Neurotic: characteristics, diagnosis and behavior correction

The behavior of a neurotic is characterized by excitement, frequent mood swings, weakened self-control, and low self-esteem. This type of person does not manage his emotions well, in life he sees exclusively negative sides. Unreached goals or unfinished business can cause strong negative emotions in the neurotic.

A neurotic is a person with a psychological disorder, which often originates from childhood or adolescence, and neuroticism manifests itself as a protective property of the body. A neurotic is a squeezed person who practically cannot live normally in society. The reasons for this disorder can be excessive parental care, and the aggressiveness of one or both parents towards the child, and indifference or reproaches.

Such people experience fear:

• to be rejected;
• to make a mistake;
• unfavorable outcome;
• get closer to another person;
• get disapproval from others;
• move to a new place, change jobs;
• show your emotions;
• stay alone, etc.

Neurotic personality disorder includes a wide variety of temporary, mild mental disorders. Such violations are often associated with some kind of mental shock, as a result of which neurosis develops over time. Neurotics are able to understand and criticize their own condition.

A neurosis is a psychopathic reaction to a painful situation that a person cannot experience emotionally; a variety of mental disorders can result. Neurotic disorders do not belong to severe mental illnesses, they are amenable to correction, but can have a protracted course, especially if symptoms are ignored and treatment is delayed.

Such conditions negatively affect life, emotional and psychological state, interfere with personal life and career.

In psychology, there are three main types of neurosis:

• neurasthenia;
• hysteria;
• obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Neurasthenia or astheno-neurotic syndrome develops due to the inability to cope with interpersonal and intrapersonal conflicts. Neurasthenia can be detected even in the first stages of development, according to the following symptoms:

• irritation for minor reasons;
• distracted attention;
• slow thinking;
• fast overwork;
• headaches and heartaches;
• decreased libido.

Neurasthenia is the most common disorder of the nervous system. Most often, this condition occurs in emotionally unstable, hypersensitive people.

Hysteria develops more often in women, it appears due to feelings of self-pity and confidence in mental suffering. A person lives in a fictitious world that is full of depressing thoughts; overestimated self-esteem, inconstancy, spoiledness and other traits of a person's character can lead to such a state.

The violation can manifest itself with the following symptoms:

• irrepressible tears;
• loss of consciousness;
• nausea, vomiting;
• dizziness;
• loss of voice.

Obsessive-compulsive or obsessive neurosis is characterized by a more severe course in comparison with other forms. With such a violation, a person experiences various fears, strong anxieties:

• get infected with any disease;
• to lose a loved one;
• go crazy;
• obsessive thoughts or actions (constant monitoring of the pulse, pressure, constant diagnostics of one's health, endless washing of hands, etc.);
• phobias;
• panic attacks;
• striving for perfection.

A person with such a violation is fully aware that his fears are groundless, but his own thoughts and beliefs do not allow him to get rid of fear and worries.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder has several forms:

• obsessive phobias - accompanied by a rapid heartbeat, sweating, loss of a sense of reality and other reactions of the body that arise at the sight of an object of fear;
• obsessive representations - accompanied by the frequent appearance of various images in the head, which arise spontaneously and can be repeated quite often;
• obsessive movements - accompanied by uncontrolled movements, and if a person does not complete his action, then panic begins;
• obsessive drives - a person performs certain actions, regardless of the circumstances, for example, he counts cars of a certain color, poles or other objects;
• obsessive doubts - haunted by a constant feeling of anxiety about actions that have not yet been performed.

Anxiety neurosis is accompanied by a constant feeling of fear, in some cases, panic, the cause of which the person is unable to explain. This condition causes discomfort, limits it both in work and in personal relationships.

When communicating with a neurotic, a healthy person can acquire the same psychotype, therefore it is recommended to limit or, if possible, completely exclude communication with people who have a neurotic personality type.

The difference between neurosis and neurasthenia is small, but still there.Neuroses develop in people with a neurotic personality type, with a slight deviation from mental parameters. Neurotics are critical of their own character traits, do not distort reality, they are not worried about hallucinations or delusional ideas. Such people suffer from mild forms of depression, obsessive thoughts, phobias, chronic stress.

Neurasthenia implies a mental disorder from the group of neuroses. This violation is accompanied by severe irritability, rapid fatigability, inability to long physical and mental work. Lack of sleep or rest and too much work can lead to this condition.

The development of neurosis can provoke:

• a traumatic situation for the psyche and a strong emotional shock;
• constant nervous tension;
• inability to satisfy needs;
• inconsistency of the life of the one, the concepts of which were formed in childhood, often at the subconscious level.

Symptoms of the disorder depend on the reasons that provoked the neurosis.

