How to distinguish love from sympathy?

The range of emotions that we can experience towards people is varied. Sometimes it is very difficult to sort out both your feelings in relation to others, and, conversely, in the feelings of those around you. Some emotions are so similar to each other that they are not easy to define. In this article, we will try to explain the difference between sympathy and falling in love.

With frequent interaction with people with whom it is pleasant and interesting to spend time, positive emotions and feelings often arise. In most cases, this is a manifestation of sympathy or love. Many people confuse the two concepts, mistaking them for the same thing. However, professional psychologists declare that these are two different feelings, between which there is a significant difference. To understand these sensations, you need to identify their main characteristics.

This sensation often appears in response to a pleasant person. Sympathy often arises in the first minutes after meeting and communicating. This feeling is based on aspects that can be easily assessed from the outside.

We are talking about such factors:

• attractive appearance of a person;
• stylish and fashionable clothes;
• special external features that people like;
• common hobbies and interests.

Sympathy is a kind of foundation for the further development of relations.

This is a stronger and more established feeling, which is characterized by a multifaceted emotional color. Falling in love comes from sympathy.Psychologists call this feeling an emotional outburst that can occur suddenly and even shock the owner. Falling in love usually has a positive effect on personality changes.

When falling in love, an individual has a new goal - to attract attention and please the object of his desires. Under the influence of this feeling, a person is able to perform various actions, sometimes harsh and rash. Representatives of the fair sex often change their appearance, creating, as it seems to them, a more attractive image. All this is done to attract a partner.

Men and boys also change, but more in terms of character and behavior. They become a kind of protectors or knights, begin to patronize and protect her in every possible way, like a princess or a beautiful lady from the world of dreams.

Despite the positive emotions towards the other person, it is, in fact, a demanding and selfish feeling. Falling in love is based on the desire to be loved by a specific person. One person uses the other to satisfy his own desires and needs.

People who are ruled by falling in love constantly demand confirmation of their feelings from each other. We are talking about gifts, dating, frequent communication and other manifestations of love. If one of the partners tries to move away from this scheme or refuses to accept them, resentment and clarification of the relationship begin. In such a period of a relationship, a conflict can begin because of any little thing.

Falling in love is based on pleasant emotions, but it does not give a person confidence in unconditional happiness. Under this feeling, individuals often experience emotional leaps, while experiencing both pleasant and disturbing sensations. In addition, the behavior of your partner is constantly assessed. An individual in love does not pursue the goal of giving, for him the most important thing is to receive. Moreover, more often than not, it makes no difference what the nominally the sign of attention will be, if only it is pleasant.

Summing up, we can say that sympathy is a feeling when you like the appearance, behavior and other characteristics of a person that are in sight. When in love, a person becomes demanding and needs his partner in order to constantly receive emotional and physical nourishment from him.

Each of the above feelings has its own specific characteristics. Some of them are common. When in love and sympathy, partners like to talk more about themselves, whether it be information about success, personal interests or everyday affairs. In the transition to the stage of falling in love, people go into demanding mode. By constantly receiving something from a partner, they feed their feelings.

With sympathy, everything is much easier. This feeling can be felt even when there is no communication between partners, and also if it is minimized. Gestures, smiles, short dialogues, and other options for interaction can indicate the presence of a positive feeling. Sympathy can last for a long time - until it develops into a stronger feeling.

Falling in love is often referred to as ordinary affection. In this case, one of the partners needs constant attention from the other person. At the same time, gifts, dates and other manifestations of feelings are not required, the main thing is to be around.

As noted above, there is a significant difference between the two feelings described above. Sometimes even the individual himself finds it difficult to distinguish emotions and understand what he really feels. Both sympathy and falling in love can cloud the mind of a person.

Falling in love differs from simple sympathy in the following signs.

• If only pleasant communication with a person is enough to feel comfortable, this is usual sympathy.
• And when you want to constantly receive signs of attention from a person and be near as far as possible, this is falling in love. There is a pronounced desire for physical interaction. Despite some cynicism and selfishness, the presence of these emotions can inspire and inspire. There is a strong desire to rejoice and share this feeling with others.

Falling in love includes some kind of intimacy and sexual overtones, and sympathy can be just friendly. Strong and lasting love begins with sincere sympathy. The main thing is that the feelings are true, and the partners have a desire to further develop the relationship.

As already mentioned, mutual sympathy tends to develop into a more serious relationship. First it becomes love, and then love. In some cases, sympathy between partners develops into friendship, stopping at this stage either by mutual desire, or at the request of one of them.

Development to love and full-fledged relationships is possible only when both people are trying to maintain and develop the relationship. However, it is not uncommon for one of them to be in love, and the other just continues to be friends. Such a relationship does not lead to anything good. Sooner or later, both people will face great disappointment.

To avoid such a situation, it is imperative to clarify the relationship and prioritize. A professional psychologist will help you not to make mistakes in a relationship. And also you need to try to always look at the relationship soberly, not to give in to emotions completely.

Both partners, between whom a new relationship has emerged, must accurately determine the emotions and their causes. Regardless of what drives these emotions - the desire for intimacy, a strong spiritual connection, or the usual lack of communication.

Having considered what one and the second feeling means, we can safely say that sympathy can go to the next level and develop into love. This happens in most cases. For a successful development of events, both people must know exactly what they want from each other. As soon as the desire to constantly receive turns into the desire to bestow, it will be possible to talk about love. A strong feeling, which differs from the previous two, is much more multifaceted and has a great impact on a person.

Some people, being under strong impressions, decide to confess their love to their partner. In this case, if you have not received a positive answer, you should not be upset ahead of time. Perhaps the second person is now in the stage of falling in love, which after a certain time will develop into full-fledged love.

The sphere of human relations is a rather complex and varied area. With the interaction of two personalities, any development of events is possible.

You can see the main differences between true love and falling in love in the next video.