Cheating wife: reasons and ways to overcome the situation

Women cheat on their husbands a little less often than representatives of the stronger sex. But the consequences of a wife's betrayal are always very painful. Men, by their nature, treat this phenomenon as if the end of the world had come. And then the mental anguish begins: to divorce or stay.

So the wife cheated on her husband. Why is this happening - it is difficult to answer this question right away without understanding each situation separately. At the very beginning, it should be noted that a woman almost always cheats for a reason. Representatives of the weaker sex never cheat on their husbands if those are worthy partners who need not only love, but also respect. If a respectable mother and wife took such a step, it means that she had very good reasons for this.

• The wife harbored a grudge against her husband for any serious reason. Maybe he once raised a hand against her, or publicly humiliated her. After that, time passed, and the pain also passed, the resentment subsided, but did not disappear at all, but only dulled. And here, on her way, she meets another person who can kindle a fire in her heart. First, a light flirtation begins, and then a feeling of revenge will emerge. Emotions and mood elevation in this case are quickly intertwined, and the result of all this is betrayal.
• Cheating can happen against the background of a meeting with a former lover. They had not seen each other for a long time, but somewhere in the depths of their souls they always remembered what happened between them. A bright outburst of emotions, a quarrel with your husband or a good mood will play a role and push both to cheat.
• Love meetings with a colleague are quite common. For most people, work is a second family.Against the background of gray everyday life, light flirting seems to be innocent entertainment. In the team, everyone knows each other well, they celebrate holidays together. In common feasts with music and alcohol, all employees come together. The line is erased, and permissiveness appears. The wife can succumb to the temptation of the moment and make a mistake.
• Men often complain that their wife has betrayed them, without thinking that their incorrect behavior could become the reason for treason. Husbands very often forget to pay compliments, give flowers to their wives, and look at their dear friend with a “blurry gaze”. In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, they often insult and humiliate their soul mate. So why be surprised if the wife at one point looks to the side. She will look and, quite possibly, find support there for herself. Undoubtedly, the new friend will appreciate the merits. As a result, the family will break up.

• Women with a strong character are looking for a partner who can tame their temper. This condition will be fulfilled only by a brave and patient representative of the stronger sex. If the husband does not meet the requirements, then the wife will start looking for a worthy pair on the side. And such a person will definitely find a friend for herself, since she has a purposeful character. In this case, a man needs to work on himself, improve himself, otherwise betrayal will follow, and not even one.
• The female psyche is very vulnerable. As a result of family strife, the wife may say hurtful words. To reproach, and in most cases rightly, that her betrothed lies on the couch and does not help her with the housework. The husband should not respond to them with aggression. Just fulfill the request of the wife. If the misunderstanding continues, then, perhaps, a woman will look at those men who are more economic and have good earnings out of despair.
• It is very difficult to love someone who is addicted to alcohol. A drunken husband is a woman's misfortune. With this you will not go out into people, he will turn any fun feast into a negative. Therefore, it is not surprising if his wife looks to the side all the time. It can be understood: a woman is tired of being a laughing stock in the eyes of others. There is no need to talk about children. Do not be surprised if one day the wife changes her husband - an alcoholic to a teetotaler.
• A tyrant husband is another problem for a woman. A man harasses his life partner on every occasion, since he sincerely believes that his wife is to blame for all troubles. Thus, he covers up his insolvency: he cannot make a career or does not earn enough money. The reasons may vary. Of course, a woman will get tired of this attitude towards herself, and she will try to find a reliable and wealthy person.

Of course, there is no excuse for cheating. Many of the stronger sex sincerely believe that this is a very vile act. And all the excuses that the husband himself is to blame for being cheated on do not sound very convincing. Yes, this is so, but only for those who, indeed, became the victim of an unfaithful woman.

But life is very multifaceted. You cannot condemn this or that event one-sidedly. All our actions have consequences. And if something happened, then it was not an accident. You need to keep this in mind before judging and making decisions that might harm you. You need to analyze every moment and try to find an explanation.

It is very difficult to survive the betrayal of your wife, just as difficult as stepping on your throat. Resentment stifles and torments. These feelings do not allow to live and breathe normally. The spirit of the hunter, which is inherent in men, only enhances the experience.

