Gift etiquette: how to give and receive them?

In the life of every person, there are situations when you need to make a gift to someone close, friends or colleagues. There can be many reasons - wedding, anniversary, christening, graduation. To avoid embarrassing situations and not spoil the holiday, you should familiarize yourself with the rules of gift etiquette.

Everyone knows that gifts are good and bad. When choosing a presentation, it is useful to ask yourself what kind of positive emotions it will bring. If a person finds it difficult to name them, it is worth thinking about another option. For example, no one will be delighted with such a gift as an empty wallet, even if it is an expensive accessory from a global brand. In Russia, this means "hand over poverty."

It is unreasonable to give "live gifts" without prior approval, because you can face complete confusion of the recipient. It may happen that he simply cannot accept it, for example, if you decide to give your loved one a rat or a hamster.

When giving gifts, any person wants to see enthusiastic surprise, joy, happiness in the eyes of loved ones. To make the holiday a success, you should try.

Etiquette rules for presenting presentations allow you to avoid awkward situations. No need to present a gift in a cramped hallway as soon as the door is opened. It is necessary to greet the owners with a smile, take off their outerwear, fix their hair, go into the room.

According to etiquette, presents must be presented before the start of the feast. Nothing bad will happen if in practice someone decides to bypass this rule, which often happens. Outside of a feast, it is difficult to choose a moment to congratulate the hero of the occasion with everyone's attention - he has a lot of worries about meeting guests. When all the expected guests have arrived and the chores are over, those who wish can congratulate at the table.

By the time of presentation, a short congratulatory speech should be thought out and appropriate to the situation. Laudatory praises and compliments should be in moderation so as not to create a comic effect instead of solemnity. It is necessary to speak sincerely, congratulations should not be long. No hints, even jokingly, of personal failures, blunders, and even more so of a person's physical disabilities - this is unacceptable under any circumstances.

You should not make excuses with phrases such as “I'm sorry, I couldn't do anything else” if the present is more than modest. If the gift is expensive, you do not need to focus on this. For example, the phrase will be out of place: “I hardly found it. It turned out a little expensive, but decent. "

The main value of a presentation is attention and a sincere desire to please a loved one, and not at all in its value. Also, you do not need to pester with questions about whether you liked the gift.

Giving flowers is always a good idea. If the person was invited not for the girl's birthday, and her parents will be there, flowers according to etiquette should be presented not only to the birthday girl, but also to her mother. For the birthday of a young man, a bouquet for his mother will also not be superfluous, because it was she who gave him life, so it has a very direct relationship to the holiday.

Having accepted a bouquet as a gift, you do not need to put it on the table along with other gifts - the flowers can wither. Floristic decor (thin transparent packaging, decorative ribbons) does not need to be removed in order to preserve the composition of the bouquet. You should spread the ornamental grass, cut the stems and put the flowers in a beautiful vase of water prepared in advance.

It is worth considering before the arrival of guests where to temporarily put gifts so as not to place them around the apartment in the presence of guests - this is contrary to etiquette. You will have to hastily choose permanent places for gifts, but in a hurry it may not turn out very well. You need to put everything on a small table or shelf, where they will be "equal" until the guests leave.

According to etiquette, you cannot put aside a box with a present without looking at what you gave. You need to open it as soon as the guests have presented the gift. You need to be ready to control yourself in any situation, even if the surprise is too far from expectations, and the person has received a thing that is completely unnecessary to him.

It may turn out that a person was presented with several identical twin gifts - you also need to be ready for this. In any case, you should smile cordially and thank everyone in a friendly, even voice.

In our time, the financial capabilities of many are very different.I am. You cannot compare the gifts received, praising some and indifferently bypassing others - this is clearly a bad form. Also, do not overly admire some and give out disappointment at the sight of others - everything should look natural. Even a fleeting shadow of discontent is very noticeable - it is easy to offend the donor.

There are times when you have to refuse a presentation.The reason may be the too high value of the gift (this is obligatory), or the thing is of a very personal, intimate nature. For example, it can be a gym membership, and physical activity is contraindicated for a person, or a live pet presented without the consent of the owner, which he did not plan to settle at home. The main thing is to get out of an awkward situation with dignity without offending the donor.

To do this, you should say a few kind words to the guest. We need to thank him for his attention, be sure to explain the reason for the refusal and express regret that we had to do this.

The process of choosing, presenting and receiving a gift is an art. There is no need to ignore the basic rules of gift etiquette - you should take into account all the details and important little things. If a person respects and correctly uses the etiquette of gifts, then donation will turn into a joyful, desired event for all participants, and he will receive gifts more often, he will want to take a step back. This will help maintain good relations in the family and with everyone who is dear for a long time.

You can learn more about gift etiquette in the following video.