What is the right way to break up with a guy?

Breaking up a relationship is almost always difficult. It is especially difficult to inform your partner of a breakup if this intention is not mutual. Many girls who decide to break up with a guy cannot dare to have a difficult conversation. At the same time, it is obvious that delaying the timing of parting will not help in any way.

This article will tell you how to properly break up with a man.

Alas, not all couples are able to maintain their relationship. It would seem that until recently you seriously dreamed of connecting your life with your loved one, dreamed of general plans for the future. But in life, it does not always turn out exactly as we would like. And now your couple froze on the verge of breaking, and you only need to take a step in order to disperse in different directions.

There are many reasons for the breakup of a couple. Any relationship undergoes the test of difficulties, but, unfortunately, not all partners withstand them.

• Cheating is deeply hurtful and painful. If the guy was to blame for such an offense, it can be very difficult for the girl to forgive him. Often in such situations, you have to make a difficult decision to break off relations.
• It so happens that a partner simply uses a passion for selfish purposes. For example, if a girl has her own living space, or she is not constrained in funds and is ready to spend them on her lover. In this case, of course, the man has no real feelings. And after some time, the cold calculating attitude will still be revealed.
• Friends or relatives may interfere with young people's relationships.Someone close, often for some reason, often only he understands, sets the lovers against each other. For example, a guy's mother, disliking his chosen one, can try to get rid of her in every possible way, provoking quarrels and intrigues against her.
• Excessive jealousy and excessive male dominance. A jealous person torments his beloved with unfounded suspicions, often arranges scandals and scenes. In such a pair, the partner feels like she is locked up. Any phone call from a friend, a delay on the way to a date and other trifles provoke bouts of jealousy and mistrust in a young man. Such a relationship can hardly be called pleasant, calm and comfortable.

• Lack of common interests, differences of views and characters significantly undermine the relationship of the couple. It is difficult to be close to a person who practically does not support you in anything. It is useless to share your joys and experiences with him, because he simply does not share them and is indifferent to what is happening with his beloved at work, at home or at school.
• Lack of attention from a beloved man greatly chills the girl's feelings. In most cases, in the early stages of a relationship, a guy, trying to win his beloved, did not skimp on gentle words, compliments, small gifts, kisses and pleasant romantic surprises. But here you are together, and it all gradually faded away. Relationships have become routine, unemotional and monotonous. The lack of attention from a young man casts doubt on his feelings and prospects for such a cold relationship.
• Negative personality traits and bad habits often push girls to break up. Excessive rudeness, aggressiveness, slovenliness and other unsightly personality traits make communication with a person simply unpleasant and uncomfortable. Of course, if you love, then you try to adapt and close your eyes to some of the shortcomings of the young man. But all patience comes to an end sooner or later.
• A guy's precarious financial situation can also cause a breakup. Undoubtedly, money is not the main thing in life.

• Frequently repeated deception for various reasons. It is impossible to feel confident with such a man. You have to be on the lookout almost all the time. Mutual trust in a situation where a guy tends to lie often is simply impossible.
• Often, problems in intimate life become a stumbling block for a couple. Dissatisfaction with a sexual partner can push a girl to break up. Unfortunately, not all couples are able to tactfully discuss their sex life. Because of this, the problem only gets worse over time. This often alienates partners from each other.
• Of course, almost all problems in a relationship can be resolved if partners are willing to work on themselves, make mutual concessions and trust each other. If the guy does not want to make efforts on himself, it will be very difficult for the girl to rectify the situation alone.

So, you firmly and finally decided to break off the relationship with the young man. Now you need to inform him about your decision.

It is especially difficult to part with a man who loves you very much and does not let go. In this case, you need to be tactful and soft in order to somehow soften the blow to his feelings.

In addition, after such news, the guy may have any questions or a desire to express himself. This should be treated with understanding, patience and tact.

For such a meeting, choose a quiet place where you can talk calmly.It is better to meet in "neutral" territory, and not in those places that are somehow connected with your couple. Not the best options would be a favorite cafe, memorable areas in a park, or an apartment where you often met or lived together.

Be prepared for the man to take this news quite emotionally. Do not blame him for this. Put yourself in a similar situation - it is unlikely that you would feel well.

