Male jealousy: signs and causes

People have different feelings towards each other. Some hate, others love passionately. And there is also such a feeling as jealousy. They say that jealousy and love always go hand in hand.

The stereotypical opinion has no basis. A truly loving person will do his best not to hurt family and friends.

The science of psychology is about the soul. She studies and describes the emotional states of a person. Jealousy is one of the most vivid feelings that can be experienced not only by people, but also by animals. Men and women have different temperaments. The feeling of jealousy torments more than those who cannot and do not want to restrain their emotions.

Male representatives are jealous of their chosen ones for various reasons. Let's consider the most common ones.

• Take, for example, a person who is very emotional, but kind and gentle. And so he managed to fall deeply in love! And the woman gave, albeit a small, but reason for jealousy. Because of incontinence, he can afford to express dissatisfaction in a mild form and nothing more.
• The other person also has an unrestrained character, but in addition to everything else, he is rude, ill-mannered and cruel. This cocktail of feelings leads to the fact that love becomes an obsession for him. Such an individual will not stand on ceremony if his girlfriend gives rise to jealousy. He will throw out all the negativity on others. First of all, the object of his adoration will go to.
• The next case is the most unpredictable. A man is an egoist. Everything that surrounds him should belong only to him! He always loves only himself.

• The combination of cruelty and self-doubt is the worst case. Such a man is capable of any act. He can afford violence against a woman. There is no need for a reason for this. He will come up with it himself. It will be such an act of self-affirmation. A friend for him is just a "whipping doll" that can be offended in order to throw out his negative emotions.

Of course, many more examples can be cited. Each man has individual character traits that can be intertwined in different ways. Take a closer look at your companion, and you can determine for yourself which of these examples his behavior is closer to.

Male self-confidence, sometimes even unconscious, leads to the suffering of his loved ones. A jealous husband is a disaster for a woman. The people say "he beats and is jealous, that means he loves." But how unpleasant it is to look at the scene when the husband is chasing his half-naked wife down the street with his fists. The poor thing does not know where to go from such "love".

First of all, it is a sense of possessiveness. If a person is not indifferent to another, he experiences a fear of losing his object of adoration. And this is quite natural. But in different cases it manifests itself in different ways.

It all depends on why the person became so jealous. Perhaps, in his distant childhood, there was a psychological trauma. Maybe the mother left the family for another man and left them with their father. Then it will seem to such an individual that sooner or later his chosen one will do the same.

The feeling of self-doubt, fear of total loneliness push a timid man in everyday life to jealousy. He considers himself a simple man. Works at a factory, is interested in football, does not read books. And the wife, on the contrary, is an intellectual, good-looking, smart, works in a prestigious job.

The disproportionality of personal qualities and characters will lead to the fact that the husband will develop a depressive state. He will become irritable and suspicious. He will begin to control his spouse in all her actions, so as not to make it possible to understand that he is not worthy of her.

Sometimes a male representative is focused on some insoluble problem that happened in his life. After the grief he has experienced, he is afraid of losing the last loved one. Therefore, a man will be jealous of his chosen one and try not to lose sight of her every step.

Women are different. Some deliberately go to the conflict and try to cause jealousy of the spouse, flirt "right and left." They like it, so they assert themselves and entertain themselves and the people around them. As a result, this behavior inevitably leads to scandals and divorce.

Jealousy in a man can cause his wife to behave too independently. When she allows herself to do whatever she wants, has a well-paid job and rotates in the male team. The feeling of possessiveness and dignity will not allow the husband to endure such behavior of his wife for a long time. Ultimately, he will first start making claims, and if this does not help, he will pack up his things and leave the house.

Rumors, groundless talk about his wife's infidelity can also set a man up to show jealousy.

Over time, a man succumbs to suggestion and begins to treat his soul mate with suspicion. This leads to scandals and discord in the family.

Male jealousy is not visible to the naked eye. This feeling can be "encrypted" under various reasons for the manifestation of dissatisfaction in everyday life.

Experienced professionals have learned to identify the implicit signs of jealousy and identify its causes. However, you can see for yourself whether a loved one is jealous of you or not.To do this, you need to compare the following examples with examples of your man's behavior. If you notice a match, then change your behavior, making it clear that you are a faithful spouse.

• For example, your husband often finds fault with your makeup, and too bright clothes make him angry. A special relationship with an animal, for example, a dog, also annoys him.
• Some husbands are interested in all the things that happen around the faithful. They need to know everything to the smallest detail: what you talked about with your friend on the phone, what is happening in the team, and even what tram you took home today, and so on.
• Frequent visits to parents can also create feelings of possessiveness. The man will grumble about the fact that there is no food in the house (although the refrigerator is full of provisions), while the wife walks around to no one knows where.
• Often women cannot understand what caused the husband's aggression. All attempts to establish contact do not find understanding. Increased excitability and nervousness of the spouse can also be the result of jealousy.
• Sullenness and taciturnity will also tell about an attack of jealousy of the husband. An itchy feeling is stressful, and therefore a person withdraws into himself. Anxious thoughts keep you from relaxing.

