People hate me: reasons and how to get rid of the problem

Many people often face self-loathing. Moreover, at first glance, it looks groundless and stupid. In such situations, some are lost and do not know how to deal with such an attack in their direction. How to respond to this manifestation? How not to make the mistake of choosing a response? It is difficult to answer these questions straight away. Therefore, let's try to analyze the situation in more detail.

To begin with, hatred (and hostility) is a feeling that has a negative connotation. It is destructive and manifests itself very intensely. Hostility is multifaceted and can be related to:

• to a group of people;
• to a specific person;
• to various objects or phenomena.

This feeling can be caused either by the object (s) itself, or by its manifestations, or by its qualities... For example, people may hate the weather, which affects their overall health. You can also hate an event (phenomenon) that had a negative impact on your life. Also, an individual person can hate any other person if a certain reason arises.

Note: hatred can arise in a person even for himself. In this case, he quickly develops a very strong depression. Intolerance often arises in some individuals due to external pretexts for conflict.

A detailed examination of the causes of hatred will help to find and understand the sources of hatred.

• In the first place, hostility can cause such a bad feeling as envy. If it occurs, then the person, willingly or unwillingly, is trying to hurt his opponent. For example, an unsuccessful subject experiences hostility towards his more successful friend because of his luck in business. Therefore, he tries to harm him in every possible way: spreads impartial rumors about him, gets angry, etc. As a result of his bilious activity, he spoils the life of the person he hates.
• Competitors often have hostile feelings towards each other. For example, the leaders of two factories that produce the same product are likely to have bad feelings towards each other. They are potentially competing for their spheres of interest and sales market. Hence the conflict.
• Life is so arranged that it has both friends and enemies.... So, in relation to enemies, people have always experienced and will experience hatred. In this conflict, very large groups of people are usually involved, where the participants in negative events are divided into "us" and "strangers."
• We all consider ourselves to be kind and compassionate people. And yet, we cannot always reach a compromise with other individuals when our personal interests are affected. It turns out that hatred arises when we cross the line that separates our compassion from our personal interests.
• Hatred also arises when we stop seeing good qualities in our opponent.... This phenomenon occurs as a result of a conflict.
• Our prejudices can also cause hatred towards something or someone. For example, some people hate black cats that run across their path.
• When facts are distorted, then hatred also arises. For example, a friend told you that a certain person did a bad thing. After receiving this information, you developed a hostile feeling towards a subject that you have never even seen.
• When a person really wants to please another person, but he does not succeed in this, in this case, hostility may arise. Moreover, it can arise from both sides. One side will begin to feel hatred because the goal has not been achieved, and the other side will be frustrated because of the overly intrusive actions of the other side.

Before proceeding to consider this issue, it should be noted that the hatred of one person for another may not be entirely adequate. And if you are hated, then it is quite possible that you are not at all to blame for this. Most likely, this feeling is caused by the insanity of the person who hates you. It is imperative to fight this manifestation. First, you just need to try to mend the relationship. Take such a step not for the peace of mind of the person who hates you, but for the sake of your peace of mind. If you succeed, then first of all it will become easier for you to live.

For example, if a neighbor is hostile to you, try to talk to her and find out the reason for this attitude. If her claims are grounded and you are guilty of something, then correct the situation. Then start chatting with your neighbor and talking on different topics. Also, ask her to speak up directly to her concerns next time and not harbor anger. So everyone will be happy. It's another matter if your girlfriend hates you, and you don't even know about it. Sooner or later, this conflict may become irreversible. Therefore, try to pay attention to the little things that worry you. For example, your close friend constantly makes fun of you in front of strangers. By such actions, she is trying to assert herself at your expense. It is possible that a close friend is simply jealous of you.She cannot come to terms with the fact that you cook her much better, you look young and men love you.

