropriate on such a joyful day.
Symbols and traditions of the date
80 years of marriage is a lifelong figure. It is customary to call such a day an oak wedding, because only true centenarians, strong in health and spirit, are able to live up to such a grand date. Oak is a very persistent plant that is not afraid of storms and hardships, which is why it was chosen to mark this anniversary. Oak trees are known, the century of which is 300 and more years old. Such a strong tree has already survived many blows of nature, periods of bad weather and sunny days. So the union, which is already 80 years old, has withstood many everyday troubles and has only become stronger.
Such an anniversary is rare, because by this date the spouses are already about a hundred years old. Like everything rare, this date is shrouded in mystical traditions. For example, it is customary to memorize all dreams that are dreamed on the eve of this date. They say that dreams on this night are prophetic. The best sign is to see an oak tree in a dream, and in any manifestation or condition.A strong old tree promises a husband and wife a long life, a young one means health and happiness in the family of spouses and their loved ones, a broken oak tree or its branch promises many pleasant surprises and gifts, and acorns dream of financial profit.
On this day, it is customary to plant an oak in the yard. In connection with this tradition, there are also interesting signs. For example, if a seedling has begun, this means that the spouses will have many more years of living together, but if the sprout has dried up, this is a bad omen, you need to be prepared for trouble. On this day, together with their parents, they can plant oaks and all their married and married children and grandchildren, these seedlings will become a symbol of the desire for a long life together, will help support young spouses and their relationships.
On the day of the oak anniversary, it is important to purchase at least one piece of oak furniture for your home. According to legend, such furniture will fill the house with comfort, and the owners - with health, attract guests to the house and fill it with the roar of voices of loved ones.
How to celebrate?
Celebrating such a significant anniversary is a very delicate matter. You need to treat him with sensitivity and caution, weigh the pros and cons. The first thing to consider is the state of health of the heroes of the day. Only on this basis can you plan a magnificent celebration, a quiet family dinner or a humble congratulation one by one.
Do not forget about the mood of the "oak newlyweds". They almost certainly have their own opinion, their own view of what this holiday should be like. If the heroes of the day want a magnificent family celebration, then the closest people - children and grandchildren - should be involved in organizing it. It is worth asking the spouses what they expect from the holiday, taking into account all their wishes and ideas. Moreover, even such a celebration should not bore the elderly, so you should not make it too pompous and protracted.
The theatrical action will look very original, which will show the history of the couple from their childhood or acquaintance to the present time. Absolutely all descendants of a couple (from the smallest to the oldest) can take part in this performance. Great-grandchildren can show episodes from the childhood of the oak spouses, grandchildren can portray acquaintance and youth, children - mature years, and the heroes of the day will become the final part of the performance. A little creativity and imagination - and the story of life will become a beautiful performance.
A modest holiday can be arranged in a warm family circle. It will be useful to look at family photos, remember some funny moments, family adventures. For such a holiday, you can prepare several collages or a video sequence from your favorite photos of the heroes of the day.
The main thing on such an important day is to give the elderly spouses joy, to inspire them to a happy continuation of their life together. Often, gentle words and attention from loved ones are enough for this. We can say with confidence that the best gift on this day will be the love and care of relatives.
What to give?
Given the longevity of the "oak" heroes of the day, most likely, they do not need much - as a rule, old people have everything they need for a comfortable life. On this day, you need to give pleasant little things that will please the heroes of the day. According to tradition, these should be things made of oak wood or containing it, but recently this custom is considered by many to be slightly outdated, therefore they give what they consider necessary, attaching some kind of oak trifle to it.
On the day of this anniversary, the heroes of the day will be very pleased to see the results of their life path. To do this, you can give them a beautiful, branchy family tree. You can draw such a tree yourself and decorate it with photographs of family members, or you can order its creation by an experienced designer who will take into account the preferences and tastes of the family. Modern technologies allow you to print such a designer gift not only on paper, but also on canvas, fabric, dishes, to create overlays on furniture or a warm blanket from it.
Since olden times, on the day of the eightieth wedding anniversary, it has been customary to bring even more comfort into the life of spouses. On such a day, rocking chairs are given, it is still relevant today. Such a chair will not only give a comfortable rest to the elderly, but can also make their life much easier if they have diseases of muscle or bone tissue, accompanied by regular pain.
Such gifts as paintings, photos in beautiful frames, souvenirs made of oak wood, any oak furniture and kitchen utensils are also relevant on this day. When choosing a gift, it is important to try to guess whether it will bring pleasure to people who already have everything, because the main thing for them is strong love and family warmth.
You can learn how to properly organize a holiday for your parents in such an anniversary year from the following video.