No one will blame you if, after a friend's betrayal, you pack up your things and leave her in all four directions. This will be your choice. In this case, it remains only to add that you did not have much love and affection for the woman who cheated. Nothing binds you, and the breakup will not be a special problem that can cause depression for a long time.

What if you don't want to part with a woman who has become the closest person on earth? What if the spouses have been married for more than one decade and "have eaten together more than one pound of salt?" If such a couple has a strong joint household, have children and even grandchildren, an established way of life and joint habits? What if you don't want to lose all this because of resentment and betrayal?

To cope with the problem will help contacting a private psychologist. However, not all men are ready to take such a step and tell a stranger about their specific situation. In this case, some guidelines may help.

• If parting with your wife is like death for you, do not let her go and forgive. But first, talk to her about why she took such an unseemly step. Perhaps you will hear such arguments that you yourself will want to, if not change yourself, then radically change yourself, and become a completely different person.
• You are tormented by thoughts of the upcoming breakup, but in order not to fall into a final depression, return yourself to peace. Only you yourself can help yourself with this. Sit down and sit in silence. Think about what will follow the divorce decision. Perhaps you will regret it all your life. Draw conclusions and try to forgive your woman.
• Remember that you are a man and are responsible not only for yourself, but also for your wife and children. There is no need to shift the blame only to the woman. Think about your mistakes and mistakes. So you can analyze the situation and find out why the betrayal occurred. Do not deny your guilt. As a result of reflection, you yourself will find the answer to the question: "Is it worth getting a divorce?"
• Don't make a hasty decision to divorce. First, imagine the consequences of this painful step. Having lost your usual way of life, you can buy in return a feverish search for a new companion, who, quite possibly, will not be able to give you that family happiness that your wife gave you.
• Learn to forgive. Especially if you consider yourself a real man and love your wife. Let your rival envy you and enjoy keeping your family alive.

When you have been hurt, the first action you want to take is revenge. Taking revenge on a loved one is not a good way to calm your pain. Therefore, it is worth thinking a hundred times before making such a not very prudent decision.

Family relationships are the most tangled tangle that only an experienced specialist can unwind. But if you are a self-sufficient man, you can help yourself. To do this, you can try in practice some of the advice of experts.

• Resentment from his wife's betrayal throbs. Different thoughts come into my head. So you want to punish your opponent. As much as you would like it, hold on with all your might, do not spoil your nerves. Think about the consequences. They can be quite deplorable. Due to rash actions, you can lose your reputation or get a real deadline.
• No need to take it out on your wife. She already suffers from remorse and from the fear of losing her family. If you care, then try not to offend your spouse with the last words. If you are very upset and don't want to see her yet, just don't talk to her for a while.
• Do not humiliate yourself in front of your wifeif she is going to leave you for her lover. You will not achieve anything by this. If she cheated on you, it means that you did something wrong all the time. Maybe they were too rude to her and the children, maybe they did not pay attention to the problems of the family. Let your significant other think which way to move, and when she understands this, then you can return her to the family.
• Get away from the worst mistake, which some "hot" men resort to. These are threats to harm yourself and the whole family very much. After such "arguments" the wife will not only not return to you, but will also be afraid for herself and for the children. Then you will lose her forever.
• The argument to take away children and deprive a spouse of parental rights not only does nothing.but it will also make your attempt null and void. The most precious thing for a woman is her children. The threat of their withdrawal causes not fear, but anger. This will be tantamount to trying to take her offspring from the lioness. It will tear and bite. You will not be able to achieve something, and you will never return your wife and children. Moreover, the spouse will do everything to protect you from communication with your little ones.

• Going around and spreading rumors about a lecherous wife is also not worth it. By these actions, you defame not only your soul mate, but also yourself and your children. Nobody needs superfluous gossip and ridicule behind their backs. And if you make up soon, it will be difficult to look others in the eye.
• You should not involve your wife's friends in solving your problem. Don't ask one of them for help. Women are unpredictable and envious people. It is not a fact that your old friend will be sincerely happy about your early reconciliation. Maybe, on the contrary, out of harm, she will tell you various fables, after which you will immediately file for divorce. Don't trust strangers. You can be deceived, and you will commit rash actions. Then after a while the truth will come out, and you will greatly regret the breakup.
• And one more piece of advice. Do not solve problems by hitting spree and drunkenness. This will definitely not achieve anything, but only harm yourself. Health will deteriorate, you will lose a good reputation. Only people who are very weak in character go this way. Don't be like them. Be stronger and smarter.
• Don't drag your children into adult conflict. May they have a fulfilling childhood. What happened between you and your spouse should not concern them. They love both of you. The details of the scandalous situation that your children will know can cause psychological trauma.
• You do not need to strive to change yourself in order to avenge your wife's betrayal. The other woman will receive hope for your relationship with her, and the wife will be worried and jealous. As a result, you will punish both at once. This will not make it easier for anyone. And if the children also find out about it, then it will be even more difficult to restore the family. Such actions can completely spoil all attempts at reconciliation.

