Is it possible to love being alone and why is it okay?

Each personality is unique, and a particular person prefers a way of life in accordance with his psychotype. Some cannot imagine life without constant communication with many acquaintances and strangers, while others prefer a secluded lifestyle. Is it possible to love being alone and why is it okay? Let's try to figure it out.

There are many people who love loneliness, or rather, solitude, in society. For some, loneliness is a time of pleasure, pleasure and happiness, for others it is a serious problem, suffering and longing. There are also people whose periods of craving for loneliness alternate with an unbridled desire for non-stop communication.

In the modern rhythm of life, absolute solitude still cannot be achieved. But for many, the time is becoming desirable when a person can afford to isolate himself from the vain world, plunge into a pensive state, slowly engage in introspection and reflect on his favorite topics. Nobody and nothing distracts, does not interfere, does not touch.

The reasons for loving loneliness are also different for different people. Human personality is so multifaceted that it is simply impossible to deduce any indisputable regularity. But general trends do exist.

• Introverts... People of this psychological type are much less focused on interacting with the outside world than with themselves, focused on the inner world, are almost constantly busy with self-knowledge, do not like publicity in any form.The focus of such people is on themselves. Alone, introverts recuperate the energy that was wasted in the social environment, and are convinced that they are not lonely in solitude.
• Individuals with abstract thinking (creativity, scientific activity, new concepts, spiritual direction, something else like that). It is important for them to concentrate on their inner ideas, dreams, intentions. In the presence of strangers, this is unlikely to work, therefore, solitude for such people is a native element.
• Strongly notorious people with low self-esteem. It is difficult for them to be in full view of everyone; in solitude, they feel much more comfortable.
• People with visible disabilities... Not all members of society with whom such people have to contact have tact and a sense of proportion. Catching regrettable glances on yourself, or even hearing lamentations in your address, is unlikely to be pleasant to anyone, therefore, these people, as a rule, love loneliness.
• Couplesin which partners, even if they are loving spouses, prefer to have personal space, denote boundaries, and practice temporary solitude.
• Difficult, difficult relationship. A tired, exhausted person, it doesn't matter - a man or a woman, involuntarily strives for solitude in order to get away from a real nightmare at least for a while.
• It happens that, by the will of fate, a person must be forced to come to terms with loneliness., gradually gets used to being alone and no longer wants any changes, fearing new losses. He feels good and comfortable alone.

They usually do not sit idle, but are busy pondering their ideas or studying intensively something new (foreign language, for example). Knowing their inner world well, they better understand the fears and experiences of other people, sympathize with them, and often show empathy (empathy). Usually such people are characterized by restraint, poise, developed creative imagination. They realistically assess the events that are taking place, easily regulate their emotions, and are polite with others.

Lovers of loneliness in life try to choose a profession related to mental activity. These are mathematicians, inventors, philosophers, composers, writers. They have a powerful intellectual potential, are aimed at knowing themselves and receive complete harmony only when they are alone with themselves. Abstract intelligence allows them to cope with extremely complex concepts, solve scientific problems, create new concepts, and move progress.

Of course, not all ordinary people with a penchant for solitude become eminent scientists. But in modern reality, choosing a job with minimal contact with the environment will not be difficult. These are software developers, freelancers, librarians, forestry workers, etc.

There is a whole trend in psychology, the supporters of which argue that the problem of loneliness does not exist at all. It is a mistake to believe that absolutely all people who periodically retire and avoid communication in every possible way are egoists and antisocial personalities. Most of them have no hint of any mental disorder. It’s okay for the average person to love solitude. There are extroverts, the most open and sociable, they adore noisy companies, are ready for constant conversations with anyone about anything and everything, for them loneliness is "like death."

There are introverts who need privacy and silence. The forced long stay among other people mentally drains them, and loneliness for them is a long-awaited rest. In solitude, their inner world is filled with harmony, thoughts come in order, inner tension disappears. Alone, a person will calm down and be ready to communicate again.

Both states are the norm. It is only important not to turn your life into loneliness on a permanent basis. You cannot completely withdraw into yourself. One must be able to enjoy life, be sure to find time (dosed at the discretion of the person himself) to communicate with other people (relatives, acquaintances, colleagues), to create romantic relationships, to spend time with friends. And the desired time for solitude with the usual distance from the bustle of the world and favorite reflections (for example, philosophical categories, the meaning of life, space and the Universe) will always be found.

It should be noted that we are talking about psychologically healthy, normal individuals, but completely different in psychotype, formed character, temperament, life reasons for loneliness. A neurotic perception of a life position and the associated pathological experiences of loneliness, the desire for round-the-clock detachment from people and coldness in relation to everyone can lead to serious consequences and continuous suffering, but this is from the field of medicine.

For an intelligent, extraordinary, self-sufficient person, solitude – absolutely natural, happy state. It helps to restore the spent strength, get rid of fatigue, and prevent the development of stressful manifestations. After all, loving loneliness does not at all mean protecting yourself from everyone with an impregnable wall. A person lives in society, and he needs communication. And in order to live well and comfortably, people want themselves (and not according to the stereotypes established in society) to choose when, how much and with whom they communicate and how long to be in solitude.

But craving for loneliness and prolonged seclusion change the real perception of the world.... It is increasingly difficult for a person to face unforeseen situations and make decisions that require intense contact with other people. To solve the problem that has arisen, he does not want to get out of his "shell" at all, and he often prefers not to do anything.

Loneliness becomes a habit. A sane person will adequately assess the situation and understand that behavior correction is needed... In such a situation, it is important to focus on intense mental work, get tangible results, and feel that you are in demand.

Take a look around, appreciate the world around you, pay attention to interesting people who are not like you. It will soon become noticeable that your attitude towards yourself and towards the world is rapidly changing. You will stop painfully digging into yourself, learn to look at yourself positively from the outside, overcome egocentrism, and direct maximum attention to others. Then the love of solitude will not at all interfere with a comfortable life, and the time spent alone with oneself will bring the desired moments of happiness and complete satisfaction with life. Normal social activity, aimed not only at oneself, but also at others, will not allow life to pass by, and next to the format “I love being alone” there will be a statement: “I love you, life!”.