Who, according to statistics, cheats more often: men or women?

In society, they often discuss male infidelity, savor their details, sometimes present a man as a real hero, while female infidelity is not the most popular topic for discussion. A woman who has cheated on her husband is condemned by society, and these facts themselves rarely become the property of the people. And therefore the question involuntarily arises - who cheats on partners more often: men or women?

Do not think that cheaters are mostly men. Women also do not remain in debt. This is the conclusion reached by the experts of the Daily Telegraph, who denied all the facts of statistics. They published their own data obtained through a large-scale anonymous poll. Their results showed that 2 out of 5 women at least once cheated on their husbands or chosen ones, while only 3 out of 10 men decided on adultery.

About half of the women who, on condition of anonymity, confessed to cheating, reported that it happened at a party, in a club. A quarter admitted that they had (have) an affair with a work colleague, a third admitted that signs of attention from strangers put them in an enthusiastic and playful mood, and 10% of unfaithful wives said that this is their life principle, which is that that life is not worth wasting on monogamy.

Previously, it was believed that mostly self-sufficient, working and wealthy women cheat. But the latest data from sociologists suggest that female infidelity does not know such a thing as wealth or social status - housewives cheat no less often than business women. Up to 90% of cheaters admitted that having sex on the side helps them get rid of negative emotional stress.

What kind of women are prone to cheating on their husbands.

A lady, entering into marriage, had her own ideas about a man, built her expectations and illusions. Family life put everything in its place, and the husband turned out to be by no means such a prince, as it seemed in the registry office. A woman who considers herself deceived is subconsciously ready to replace her partner. At the same time, she does not always strive to destroy the marriage, because the husband can be a very convenient and comfortable partner for living together.

If feelings for a spouse are lost, and there is not enough courage to break off a relationship, or there are other reasons to stay married, the need for tenderness, love experiences, and disclosure of one's sexuality still persist. In this case, adultery often becomes a salvation for the female psyche, and often everything ends in a whirlwind romance on the side and the collapse of the existing marriage.

Especially if their educational level is higher than that of their partner. Sooner or later, a split is outlined in such a pair - there is nothing to talk about. A woman strives for personal growth, and her less educated partner only laughs at her, does not approve of her aspirations. The lover who will support personal growth and development becomes not so much a sexual partner as a real friend. Sex is attached to such adultery on secondary grounds.

A woman whose time is not scheduled every hour has more time for dating (including on the Internet), for flirting on the side.

The former are still too frivolous, the latter are already wise enough and have taken a little of each of the previous points - they are educated, disappointed, a little bored of the routine and moderately tired.

These are, as a rule, women who have seen how the mother changes partners, justifying girlfriends, who are easily addicted to and change men, as well as women who had a rich sexual experience before marriage.

Women usually do not commit adultery even for the sake of sex. They want to be desired, loved, want to be admired, without getting it in the family. They want quivering and passionate feelings, a rich emotional experience, understanding, communication, they want to catch their every word, to appreciate them.

Men are by nature polygamous. Therefore, in principle, it is not worth demanding that a man dream and dream in reality a single woman. However, there is not only a natural desire to have a large number of women, but also upbringing, religion, principles, personal character traits. And they are the deterrent factor. Psychologists distinguish several main types of men, in whom the influence of external factors is not so strong, and therefore they have cheating more often.

Outwardly, a man is like a man, but in his soul he remains an eternal child, at best a teenager. He is fond of games, is not averse to devoting his free time to friends, he often goes in for extreme sports and he has a rather respectful attitude towards his wife - like a mother. The more the wife, taking into account the infantilism of the spouse, puts prohibitions, the more this thirty or forty-year-old "teenager" rebelles and is not averse to finding a girlfriend by interests on the side. But such men are in no hurry to break up a marriage.

This category includes men over 40 years old who got married quite early and did not have time to experience all the delights of life before marriage. By the age of 40, the understanding comes that if not now, then hardly ever. They sincerely believe that the wife will not go anywhere, and therefore light flirting on the side is quite acceptable. He does not devote his wife to secrets - he protects her and his nerves.