The second way to break up is to send a message or email. Often girls resort to him, who in no way can dare to say about the parting to the guy in the eyes. Fearing an overly violent reaction, they prefer to end the relationship remotely. There are situations when a guy and a girl are currently at a distance from each other, and a personal meeting is impossible. In this case, also try to state your decision, without offending the young man.

Do not count on the fact that by SMS you will certainly part quickly and painlessly. It all depends on the character of the young man and the characteristics of your relationship with him. It may well be that the guy wants to discuss everything at the meeting and will insist on it. Or you will receive messages or intrusive calls from him for some time.

The breakup is especially difficult if you have been dating for a long time and live together. In this case, significant changes will occur in your life after the breakup. Prepare yourself for them in advance.

Partners who have been together for a long time usually already know each other well, they have developed a common life. Therefore, in such a case, you should especially carefully think over your decision and check your feelings.

In most cases, such breaks are very painful. Perhaps, in your situation, you can still find some ways to keep the pair.

There are frequent examples when former partners continue to communicate after parting and even become good friends. But sometimes the pain of loss and unquenchable feelings make any contact with the ex impossible. In such cases, you need to be able to cope with emotions and pull yourself together as soon as possible in order to start a new life.

• Having decided to leave a young man, you should also understand that now your plans and dreams regarding life with this man are over. Try not to live them anymore, and also allow yourself to indulge in memories as little as possible. When little time has passed since the breakup, a deepening into the past only aggravates negative emotions: melancholy, resentment, regret.
• Try to distract yourself with something. For example, create a new look that you've wanted to try for a long time. Sign up for a sports section or creative class. This will help you keep fit, broaden your horizons and your circle of acquaintances.

• Conversations on this topic with loved ones can be a good therapeutic effect for depression and despondency. Feel free to talk to someone you trust. Share your experiences. Even if you are not helped with really good advice, a sincere, confidential conversation will already bring you relief.
• Perhaps after some time you will have a strong regret about what happened and a desire to return everything. This can be a deceiving illusion.Sometimes, after parting, a woman yearns not for the person she left, but for the way of life and her usual way of life, which has now changed. In such a situation, it is important to separate real feelings from fleeting, fleeting emotions. Reconsider the reasons that prompted you to break up. Then put an end to your past relationship for yourself. Set yourself up to move forward and change.

• A break in a relationship is not at all the end of life, but, on the contrary, a new round of it. Perhaps your former partner in some way limited and slowed you down, but now the path is free, and you can confidently go towards your dream, experiment and develop.

• If you want to remain friends, and the guy is not ready for this, do not press on him and do not be offended. Perhaps over time, when his emotions subside, you may well be able to communicate. Chances are, after breaking up, contact with you just hurts him.
• Perhaps the man you left will actively try to get you back. In this case, stay firm. It is important not to give him false hopes. In the event that you are harassed by calls and messages, try to gently and tactfully explain that this is unpleasant to you. Sometimes girls have to go to harsher measures in such cases and change the phone number, ignoring the attempts of the ex-man to restore the couple.
• When parting, thank the young man for those moments that were very important, warm and tender for you. It cannot be that something that is pleasant to remember never happened in your couple.
• In the case when you were the initiator of the breakup, do not try to shift all the blame onto the young man. Sometimes girls, leaving a guy, try to reproach him on far-fetched reasons and express as many claims as possible. In such an unpleasant situation, such behavior of a beloved girl hurts even more.
• It is not necessary to stop communicating with mutual acquaintances and friends after a breakup. Your personal problems should not be transferred to third parties at all.
• Do not rush into a relationship immediately after the end of previous ones, just to prick your ex or make him jealous. There is a high probability of making a mistake and getting burned. And in this case, you will not only waste time, but again you will have to go through an unpleasant situation of breakup.
• If your new relationship became the reason for parting with a young man, you should not go into unnecessary details. It will be enough just to briefly voice that at the moment you have feelings for another man.
• In some cases, in order to return his beloved, a guy can take rather drastic measures. Blackmail or suicide threats are used. In a situation like this, do not lose your composure. If you make concessions against your will and contrary to your decision, nothing good will come of it in the future.