How to break up correctly?
The problem of parting worries many people. Each of us, one way or another, was faced with the fact that the relationship ended forever. In this case, everyone wants the breakup to be less painful for both sides. Let's figure out how to do it right.
Parting without consequences
Difficult questions sometimes arise before people. One of them: how to behave and what to do in order to properly part. There are many answer-options to this question due to the fact that the cases are different. Some leave because they could not get what they wanted from their partner. Others found new love. In the third version, this may be a mismatch of views. It is not the first time that some of the people have come across a breakup.
When you decide to end your relationship with your other half, then try to make this process smooth and painless for both your partner and you. For this, there are general techniques that need to be matched to your situation, improved and applied in practice. As soon as you start imagining a conversation with a person to whom you need to say something very unpleasant, then you immediately feel uncomfortable.
In this position, you need to calculate your strength. If you don’t have the courage to say the right words, and you feel that you are confused in your thoughts, then write down on paper what you have in mind.
Believe me, when you are alone with yourself, you will choose the most eloquent words and will be able to convey your judgments to the addressee. Subsequently, they can be memorized and said without much effort in a personal meeting or by phone.Alternatively, your thoughts can be conveyed by mail through a courier or by writing a personal message on a social network.
When parting, you should not come up with a non-existent story or a reason that allegedly led to such a situation. Better tell it as it is.
If you fell out of love - declare it immediately and irrevocably. It will be much more honest and correct.
If love still lingers in your soul, but there are some resentments, tell your partner about it directly in the eyes. Maybe after that he will understand everything and will not let you go, but will begin to correct his mistakes.
Then the question of parting will dissipate like fog. Don't hide from the problem. Some people (especially young guys and girls) begin to avoid their other half, so as not to give any explanation. This happens for a variety of reasons. Some are afraid of the reaction of the offended person, others hope that everything will work out by itself.
Under these circumstances, you only make yourself worse. Your conscience will torment you, and you will suffer greatly from this. Look the problem right in the eye and take a bold step. Explain everything to your ex-elect (tse), and everything will fall into place.
You have met a new love. It often happens in life. There is nothing wrong with that. Tell your ex-soulmate directly about it. From such news, a person will fall into a stupor, experience a shock, but it is this way that makes it clear that everything is over between you.
Without hope, love will soon die. Your ex-boyfriend (girlfriend) will not regret for long and will find new love for himself. When you decide to have a conversation, do not forget to thank your past partner for what happened between you. Let him be offended at you, but positive words will have a softening effect. Emotional people do not need to hide their emotionality within themselves. After the breakup has occurred, cry, let off steam, and you will immediately feel better at heart.
Remove all reminders of the person you broke up with. It will become easier for you to forget negative experiences, and your mood will not be darkened by memories every time.
How to break off a relationship with a loved one?
It often happens that you need to break up with the person you love very much. There are explanations for this. The most common and only option is when you are dating a married man or a married woman.
Some part in this case because of a purely ethical issue, others because they are tired of waiting for cardinal steps from their partner, for example, such as a divorce from their wife or husband.
Connecting with a partner who is married is a dead end option. You suffer greatly from such a relationship.
Events usually develop like this: at first, you do not attach much importance to the fact that meetings with the person you love occur spontaneously and hastily. On holidays, you have to be alone or with unmarried friends or girlfriends. While your peers live in marriage and enjoy every day spent with their family.
Gradually, the pain intensifies as attachment sets in. You wait for meetings, and when they happen, then you do not get the emotional satisfaction you expect. Because on sexual relations "you won't go very far." Meetings between a man and a woman should be supported by some kind of spiritual connection and common interests. If they are not there, then there comes an unconscious cooling on the part of the one who expects from his married partner some proposals for complete rapprochement and marriage.
Resentment for yourself will also be an impetus for the realization that everything in your life is not going as it should. Your married partner is living life to the fullest. Children are growing in his family, and the spouse does not know anything about you and therefore is happy with everything (flax). And your clock is ticking, some still need to have a baby. And how to do it if you are not married (not married). You just need to start a family and be confident in the future.
Therefore, your actions in this option are fully justified. In order for your ex-lover not to perceive rejection as a personal grievance, try to explain to him the reasons why you need to disperse in different directions. Put the question in such a way that he (she) himself (s) is to blame for the fact that you made such a decision. You can no longer expose yourself to suffering and you no longer want such superficial relationships.
This must be done carefully, but persistently. Let no persuasion on his (her) side can stop you from breaking this worthless connection.
Never regret losing your married partner, because you are, by and large, a victim of your feelings.
And the partner is not a very decent person, since he allowed himself to use you for his own purposes and deceive his soul mate.
Breakup after a long cohabitation
If you are not married, although you have lived with your partner for a long time, then you need to think deeply about this situation, since it is unnatural. You need to start a normal family, where your legal guarantees will be present, and legitimate children will be born.
This argument will help you break up easily with your roommate. This breakup will occur after a short or long relationship - it doesn't matter.
Due to certain circumstances, you were forced to live with a tyrant. He did not let you go from himself and dictated his terms of cohabitation. You had nowhere to go and ask for help.
Remember that you should not endure humiliation from a person unworthy of you, and there is always a way out, you just have to strongly desire it. If you do not have close relatives and friends who are able to help you, then do not despair. There are special social centers where they provide assistance to all people in need, including women in difficult situations. By contacting there, you will receive qualified support from all sides.
If you have parents, sisters, brothers, loyal friends, then the process of adaptation after parting will be much easier and calmer.
The support of your family and your optimistic attitude will give strength to permanently break off relations with the tyrant.
But you need to decide on this step and overcome your fear. It is impossible to endure bullying all your life. If such a relationship continues for a long time, then psychosomatic phenomena will begin. You will cease to perceive yourself as a person and you can get sick physically.
You are not bound by the bonds of marriage, and this makes the task easier. In this case, just leave, and let your roommate not know the address where you are located. Further, when you perform the first action, then proceed to the second - throw all the memories of this negative experience out of your head and start living anew. You will definitely get lucky.
Another problem is living with a sociopath. For your information, this is a mentally ill person who is unable to comprehend social rules. Usually such individuals live by their own laws and are skillful manipulators. Your partner instilled in you that marriage is a relic, since it is beneficial to him.
He uses you for his own purposes, without thinking about your state of mind. In this case, it is necessary to end such an abnormal relationship as soon as possible. If you find it difficult to make a decision, then make an effort on yourself. Understand that there is nothing good about such a connection.
Therefore, try to talk to the person and calmly explain the reason for your departure. The conversation should be set up in a public place so that your ex is not tempted to harm you physically in some way. That being said, do not go into the details of the reasons why you have to make this decision. A sociopath is so constituted that he still will not accept or understand your reasons.After the conversation, try to make sure that you no longer meet with each other.
Remember that everything in your life depends only on yourself.