When it comes directly to your future fate and the fate of your children, it is worth thinking a hundred times before going to break with your loved one. Love and long-term affection for each other cannot go away in one day. And if you are determined to restore the relationship, then give a chance to reanimate them. We must try to live on fully and with joy, forget about the insults inflicted on each other and come to terms with what happened. By tormenting yourself, you will not change anything, but only hurt yourself, your wife and children.

If you have not left the family after infidelity, but are still thinking about what to do, then remember about your children. Some families have two children, and some have more. How will they react to your divorce from your wife? And if they are of a transitional age? Adults should be the last to think about themselves if they have children. Their well-being is the main reason that should lead to your and your wife's reconciliation.

But if it turned out that the wife also got pregnant from her lover, then it's up to you to decide. Counselors won't help. You can only offer to leave the child and subsequently adopt. Yes, it is difficult and difficult, but if you really do not want to lose your soul mate, then accept her child.After all, children are happiness, and may everyone around you admire your generosity. Let them think what they want, and you, despite all the circumstances, remained together and happy.

While a person is young, it seems to him that everything can be changed overnight. But life passes quickly, and there come such moments when you want to see your family and friends next to you. And if you forgive your wife for treason, then she will surely repay you with gratitude. Whoever did a lot of stupid things in his youth, and then was very worried about this, will no longer make mistakes.

Remember that a woman greatly regrets after cheating on her husband. She is afraid that life after this event will no longer be the same and at the same time does not want to break off relations with her husband. She thinks all the time: "How could I commit such a shameful act?" Such a state can then let go, then come back with renewed vigor. Even a year after the betrayal, the husband and wife cannot recover from their trauma. How to be such a spouse, and how to get out of depression, will suggest some advice from a psychologist.

A man who has forgiven, but has not forgotten the offense, must remember that nothing should be done in half. Therefore, if you have forgiven, then you have forgotten. And some interesting hobby will help to forget. For example, fishing. There is no mood, but there is free time, take your mind off the problems.

• Go to the river, catch fish. The wife will be delighted with this outcome of the case and praise, and the thought that you are a breadwinner will raise self-esteem. Cook the fish soup and sit together at the table. It will bring you closer and calm you.
• Passion for music also helps to normalize mood. Invite your wife to listen to a classic together and have green tea with raspberry jam. The mood will improve from a healthy drink and spending time together.
• Talk to your doctor about prescribing an anti-anxiety medication while you are trying to maintain a relationship with your wife.
• Do not discuss with your spouse problematic topics that can provoke a conflict situation. Postpone these conversations for a better time.
• Start renovating your apartment. Get your wife involved in this process. Joint workload will unite you, bad thoughts will go away, and so the mood will rise.
• If you have your own home or summer cottage, start building a garage or playground. So you will be busy all the time, and thoughts about the construction site will block your obsessive thoughts about the betrayal of a loved one.

• Offer your wife and kids a nature trip together. If it's cold, dress warmly and grab a hot thermos filled with brewed herbs. Move around there to the music, play with the children. You yourself will see how your relationship will turn into positive dynamics.
• Get in the habit of having Sunday get-togethers with your kids. Invite very close friends (only those you trust). Share the recipes you cook together.
• Ignore the barbs behind your back. Evil people are not happy with the happiness of others. It is possible that they envy you. And the opinions of such "friends" should not interest you.
• To find peace of mind, plunge into everyday family life. Enjoy every day you spend together. Celebrate even the smallest events. For example, getting the daughter of an A in mathematics. So you yourself will understand that your ambitions are not worth spoiling the mood for yourself and your loved ones.
• Buy a puppy or kitten home. Children will be very happy, and common joy unites.