Cheating on her husband: how to behave?

Marriage is a sensitive topic. In the family, all kinds of cases do not happen, but there is nothing surprising in this. People have been together for a long time, and they want new sensations, some are simply seized by the living conditions. Among the rash actions in this situation, treason stands out.

The years go by. A woman at any age always wants to be in the spotlight. Such needs are especially strongly felt by those who think outside the box, look after their appearance and are engaged in self-improvement. Women who are dissolute and addicted to alcohol, of course, do not count here.

In most cases, married women are busy with home and children. None of them are specifically looking for love on the side. It all depends on a chance meeting. And this is how it often happens:

• in a casual man, a woman sees what is lacking in her husband;
• since everyday life does not yet connect, it is fun and interesting for the couple together;
• a relationship is struck - easy at first, but difficult later.

At first, neither woman nor man thinks that they are doing wrong. A whirlwind of feelings swirls and does not stop. Ultimately, there comes a moment when someone from friends or colleagues finds out about this connection.

As the proverb says, "you can't hide an sewn in a sack." At first, whisperings are heard behind the back. Then there are "kind people" who gladly tell their spouse about your betrayal.

A grandiose scandal is coming, after which the husband will not leave the house, but will kick you out the door. Another option: he will leave by loudly slamming the door.There is another option: he will be very offended, he will frighten with divorce, but after your repentance he will forgive for the sake of his family and children. Then reconciliation of the spouses will come, and, perhaps, the relationship will sparkle with new colors.

So, the husband filed for divorce. How to behave further if your conscience torments you? How to get my husband back? First, there is no need to despair. The next day, no one will divorce you, but as long as there is time, you can find a way out of any situation. Secondly, you need to “withdraw into yourself” and analyze the situation. And ask yourself the question: "How to live further?"

Don't expect your life to be the same, even if your husband forgives you. Be prepared for her to change dramatically. You will have to correct your mistakes day after day. Tolerate reproaches, humiliation and even insults. Not everyone can handle it. It may happen that you yourself want to leave the family hearth.

Each of us has our own character. Some people have it soft, while others have it harder than a stone. Not every man can forgive his wife for exchanging him for another.

Women who have been caught cheating claim that their spouses then became simply unrecognizable. For male insulted dignity, they paid their unfaithful half with a cruel attitude.

Insults and beatings happened almost daily. Not everyone can stand it. Repentant women are ready to do anything to regain trust, even endure humiliation and violence. In this case, they are difficult to understand.

Professional advice from a psychologist will certainly help bring love back to your family or ease the transition period until you feel better. But unfortunately, not every woman of the fair sex can afford it. The money issue, the choice of a good specialist and other points play an important role here. But the tips below will help or instill a little confidence in you. Analyze each point and you will definitely come to the right decision.

• Think about the question: "Is it worth continuing the relationship with your ex-lover?" Perhaps it was a simple affair that meant nothing to him or to you. And you just now realized how you really love your husband.
• Your husband kicked you out of the house with a scandal, and you were offended. After that, they decided to go live with their lover. Consider: were your meetings based on serious feelings? Perhaps this, in fact, a strange man will also show the door soon. Maybe he never intended to marry you. He has a beloved wife and children who have forgiven him for a long time (women in such situations forgive more often). You should not harbor empty illusions. Despite the offense, do everything to return to the family.
• You had such "unearthly love" on the side. You really want to stay with your new chosen one. Does he want the same? To find out, talk to your friend about it.
• A man who wants to marry you will be the first to propose marriage. If he has not done this before, then you should not count on his support now. Offers of "hand and heart" from such a superficial friend, you most likely will not wait. Return home to your family.

So you decided to return to your husband. Then you shouldn't postpone your actions. Ask for a meeting or offer to have a serious conversation at a convenient time for both. Usually a woman regrets very much that she has betrayed. Therefore, sincere tears and repentance may not immediately, but then melt the heart of a jealous person.

Often, women begin to reproach their husband for the fact that he devoted little time to his family, disappeared at work. And so there was treason. Try to avoid harsh words and reproaches addressed to him. On the contrary, repent and ask for forgiveness. Think about children and the need to live for them. They need a full-fledged family. Usually such arguments have some success.

If we are talking about a betrayal that has been for a long time, it is better not to admit it at all. But if you have nowhere to go, then remember: your husband is also very worried and does not want to break with you. Try to be persuasive. Give him a lot of arguments, for example, such as: “Let's get divorced, and what's next? Can you find another one? And if the other changes, will you go from one to the other? What about the children? Parents? Credit? Apartment? A car?". Many spouses have something to lose, and such "iron" arguments convince them not to get divorced.

The situation is difficult, and manipulative questions can save a family. The main thing after that is to improve relations and win the husband's trust again.

The husband, nevertheless, forgave you. This does not mean that tomorrow he will give flowers and talk to you as if nothing had happened. Most likely, his attitude towards you will be "cold". Do not expect ardent hugs and confessions from him in the near future.

Love can be returned only through perseverance and patience on the part of a woman. You need to clearly formulate one desire for yourself: "I do not want to lose my family." Strictly go to him. And these recommendations will help smooth out the crack in the relationship.

• Try to avoid cheating jokes. Do not focus on anecdotes, films where the plot is based on betrayal of spouses.
• Don't provoke scandals. Don't cling to it for little things. Do not shout at your children in front of your spouse and his parents. On the contrary, try to make everyone reach out to you. Create an atmosphere of warmth.
• Do not be humiliated, and at the same time, try to please your husband and children. For example, prepare a delicious breakfast and invite everyone to the table. This technique will bring you all closer together.
• Go on vacation with the whole family. There you will be distracted from the problems. This will help develop romantic relationships.
• Start saving money to buy a car or a summer house. Common aspirations of people unite.
• Communicate more with each other. Take advice on the little things. For example, discuss together how you will organize your upcoming holiday feast.
• Finally start knitting a sweater for him in the evenings. This will show your husband that you are no longer interested in side affairs. You are busy with household chores.

There are many ways. Choose the one that resonates with your soul. The feeling test period can last for years. All this time, keep yourself in control, demonstrate your devotion to your husband. In spite of everything, you are together and happy - you can cope with such a task, and many families are proof of this. Everything is possible in life, but hope dies last.

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