Male infidelity: causes, statistics and psychology

Some men believe that male infidelity is significantly different from female infidelity. It is supposedly more superficial and should not be taken seriously.

Each woman will answer this question based on her life experience. Some will say that there are men who never cheat, and these are their husbands. Others, on the contrary, will answer that all representatives of the stronger sex are capable of betraying their other half, if certain conditions are met.

Both those and others are absolutely right in their opinions, since each of us is individual in character and outlook on life. What determines the mood of our men for treason?

This question cannot be answered one-sidedly. In many ways, the attitude of a husband to his wife is subject to the behavior of the woman herself. Often there are situations when the same man behaves differently with women of different nature.

All this happens because one of them allows her to change or behaves in such a way that the husband is forced to look to the side. The other, however, keeps her chosen one in "iron grip" or makes it so that he has no desire to look "to the left."

Any ladies' man can be reinforced if we carry out constant work to prevent infidelity. Just like a decent and honest man can commit adultery if his other half does not care about maintaining the relationship.

It must be remembered that marriage is a very difficult job. This is especially true for women.No wonder they say that the fair sex are the keepers of the hearth.

But of all the rules, there is always at least one, but an exception. There are times when a woman is powerless in the face of circumstances.

In such a situation, you should not blame the woman. You need to understand that she got a partner with an unstable mental state. Most likely, this condition was caused by some kind of mental trauma, maybe even a child. That is why a Don Juan man cannot stop at choosing one permanent partner.

The insult inflicted provokes a man to prove to himself every time that he is able to find himself a mate at any time and at any time. He will never be rejected, abandoned and humiliated, since, in his opinion, he is perfect.

Having met such a man and understanding the essence of his nature, do not get upset and try to find flaws in yourself in order to justify the behavior of the rake.

After research, experts say that in most cases men cheat in order to get sexual satisfaction. At the same time, their state of mind is not always "involved" in the process. That is why many people argue that male infidelity does not mean anything.

Women cheat “in all seriousness” and expect the same warm psychological return from their partner. No wonder they say that a woman, cheating on her husband and being in a rented apartment, unconsciously arranges furniture and tries to arrange a cozy family nest.

But in spite of everything, the majority of our contemporaries, almost 51%, do not consider treason to be a reason for divorce. Perhaps this is because more than 70% of men and more than 26% of women have cheated on their other half about once in their lives.

Here are some statistics.

• At work, about 30% change, this number includes both men and women. Usually, such betrayal is a one-time occurrence.
• 14% of both men and women cheat with neighbors.
• While on vacation, women (34%) cheat more often than men (20%).
• In nature or in the country, 30% of betrayals take place, and in apartments where one of the partners lives with his family, 30% of people change.

Thus, we can say that not all inhabitants of our planet are capable of systematic betrayal.

Psychologists argue that there are many prerequisites and factors that provoke a man's mood to cheat. This phenomenon can trigger a midlife crisis. After forty years, some husbands begin to feel that their active sex life is coming to an end.

Moreover, by this time children in many families have become quite adults. They have their own interests and hobbies. Parental concern fades into the background. A man feels that he is not needed by anyone, and this pushes him to find himself as a person in other activities.

The feeling of a ruined nest is the name of this phenomenon. The man is a breadwinner, he is used to hoping for his help and care. The head of the family continues to work and "pull the strap", but does not feel the return and moral satisfaction. He constantly comes across the fact that his son can already create material wealth himself, and his daughter takes care of a completely alien representative of the stronger sex.

Against this background, the man begins to think that much in his life has been missed and not experienced. If such a representative of the stronger sex does not find a way out of this situation, then he may undergo a psychosomatic phenomenon. Psychosomatics will lead to serious illnesses.

Therefore, in order to instinctively save himself from depression, he wants to catch up and reach many heights. What inspires you? Of course, romantic impulses. There is always a response to such impulses. A woman will definitely meet who will share his hobbies and high spirits. In this case, the world will sparkle with new colors.

This is what happens when even the most loving spouse begins to "walk to the left" of his beloved. It turns out that men are unfaithful to their wives, but do not leave the family. Often the spouse is unaware of the fact that the husband has a mistress for a long time.

Situations when the wives themselves are to blame for betrayal of husbands are also found in our society. The reason for this is sexual dissatisfaction or a cold attitude of the wife. To increase his self-esteem, a man, due to lack of attention, will go to look for him "on the side".

