What if the husband cheated on his wife with her friend?

Cheating on a husband with a friend is always a terrible mental trauma for a deceived wife, especially if all the time the woman is married, she was confident that her husband was incapable of such an act. And even more so with the one who enters the house and who was entrusted with the most intimate secrets.

Sometimes the reason one woman has an affair with another husband she knows well is jealousy. The husband of a friend seems more successful and attractive against the background of his own, familiar, to which many complaints have often accumulated over the years of living together.

If the traitor is not married, she has even more reasons to encroach on someone else's. Even if she earns a lot, dresses better and is able to afford what her married friend does not even dream of, it is this usual family well-being that can be the envy of. And if there is a chance to prove to herself that in love she can also be no worse than others, it turns out to be impossible to avoid the temptation to fool someone else's husband.

Much more twisted love triangle intrigue occurs when a forbidden love affair becomes revenge. for the former "merits" of a now married friend: you took my boyfriend away from me, now I will take away from you! In addition, a lover - a friend's husband - is very convenient.He will reliably keep a secret about extramarital affairs and is unlikely to start doing stupid things, since by doing so he will substitute not only his mistress, but also himself.

Without interrupting a friendly relationship with a married friend, you can always have access to her house. If your own husband asks where she went, it is convenient to honestly answer where she was, and in the meantime to play a love game, seasoned with the severity of secret relations with someone else's husband.

In addition to the usual everyday reasons, the reason for betrayal sometimes becomes a reaction to prolonged stress, in which a huge number of people are today, or the banal absence of a permanent sexual partner. I wanted to relieve the tension, but then a familiar man turned up, attractive, moreover, with "recommendations" from a close woman.

Men fall into two categories. Some of them are distinguished by their loyalty, despite any problems in the family, while others are able to change at the slightest excuse.

Faced with such betrayal, women invariably ask themselves why the husband cheated on her friend, despite the fact that cheating with a woman they know is perceived much more painfully than with a stranger.

This is explained by the fact that it is much easier for a man to start a relationship with such a girl than with a stranger, with whom you need to get to know, prove her attractiveness, courteous for a long time, and so on. If your wife's friend is quite a pretty, sexy girl, why look for someone else?

The friendship between two women can be different. Some have their origins in childhood, while others begin in adulthood. Be that as it may, if communication between girls is reduced to washing the bones of their husbands or discussing what they don’t need to know, that in itself is a sign of unhealthy family relationships. Ideally, the best friend is your own spouse. With full confidence, there can be no secrets from him.

If a married woman does not completely trust her husband, it is possible that he will look for this trust on the side. A girl who is aware of how the family life of the one who is always within reach is arranged is fully equipped to have an affair with her husband, especially if he does not need to be persuaded to embark on love adventures.

If a man cheated on his wife with her best friend, the question always arises before the deceived woman: to forgive or not. And in relation to her husband. With a friend, everything is usually clear. It is difficult to imagine that it will be possible to maintain any kind of relationship with her after what happened. If the friendship is real, and not just in words, sleeping with a friend's beloved is like going to such a thing with a relative. If the betrayal happened, then there was no friendship.

As for the husband, everything is not so simple here. If the fact of betrayal happened for the first time, you can find the strength to understand the essence of the problem, get to the bottom of the true motives of the spouse's behavior, give him a chance to continue living together.

If it is obvious that a man does not consider himself guilty, he is not interested in how his wife feels and what she thinks about what happened, then the relationship is unlikely to be continued. Moreover, it is not uncommon for a guy to consider walking to the left a completely natural manifestation of the nature of a strong half of humanity. Even if there is no parting, the woman will probably have to endure the fact that her husband is cheating on her in the future.

In case of doubt about what to do if the husband cheated on his girlfriend, experts advise giving yourself time to sort out your feelings. You can move in with your parents or go on vacation, or put the cheater outside the door. So it will be possible to experience what happened less painfully, and after observing the further actions of the revealed lovers, it will be possible to clarify and rethink a lot.

During this time, one can assess what has been wrong until now in family life, and what is the deep reason for what happened. Perhaps the woman who has been cheated has brought trouble upon herself by her own actions. It's never too late to correct mistakes. And if you still have to part with your husband, it is also useful to draw conclusions for the future.

Having experienced such a blow from loved ones, psychologists advise not to withdraw into yourself, but seek consolation from relatives and those in whom there is trust. Sometimes it will not be superfluous to turn to a specialist, since not every woman is able to cope with her feelings in such a situation. There is a risk of developing prolonged depression.

The best way to keep family and friendships together is not to mix one with the other.

• You should not turn the house into a hotel for friends, relatives and acquaintances who have problems.
• With friends, you can discuss anything, just not the difficulties in the family. Details of personal life should remain between husband and wife. Then outsiders will have no reason to act as a comforter. You can comfort you so that someone "will be left with horns."
• It is best to meet with friends outside your own home, and even if you invite them to visit, then when the husband has left or left on business. If the spouse returns, for the girlfriend this should be a signal that the gatherings are over. Now the hostess is busy with other things. This approach has two advantages at once. The husband will not feel unnecessary in his own house and at the same time he will not have the opportunity to look at his wife's friend, involuntarily comparing the external data of the two women.
• The peculiarities of sexual life with a husband should never become the subject of conversation with friends, even if there are problems in this regard. There is a doctor to resolve such issues.

• Do not allow a friend to get to know her husband closely. If you need to solve everyday problems, for this there are "husbands for an hour", movers, plumbers and other specialists who can solve such issues.
• And, of course, no matter how many years pass, it is important to monitor your appearance, develop personally, in order to remain interesting for a loved one, overshadowing all your friends.

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