What if the wife hates the husband's child from the first marriage?

Couples converge and diverge. After one relationship, others always arise. Partners marry again and start a new life. In marriages, children are almost always born, and if the spouses get divorced, then the children have to adapt to a family where one of the parents no longer exists. The father's new wife does not always accept the child from the first marriage favorably. And this is a very big problem for everyone. Let's try to figure out how to fix everything and improve relations.

Hatred is a destructive feeling. It is based on a hostile attitude towards someone. It is very sad if the hateful attitude is directed towards the child. Spouses can divorce. Then one of them will leave the family, and another person will take his place. Often, adults do not think about how such an event will affect their children.

For example, the father met a younger lady and married her. A new wife is often very hostile to her husband's child from his first marriage. Why it happens? First, a daughter or son reminds her of her husband's past all the time. Secondly, they prevent the new partner of the father from acting the way she wants. Spouses all the time have to adjust to circumstances that may be dictated by the presence of a child who is alien to a woman.

However, there can be many reasons for the emergence of mutual rejection. How many people, so many characters. Therefore, events can develop according to different scenarios.

Let's consider the most common ones.

• Fathers often keep their interactions with children from a previous marriage to a minimum.For ex-wives, this situation is infuriating. Therefore, they call their former husbands and demand direct participation in the upbringing of children. This factor irritates the new wife.
• Children from the first wife very often visit their father, who gives them gifts and spends money. The new wife has to endure such inconveniences, and even pretend that this suits her.
• Children from a previous marriage remain with their father by court order or for other reasons. The new wife does not want to put up with such a situation, therefore, she dislikes children.

Because of such reasons, at first, the new wife develops hostility towards the child, and then the child himself begins to hate the woman that the father has chosen very much.

When a relationship is deadlocked, it can completely collapse. To prevent this from happening, it is necessary to take measures and look for various compromises. Let's consider this issue in more detail.

• You need to realize that you knew about possible problems, but still married a man who has children. You were subconsciously prepared for such a development of events, so you should not be hostile to the child from your first marriage. This fact must be understood and accepted.
• Stop turning your husband against his children. By these actions, you will harm yourself in the first place. Do everything so that the father and his children can communicate freely.
• You should not be jealous of your husband for your ex-wife and take out your dislike for her on her kids. If you do this, you will turn the stepfathers against you. The husband will have to protect them. As a result, scandals will begin in your new family.
• Remind your husband of significant events that are directly related to children from a past marriage. For this he will be grateful to you.
• Do not share your babies and offspring from your first marriage. Let them grow together and feel kinship. The bigger the family, the better.

There is no advice that could solve the problem associated with raising someone else's child. You cannot neglect your desires. Therefore, always remember: you cannot force yourself to love a child from your first marriage if you don’t want to. As a result, the conclusion suggests itself: if you cannot overcome your personal experiences, then it is better to refuse marriage with a man who has children from another woman.

If you are determined and want to overcome all difficulties, then try using the following tips.

• Don't take on too much responsibility initially. Do not try to become a second mother to other people's children. You will never be able to do this, so eliminate unnecessary responsibilities. Children have their own mother, and let her carry out all the necessary parenting activities.
• If the child of your husband asks you for help, then never deny him this. Perhaps this help will bring you closer together. Rapprochement will also occur if the child, for some reason, does not have a mother. For example, your husband's ex-wife died, leaving the children half orphans. In this case, you have a chance to become a mother to them, not a stepmother. Whether it will work out or not is up to you. Therefore, offer your help to your child more often and support him in difficult situations. Say this: "I am near, and you can count on me."
• If your husband interacts with children from his first marriage very often, ignoring your desires, then you must either accept it or not. If you do not want to put up with the situation that has arisen, then you better leave your chosen one and find someone who will be completely free of obligations. If you have submitted to fate and want to continue the relationship, despite the obstacles, then you need to reset your mind. Namely: to understand that children from the first marriage will not go anywhere from the life of your chosen one. Therefore, you need to treat them the way you treat your children.
• Women are vulnerable and very jealous creatures. However, remember that you should not be jealous of your husband for his own baby. Your man has some feelings for you, and others for the child. Understand this and stop winding yourself up.
• Never tell your spouse: "Either I, or your child." By these actions, you will drive him into a dead end. And when a man gets into such a position, he can lose his temper. The result will be a complete break with you.
• If you find it difficult to accept someone else's child, then try to abstract from the idea that your man previously had a different relationship. Mentally connect the child of your spouse and yourself. And when other thoughts arise, immediately remove them from consciousness.
• If your relationship with your husband's child is not going well, then try to let go of this situation. Don't worry about it anymore. Know: time will put everything in its place. Perhaps your problem will be solved in the best way over time.