Why doesn't everyone love the New Year and what to do about it?

There are people who cannot stand the fuss of the New Year. Some are annoyed by firecrackers, firecrackers, shouts of tipsy companies under the windows, hustle and bustle in shops and soaring prices. Others don't want to hear hypocritical congratulations and watch their mobile devices clog up with stamped pictures. Sometimes the dislike for celebration arises for psychological reasons.

Not everyone likes to celebrate the New Year. People do not want to burden themselves with pre-New Year's worries: to clean up, decorate the house, decorate the Christmas tree, look for gifts, buy food, set the table, meet guests. Shopping during this period is annoying for many. Lack of parking spaces, heavy bags often lead to surges in blood pressure, pain in the shoulder joints and spine. A large crowd of people contributes to the spread of SARS, influenza and the coronavirus COVID-19.

The tension is heightened by the abundance of New Year's advertisements, loud music coming from everywhere. Some "magic" melodies are emotionally distressing. Due to the huge number of people in retail outlets, there is no way to safely buy ordinary milk or bread. Large financial spending due to the unrestrained purchase of necessary and useless goods affects appetite and mood. And debts and loans lead to feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, to problems associated with loss of sleep and poor concentration.

Pre-holiday stress leads to the desire to eat as many sweet, fatty and salty foods as possible. The abundance of aromatic dishes on the table makes a person immerse himself in eating not very healthy food.

Research has shown that 20% of Russians do not like New Year's holidays. Some respondents have a negative attitude to the launch of firecrackers and fireworks. Some people don't want to drink alcohol and overeat. Others cannot understand why for the sake of one single night to create so much fuss. There are those who are dissatisfied with the prolonged vacation.

For some, pre-holiday chores can become the reason for dislike for New Year's Eve:

• increased traffic jams;
• queues at all retail outlets;
• frantic search for gifts for relatives, friends, acquaintances;
• a big waste of money;
• the need to put in perfect order, decorate the apartment;
• the upcoming preparation of a huge number of festive dishes.

Others, on the contrary, love the pre-holiday chores, but hate the consequences:

• a mess in the apartment, requiring a new general cleaning;
• broken dishes;
• hangover syndrome on January 1;
• a set of extra pounds;
• prolonged idleness during the holidays.

And there are people who find it unbearable to look at the fun of others. They shiver at the sight of an elegant Christmas tree, garlands and Santa Claus. They don't want to join the cheering crowd. The psychology of hatred of such individuals can have different origins.

• Someone gets tired of reporting multiple reports after all, it is in December that all the tails are cleaned up, gaps are eliminated, annual reports are typeset. During the period of emergency, any person dreams of the speedy completion of hectic work affairs. Fatigue makes itself felt - I don't even want to think about the upcoming New Year's celebration.
• Hatred of the New Year can arise as a result of an injury suffered earlier directly on this day: painful breakup with a loved one, the death of someone close, on December 31 in a hospital bed under an IV. Such memories evoke depressing thoughts that greatly spoil the mood.
• Loneliness is especially acute when a person has to celebrate a family holiday in front of the TV screen, accompanied by joyful exclamations from the street. Subject is (more than ever) aware that all friends and relatives are having fun with loved ones in the bosom of their happy family. And he is in splendid isolation.
• The fear of the unknown can be the reason for the dislike of the New Year. Some people think about the transience of time, mentally scroll through the number of years lived. They perceive each new year as one more step leading to an inevitable ending. Gloomy reflections on the likelihood of a not-so-good development of events, from the emergence of problems in the labor field or with health to a devastating earthquake, evoke melancholy.
• There are people who do not want to celebrate the days imposed by someone.

You can often hear the phrase “I don’t like to celebrate New Year's holidays”. Remember that by giving up the opportunity to have a good time with family or friends, you are greatly depriving yourself and depriving yourself of elementary joy. Celebrating the New Year is an excellent occasion to break the monotonous course of working days, relax and have fun, feel like a mischievous child when you launch a firecracker with joyful exclamations, and plunge headlong into pleasant chores.

Some recommendations of experts will help to solve the problem of dislike for the New Year holidays.

• You should start preparing for New Year's Eve in advance. Experts advise purchasing canned vegetables and fruits, fish and canned meat a month before the holiday. You can stock up on perishable food during the last week. It is advisable to get a new outfit long before December 31st. You must make an appointment with a hairdresser and beautician in advance.
• It is necessary to distribute responsibilities in preparation for the New Year's celebration among all family members. It is very difficult for one person to master such a time-consuming process. All household members receive specific tasks. Even toddlers should not be left out. Let them, under the guidance of adults, decorate the apartment: cut snowflakes, create various crafts, decorate the Christmas tree.
• Remember that it is not necessary to try absolutely all the dishes that decorate the New Year's table. Don't overeat or get drunk. Set yourself a task: to meet the dawn of the coming year with a clear head and excellent mood.
• Those who at work are overwhelmed with drawing up annual reports, psychologists recommend contacting relatives with a request to take on all the holiday chores. After that, you need to calmly focus on reporting.
• Everyone who has hard-to-heal psychological trauma should take part in the preparation of any New Year's corporate parties. Try to organize yourself a romantic evening for your significant other. Arrange a grand celebration for your children by looking for gifts, solving quizzes, building snow towns and throwing snowballs at each other.
• Lonely people should not be alone in their home and soaked in self-pity. If you are invited to a party by friends or family, be sure to use this invitation. Communication with people will distract from sad thoughts. Miracles happen on New Year's Eve. Who knows, suddenly you will meet your soul mate at the festive table.
• To drown out the fear that another year is left behind, and that there may not be a future, increased concentration on the preparation for the New Year's party helps. A person who is overly worried about the appearance of possible troubles in the future should seek the help of a specialist in the field of psychology or psychiatry. He needs painstaking work on himself.
• You don't have to celebrate an unpleasant date. You can ask relatives and friends to leave their congratulations and gifts with you. Thus, it will be possible to avoid the New Year's fuss and parties. But do not go too far - your family members need to make concessions.
• A good solution to the problem is a change of scenery. You can go to another city or even a country for the whole Christmas vacation.