There are other cases that involve justified or unfounded hatred. Each of them requires separate consideration. Often, hostility towards someone is observed where certain groups of people gather: at school, at work, etc. In this case, hatred can be latent and protracted. To avoid catastrophic negative consequences for yourself personally, try to find a compromise with each warring subject. If you make a destructive decision, you will go the wrong way, and then all parties to the conflict will remain offended at each other. To choose the right path, you need to read the following information.

In this case, the hostility of some individuals to others is not as rare as it might seem at first glance. Often the cause of enmity is inequality in relationships. Some of the participants in the conflict consider themselves to be much higher than other people. When disagreements occur between students, the reason may be some kind of rivalry, hostility, fear of loss of authority or unrequited love, etc. Therefore, later classmates may feel hatred for each other.

All of the above conflicts must be resolved in a constructive manner. And for this, it is necessary that teachers or mentors must notice the growing aggression and be able to find a way out of this situation. The best option would be to carefully intervene in a conflict situation, without pressure on the participants. When the conflict is resolved in the right way, you need to continue the dialogue. If a child (or a young man) very often shows aggression, then try to direct his bad energy in the right direction. For example, recommend doing sports or enrolling in a hobby group.

When there is a conflict between the teacher and the student's parents, then the situation becomes more complicated. Contentions arise for a variety of reasons, such as:

• people look at education differently;
• personal dislike has arisen;
• the teacher underestimates the grades.

Such actions need to be taken by both the teacher and the student's parents. If one of the parties considers itself to be right and can give justification for its innocence, then it should not give up its position, despite the arguments of the opponent. For example, a teacher in a class treats one part of the students very well. Forgives them unlearned lessons and overestimates. The same teacher is very strict with other children and simply underestimates their grades because of personal hostility. If such a problem is identified, it is necessary to take action and seek help from the director of the educational institution.

Quarrels are common between teachers and students. The reasons may be as follows:

• underestimation of the student by the teacher;
• too exaggerated requirements of a teacher or student to the learning process;
• personal shortcomings of both the student and the teacher.

If a conflict has arisen and hostility has arisen, then the teacher is simply obliged to be the first to take any action. In a quarrel between a teacher and a student, the teacher is not always to blame. However, the parents of the child will sooner or later come into conflict. In this case, it is necessary to show patience on both sides in order to identify the true reasons that led to the negative situation.

Conflicts at work occur in almost every team. And this is not a secret. People in this case conflict and hate each other for different reasons. If a conflict situation happened to you, then you do not need to take it to heart. To find the right solution, act with cold mind. First of all, you need to decide on tactics.Consider how you will behave with a coworker after a dislike arises. First, try to make up. If this condition cannot be met, then just try to limit the points of contact with the person who is “fanning” the conflict.

If you came to a new team, and everyone suddenly turned hostile against you, then you should not respond to the whole team in the same way. These actions will not achieve anything, but will only aggravate the situation. In any society, there is definitely a person who will be glad to make contact sooner or later. Try to befriend him first.

In this case, it is quite easy to eliminate the hostile attitude. If you all love each other and are very worried about what happened, then start reconciliation first. Never hold grudge against loved ones and be able to forgive. If you feel dislike, do not inflate it even more with your rash actions. Try to smooth out rough edges and compromise all the time.

Take note: it happens in life that one of the partners runs out of love. Then comes the "point of no return". If this happens, then the other partner in no case should hold on to his former other half. Otherwise, you will receive only hostile attitude in return. So forgive and let go.

Remember that people around treat the person the way they deserve it. Some people think that if they are too polite and spineless towards other people, they will be able to generate love and respect for themselves. This is not entirely true. Remember that society is not very fond of and accepts people who do not value their personality. Therefore, they are hostile to them. If you want to arouse the respect of outsiders, then behave politely, but with dignity.

Again, if you behave too defiantly and always and everywhere "run into" conflicts, you will receive a response in your address. Members of a team or a particular society will respond to aggression with aggression. Means, any sane person must develop his own specific tactics of behavior that will allow him to live and work without prejudice to his own psyche. This means that there is no need to conflict with people for no reason.