• A man can often disappear at work. This does not mean that he is cheating on you. Perhaps this is how his latent jealousy manifests itself. He freaks out and wants you to pay attention to him and think about the fact that you can lose your loved one.
• By the way, many psychologists noted the fact that people who had been married for a very long time and had a very respectable age came to their consultation. It turns out that the spouse was jealous of his wife because he was afraid to lose not only a loved one, but also the established way of life, which completely suited him. At first glance, it seems that fits of jealousy in this category of people can only cause a tender smile, but there is nothing funny here. People do have a fear of loss that overshadows their minds.
• Here's another example: a woman already had one unsuccessful marriage, after which she remarried. Now they are happy with their current spouse. Their happiness violates the husband's jealousy of his wife's past life. It seems to the man that his wife was never able to forget her first love to the end. Anxiety about this provides fertile ground for the escalation of family conflict.

First of all, you need to figure out how jealousy is manifested, and then act. Some women on forums where family problems are discussed complain that their husbands bother them with his overly intrusive behavior. For example, he calls every half hour as soon as the wife leaves the house, interferes with communication with friends or does not allow to be alone in the country, monitors every step or offers a ride at every opportunity.

I must say that there is no problem here. On the contrary, be glad that you have such a caring man. Other women can only dream of such care.

It's another matter if a man shows signs of aggression. There are two options here. If it is not only impossible to tolerate this behavior, but also dangerous, then you need to end the relationship as quickly as possible. If you love your chosen one and feel that everything can be adjusted, then show persistence and try to carry out a series of actions aimed at completely restoring mutual understanding.

So, we set tasks and strictly follow the recommendations.

• Eliminate reasons for jealousy. Stop doing bright makeup, correct your behavior, remove short skirts from your wardrobe (give them to unmarried girlfriends). And no communication with men.Even with classmates, at least for a short time, you need to stop communicating.
• Don't cause conflicts. If your husband suspects you of treason, do not deny anything, do not shout, but explain in a calm voice under what circumstances you were late at work. Then leave your husband alone for a while. Just go to another room. Let him think about the problem and calm down.
• Every time, convince your chosen one that he is very dear to you as a man and as a person. Say that you will never meet this again. And, in general, you are not going to look for anyone. You have happiness - it is HE and you do not need anything else.
• Do not blame your husband in response to accusations directed at you. Explain to him that this behavior greatly upsets and offends you. It gets in the way of your happiness.
• Don't hide anything from him. Leave your phone in a visible place. Let him know you have nothing to hide.
• With your spouse, treat other members of the stronger sex more than indifferently. Never use other men as an example to oppose your husband.
• Create coziness in the house and treat your man with love, making it clear that he is the most dear and only one in the world.

Getting rid of an unpleasant feeling is not easy. But you have to really want it, and then everything will work out. No one can complete this task except yourself.

• Sit in front of a mirror and look at yourself from the side. Think about the emotions that you experience when your husband is jealous of you. Write down the unpleasant feelings on paper. Subsequently, show them to your husband and explain that this is poisoning your life and destroying your family.
• Talk to your husband one-on-one. Ask him to admit that he is jealous of you. Explain to him that there is no need to hide feelings and be ashamed of them. Everything is fixable. This will be his first step in getting rid of the obsessive feeling.
• Try to understand the real reason for your husband's jealousy. This can be done when you are alone. Take him to a frank conversation. Explain to each other. Let everyone express their grievances and claims. Doing this will help you better understand the problematic moments in your life.

• Get involved in a joint business. For example, start saving money for a dacha or a new car. A new hobby pushes jealousy into the background.
• Exude positivity and pretend that you are happy no matter what. This behavior will attract the attention of your spouse, and he will follow your example. The more positive you are, the sooner you will get closer.
• Try to relieve your spouse of obsessive thoughts. Load it up with work, for example, start renovating an apartment. Take an active part yourself. This can help distract your spouse from bad thoughts, and working together will help bring you closer together.
• Constantly reassure your spouse that the past is a thing of the past. We need to forget old grievances and disappointments.
• Create coziness and comfort. If you have children, spend more free time with them and your spouse. Gather your children, your spouse at one table and tell about all the positive traits of your family.
• Praise your husband for his loyalty and conscientiousness. Thanks to his efforts, you do not need and live without any special material problems. This will raise his self-esteem, and he will find fault with you less.

Don't be afraid to bring out the negative aspects of your life. You need to look the problem right in the eye. As soon as you start looking for and fixing mistakes, you will feel that life is changing for the better. You can always part, but you will regret the lost relationship all your life. Therefore, you need to strive for understanding and dialogue.