Such a man has only one real passion - the passion of adventure. He does not know how to live calmly and measuredly, he definitely needs to find himself an adventure and tickle his nerves. His motto is "Not a day without adrenaline!" He may be a good husband, but family life quickly gets boring, it becomes insipid for him. He needs treason as a cure for boredom. With all this, he does not look for easy ways and often starts very risky romances - for example, with a friend of his wife or the wife of his friend, so that it is more dangerous and exciting.

Such men have a wife in order to officially show everyone that he is the owner, the winner, but he in no way depends on his wife. Moreover, she is his property, and therefore such men, with new victories on the love front, do not hide this from their friends and do not even disguise themselves too much in front of their lawful wife. In principle, they see nothing wrong with their behavior. But betrayal on the part of the spouse will never accept or tolerate.

Usually the marriage of such a man has long existed only out of habit or coincidence. There is no passion and love, a wife is not desired. But divorce is troublesome, and sometimes unprofitable both for him and for his wife. Therefore, people live, but it is very difficult to call it a family. Such a man brightens up the sadness of gray everyday life with adultery. A man may even have more than one mistress, he does not feel guilt towards his wife, and therefore does not disguise himself much, the wife guesses a lot, but prefers to remain silent.

Such men are tormented by doubts. The wife is good, but what if there are better women on the side? He checks, goes over, but he is too cowardly to declare this as his right, and therefore he lies and gets out. In his heart, he hopes that his wife will one day fail and leave herself.

Such men are usually married to very authoritarian and domineering women who even manage to make sex a tool for controlling a spouse - it still needs to be earned. Cheating for them is only the satisfaction of their sexual desires, relaxation. They usually do not leave the family.

The statistics of infidelity in Russia is quite curious, and it may interest both the stronger sex and beautiful ladies:

• about 62% of men who are unfaithful to their wives prefer to meet on the side with married women, only 10% of married men risk having relationships with single girls;
• female infidelities are more constant - up to 45% of women in marriage have a permanent lover and are not inclined to change him for another, and only 19% of male cheaters can boast of the same constancy;
• up to 75% of men and up to 24% of women systematically cheat on their wives and husbands, or at least once cheated on them;
• dissatisfaction with sexual life becomes the reason for divorce in 9% of men and 13% of women;
• the desire to experience new acute feelings is inherent in 14% of men and 7% of women;
• true new love - 7% of men and more than 25% of women;

• increasing their self-esteem, desire to assert themselves - 14% of men and only 4% of women;
• long separation, forced separation becomes the cause of infidelity for 12% of men and 8% of women;
• from boredom and routine, 3% of men and 7% of women "run away" into new relationships;
• accidental betrayal is obtained (under the influence of alcohol, at a party, corporate event, etc.) in 14% of men and 7% of women;
• cheating in revenge on an unfaithful partner is mainly a female reaction: 11% of women do this and only 0.5% of men;
• most often, 30% of men and almost the same number of women cheat with colleagues at work;
• at the resort, women cheat more often - 34% of cheaters answered so, while only 19% of men allowed themselves adultery on vacation;
• with neighbors and friends close to the family, up to 10% of women and about 5% of men are cheating.

If we rely on statistics, then men are more likely to cheat, but girls do not stand aside either. Everyone is capable of treason, because the circumstances that can push this can be very different.

It is also important what the couple means by the concept of treason. From the point of view of psychologists, there is no bodily or moral betrayal - there are no semitones. From the moment when one of the partners admits for himself the thoughts of a possible relationship with someone on the side, he already becomes a cheater. And such thoughts, even in happy marriages, can occur to partners. This does not mean that they will rush to change. Do not forget about personal experience, character of the person, his upbringing and beliefs.

But in families where understanding, mutual assistance, trust reigns, where the spouses have common interests and are able to communicate with each other on any topic, betrayal happens much less often. Everything is important - the quantity and quality of sex, the presence of common children, common hobbies, a way to spend a joint weekend, family traditions and small signs of attention to each other.

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