The behavior of a neurotic depends on the severity of the condition. To a slight degree, there is an emotional imbalance with irritating factors. In this case, the person is distinguished by adequate, but unstable behavior.

In more severe cases, hysterical fits and absurd behavior occur. Such people need the help of specialists.

The following common symptoms will help to recognize a neurotic:

• short-term loss of mental and physical performance;
• inability to cope with their own fears;
• low ability to learn;
• constant fears about your health;
• problems in intimate life;
• constant headaches, dizziness;
• drops in blood pressure;
• excessive attention to your health;
• the desire for loneliness;
• constant fatigue;
• attacks of hysteria;
• self-doubt, isolation;
• pessimism;
• desire to be in the spotlight.

Today, there are a lot of neurotic personalities, but if you understand and learn to communicate with them, then you can build relatively normal relationships with such people. Many neurotics are not considered dangerous to society, they can suffer themselves or by their behavior make others suffer (for example, "choke" with their love), but psychologists consider this behavior acceptable.

Feelings in a relationship are a special topic for a neurotic. For such people, love is associated with negative feelings - fear of loneliness, being misunderstood, etc. The roots of the problem in childhood: coldness of parents, constant reproaches from their side, upbringing with a grandmother, endless scandals in the family, drinking parents, brothers or sisters that require a lot of attention - all this leads to the fact that the child feels rejected, lonely, misunderstood. Having matured, he will certainly look for a relationship in which he will suffer, since only in this way, in his understanding, love can manifest.

A neurotic child first of all feels sorry for himself, while he suffers, but loves his parents very much. All these feelings are transferred into adulthood and a person by any means tries to get consolation, pity, support from a partner, but in return he does not give anything, he seems to be asking for love.

The main problem with a neurotic is that he does not enjoy life; husband or wife, children, do not bring joy. Such people put their desires first and demand their immediate fulfillment from their partner. And if for some reason the partner does not want or cannot do what is required, this is perceived as dislike on his part. Certain signs of neurotic behavior then begin to appear.

Living with a neurotic is quite difficult, but parting is even more difficult. He always wants to be there, at any time and in any place, wants to know exactly where his partner is, can annoy him with calls, talk about anything. Such people are demanding and unhappy. Codependent relationships are suitable for them, when one partner demands and takes all the time, and the second fulfills and gives.

A man's neurosis is associated more with the functional side: irritability for any reason, pain and weakness in the muscles. The disorder is more common in choleric people and athletes.

Symptoms may include the following:

• rapid fatigability (physical and psychological);
• recurrent headaches;
• nervous exhaustion;
• inability to cope with simple logical operations.

It is difficult to distinguish the main symptoms in women due to their not monotony, here the mental state is more taken into account. Often the development of neurosis can be indicated by:

• frequent mood swings;
• indifference to everything;
• unwillingness to do anything;
• expression of negativity for any reason;
• only sad moments are seen in life.

Neurosis in women often leads to problems in intimate life, their sexual desire completely or partially disappears.

A child's neurosis manifests itself:

• new character traits;
• frequent unreasonable tears;
• increased sensitivity;
• change in behavior;
• they can react to minor mental trauma with aggression, fear, despondency.

In addition, there are somatic problems;

• blood pressure surges;
• breathing disorders;
• sweating;
• disturbed sleep;
• decreased memory and concentration;
• digestive problems.

Psychologists do not consider neurosis to be a disease, so there is no definite method of treatment. Psychological correction will help get rid of neurosis only if the person fully understands that his behavior is abnormal.

In mild cases, with irritability, increased exactingness, which interferes with communicating with family and friends, you need to consult a psychologist. With obsessive fears, various phobias, a psychotherapist will help.

Neurosis should cause concern for family and friends, perhaps a person needs emergency help. Neglecting symptoms can cause problems in the life of the neurotic himself, his family and friends.

It is difficult to find contact with a neurotic personality; there are various techniques in psychology that will help to find the cause of the neurosis and carry out psychological correction. Initially, the specialist will advise you to eliminate all negative factors from life that may be the cause of such a condition; without this important condition, treatment will be unsuccessful.

Further, the specialist will eliminate the obvious symptoms of neurosis, which will help a person to perceive life reasonably. At the end of the treatment, the doctor focuses on the person's personality, his strengths, so that he can live normally in society and respond correctly to various situations.

Finding the cause of the problem will help to cope with the neurosis. Often these are some kind of childhood experiences, unresolved conflicts or other problems in the family. Understanding the cause of a neurosis is the first step towards overcoming it.

You need to be careful with a neurotic. There is no need to convince him that he is sick and needs professional help. Also, all the explanations that life is beautiful will remain unheard. It is necessary to talk and act with such people ruthlessly and quickly, often without even asking about the desire to visit a specialist.

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