Offended man: reasons and rules of behavior with him

In a relationship, unpleasant situations can arise when one of the couple is offended. Communication during this period is very difficult or stops altogether. Naturally, such a tense atmosphere wants to quickly change and return the relationship to a normal state. What if the offended guy stops communicating? How to understand why a man behaves this way?

It is believed that women are more prone to emotions, and, therefore, much more often offended. But such feelings are characteristic not only of the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity. Men also can and have the right to voice their claims or show by their behavior that they do not like something.

Someone expresses their emotions openly. Someone throws scandals or arranges a boycott. And someone, on the contrary, withdraws into himself and practically stops communicating with the offender or offender. In any case, for both partners, such situations are very unpleasant, because the relationship is under attack.

To understand how to return mutual understanding and improve the atmosphere in a couple, consider the most common causes of male offenses.

• Any rude and tactless comment of a partner about his intimate life can offend a guy. Most men take harsh criticism on this issue very painfully and sharply. If this criticism is also biased, then the situation can in a short time come to a break in relations.
• Resentment towards women can arise if the partner does not receive enough attention from her. Of course, representatives of the stronger sex are traditionally considered the flagships of courtship. But they also need to receive confirmation of the feelings of their beloved.
• Sometimes girls and women allow themselves to openly criticize, express insults to the loved ones or relatives of their boyfriend. This is very unpleasant for any person. If this is repeated regularly, this can lead not only to resentment, but also to serious conflict. A man will be forced to defend his relatives and friends from your attacks.

• Excessive jealousy and mistrust of a girl can ruin the relationship in a couple. Fighting off unfounded reproaches and accusations is very tiring and humiliating. Constant tension, open control of each step has a very negative effect on both partners. And if a girl is too persistently and fanatically looking for deception and lies, then she is likely to "find" her, convincing herself of the dishonesty of the chosen one. And groundless accusations cannot but offend. They hurt the man very badly.
• Excessive possessiveness of a woman in relation to her partner makes him a "prisoner" of the relationship. Attempts to control and manage every step will surely provoke resistance and lead to further misunderstandings.
• Each person has hobbies, hobbies and simply preferred leisure activities. In a couple, it is important to respect each other's interests. If a woman completely does not accept the hobbies of her man or even forbids him to spend his free time at his own discretion, then it is not surprising that this will cause a negative response.
• There are simply very vulnerable and sensitive natures. Perhaps your boyfriend is one of those. These people are very easily offended, they are suspicious and experience failure for a long time. Dealing with such a person is sometimes not easy, you have to weigh every word and calculate almost every step you take.
• The guy's exaggerated requirements for his beloved, personal fantasies can provoke sometimes inexplicable resentment in him. Men often create in their minds a certain "image of a princess" and expect from the chosen one to correspond to their ideal. When a girl does something “wrong,” the partner, seeing the discrepancy with what he wants, feels a sense of disappointment and resentment.
• Cheating on a loved one hurts and hurts. Here we can talk not just about a feeling of resentment, but about a serious mental trauma. Many men never forgive the insults associated with betrayal.
• The insincerity of a beloved woman, systematic deception leave a very negative impression. A deliberate lie humiliates and offends a man, as a result he stops trusting his soul mate.

For most of the stronger sex, the feeling of resentment occurs somewhat differently than for girls. The latter are much more likely to be prone to emotional outbursts and demonstration of their claims.

Men, on the other hand, often withdraw into themselves. The guy can suddenly become very dry and short in communication. Sometimes a man temporarily stops contacts altogether: he stops calling, writing messages, making appointments.

Some men are simply afraid to flare up and say too much. Therefore, they deliberately try to distance themselves from communication and contacts at the time of acute experience, and after that they sort out the relationship as calmly as possible.

Of course, it is impossible to outline a universal model of a man's behavior in a situation when he has been greatly offended. It all depends on the specific circumstances and characteristics of the character and personality of the person himself.

Male resentment against women for minor reasons can even proceed, so to speak, "asymptomatic", that is, without external manifestations. Strong men are able to pacify their emotions and forgive their beloved minor mistakes, accept her habits and behaviors.But, of course, this does not mean that you should use it and test your partner's patience on purpose.

If you are sure that the man is offended by you, try to find out the reason. If your partner does not make contact, analyze your relationship in recent days. Think seriously, what action or words of yours might hurt him? A sincere apology, admission that you are wrong, and a heart-to-heart talk will certainly make the couple better.

• If a man is not ready to make contact and talk, do not insist or rush him, give him time to “cool down” and experience his feelings.
• Sometimes a person in a difficult situation for him needs to be alone for some time. If an offended man asks you to do this, do not resist.
• You can take your first steps of apology by writing a note or email to your loved one. But then a sincere personal conversation must necessarily follow.
• If a guy is very offended and has broken contact with you, you can try to make up through his friends or family. Talk to someone he trusts and ask them to convey your apology.
• Behave naturally, do not immediately try on roles that are unusual for you. It will look like you are pretending or you are making fun of your partner.
• Be calm when apologizing. Do not throw back reproaches and do not try to hurt the guy in return.

In your couple, try to stick to the following tips from relationship psychology.

• Tactfully express your comments and wishes to your partner in sex. Harsh phrases and rude reproaches will definitely not improve your intimate life. They only hurt your man and, perhaps, over time, they will instill complexes in him.
• Try to maintain good relationships with your man's friends and loved ones. Don't allow yourself unfounded criticism or insults. Remember that they are dear to him and his indignation at your attacks is fully justified.
• Even in a long-term relationship, do not stop showing your partner signs of attention. Every person needs to receive confirmation from time to time that they are loved. Affectionate words, compliments, small gifts for the holidays and memorable dates will strengthen your relationship and add pleasant moments to you.
• If you are prone to jealousy, try to still control yourself. Pay attention to the real state of affairs, and not to your fantasies playing out or possible slander. Often, those who are obsessed with jealousy begin to concoct something that actually does not exist. A partner in such a situation is left with only endless excuses and attempts to prove his innocence.
• Respect the interests and hobbies of your loved one. Let him spend his leisure time as he wants. His passions are an integral part of his personality, accept them. Often, wives do not let their husbands go fishing or sports activities, depriving them of the opportunity for a comfortable and interesting rest. Do not make such mistakes, and you will avoid fair indignation about this on the part of your significant other.
• Maintain a relationship of trust in your couple. A friendly, honest conversation can resolve many problems. Give your man the opportunity to speak up if he is worried about something. Support your loved one in difficult situations.