There is a small number of representatives of the stronger sex who are initially unable to create a strong family. This phenomenon is influenced by many psychological factors. A certain temperament and selfish attitude that such men have will never help maintain long-term relationships with women.

It must be admitted that such representatives of the stronger sex also live on the planet, which can be attributed to inveterate bachelors. If a man lives alone, this does not mean that he is completely absent from romantic relationships with partners. Usually, such relationships are not advertised, and therefore do not commit to anything.

The negative echoes of the husband's betrayal can be different. When a wife finds out about her husband's betrayal, her self-esteem drops sharply and she becomes depressed. Against this background, the whole family suffers, and especially the children. Then the woman begins to get angry with her husband for his mistakes. And this state does not end well. Negative emotions have not helped anyone yet.

As a result, the offended woman may commit adultery herself in order to take revenge. The destruction of the family will be inevitable here. When the spouses have been married for a long time, the betrayal of one of them will look like "bolt from the blue." Not all women are able to forgive the betrayal of a spouse, and this must be remembered.

The female half of humanity takes revenge in the most sophisticated way. Out of despair, the deceived wife may decide to take revenge. This should never be allowed. Many people, including her own children, can suffer from her rash actions. If a woman breaks the law, she will be held accountable. And this is a tragedy that will cause irreparable damage to everyone.

And another important point that should not be overlooked in a situation with betrayal is the loss of trust. An offended wife will no longer be able to treat her spouse with warmth. At every step she will think that her husband is cheating on her again. And only after some time has passed, her suspicion will subside. But until the state of rest comes, there will be many scandals and troubles in the family.

If the betrayal did happen, then you should not dwell on resentments. It is necessary to live on. Time heals, and your grievances will go away if you yourself want to.

Some men don't even think that cheating is supernatural at all. It comes to the point that some representatives of the stronger sex say: “What am I doing? I have every right to treason. My wife and family don't need anything. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke. Maybe I have at least some flaw? "

It is hard to imagine, but many of them are convinced that they are right and do not believe that they are doing something wrong. Such a representative of the stronger sex will never change his mind. He will walk right and left as long as he has enough strength for it.Yes, it must be added that this type of men rarely leaves the family.

This behavior is inherent in the typical egoist. In life, he wants to try everything at once. He is always in a good mood. But the wife and mistress do not feel very comfortable with such a life partner. True, not all men treat their beloved women as a consumer. Among unfaithful husbands, there are those who experience unbearable mental suffering because they have to dodge and deceive all the time.

He will perfectly understand that he is doing wrong, and from his betrayal, the marriage can be destroyed. Fear and remorse eat away at a man from the inside. But with this he cannot do anything due to the fact that his wife and mistress become dear to him, and each of them in its own way.

If there is a great desire for this, then this phenomenon can be experienced. Take your emotions into circulation and tune in a positive way. Without this attitude, nothing should be done. Then it's better to get a divorce than to do something halfway. So, you decided to keep your family and marriage. Then do the following:

• do not reproach your husband and do not remind you of treason;
• create a cozy atmosphere in the house, prepare different delicacies and arrange joint tea parties;
• often create a romantic atmosphere when you are alone with your spouse;
• visit close friends and show everyone that everything is working out for you;
• you need to disaccustom your husband to look at other women, for this always be there;
• engage in joint sports training;
• more often go with the whole family to nature;
• communicate with close relatives, parents;
• do not involve children in your conflicts - they are still small and will be very worried that mom and dad might get divorced.

All your efforts will not go unnoticed. Gradually, the pain will subside, and at the same time, an optimistic mood will appear. You yourself will not notice how everything will tune in the right way. The main thing is not to get hung up on the problem and do not get depressed.

Believe me, no woman in love will dare to take your husband away from you if she subconsciously feels that she is inferior to you in all aspects of femininity. She will not waste time with your beloved when other men are walking around whose wives look much worse than she is - so lonely and beautiful.

Remember that your eyes should always be painted and your hair should be in perfect condition. As long as you work to preserve your marriage, your appearance should always be flawless.

Do not deny your husband intimacy for no particular reason. Your refusal must be logically justified. At the same time, don't be too intrusive, especially if both of you are already quite mature. Otherwise, your husband will begin to have complexes and worry about the consistency of his masculine strength.

A person himself can create a pleasant atmosphere around himself and his loved ones. It all depends only on you, and you should not constantly think that your husband can change you at any moment. Fight your fears and conquer them.

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