How not to worry during an interview?

Almost everyone gets anxious before a job interview. Recruiters themselves can create stressful situations in order to see how the applicant will react. The success of the interview often depends on how he copes with his emotional state.

Excitement is a psycho-emotional state of a person associated with an evaluative reaction to current or future events, generated by the fear of the unknown, the consequences and uncertainty as a result. This is how the body reacts to negative thoughts in an attempt to prepare for a negative outcome.

Anxiety before the interview can be caused by:

• lack of experience and necessary skills;
• lack of confidence in oneself and one's own knowledge;
• fear of being ridiculed or rejected;
• the presence of life difficulties, lack of money;
• poor preparedness, low awareness of the company and the proposed vacancy.

As a result, the applicant experiences severe stress, which manifests itself in increased anxiety, sweating, rapid breathing, nervous tremors, loss of concentration, stiffness, tension, or, conversely, in abnormal gaiety and increased activity. From experiences thoughts begin to get confused, speech becomes incoherent, stuttering may appearand hands and knees will begin to tremble. At the peak of emotional stress, even nausea and vomiting may appear, and some may have nosebleeds.

It is simply impossible to pass an interview in this state. The more you are afraid of going to a business meeting, the more pronounced the symptoms are.

Moreover, such signs also indicate that the applicant is lying, although in fact this is not the case. Nervousness does not allow you to fully reveal yourself, show your strengths, talk about previous work experience.

After being invited for an interview, there is short-term joy, and then anxiety appears. It is normal to be nervous before a meeting, this is a natural reaction of the body that absolutely everyone faces. But if the anxiety is strong, manifests itself at the physical level, deprives you of sleep, you should not let this state go by itself. There are several ways you can help yourself deal with stress.

What happens if the position is refused? What are the most annoying questions you might ask in a job interview? What is the job seeker most afraid of? You need to mentally imagine all the most negative situations that can occur.

And what will happen then if this happens? Anything can be represented. Come up with an absurd situation and mentally beat it. Let's say the interviewer yelled, made a greasy joke, poured coffee, asked to undress, or called the applicant worthless. What will the applicant do in this case? How will he feel?

Each new situation should be worse and more terrible than the previous one, you should not be afraid of the complete absurdity, even if this never happens in life. A person must intimidate himself so that the absurdity of fantasies causes laughter.

You can play these situations in front of the mirror, addressing yourself. Or play roles with someone close to you.

An interview often feels like an exam, so you need to prepare for it too. For example, work out answers to uncomfortable questions. Why did you quit your previous job? What are your strengths and weaknesses? How many loans do you have and why do you take them? Do you want to work with us just for money? We know everything about you! Some questions can drive you into a stupor. Recruiters often deliberately use psychological pressure.

In most cases it is not the answers themselves that are important, but the reaction to questions and statements. It is on them that the interviewer can assess the personality of the applicant. If you work out the answer to each tricky question in advance, the person will feel more confident, and therefore calmer.

Despite the rich experience in this field of activity or position, it is recommended to update your knowledge, especially pay attention to new laws, regulations and other regulations... The questionnaire may be accompanied by a test not only for logic and ingenuity, but also for professional knowledge. It will also add confidence.

If the excitement manifests itself on a physical level, you should follow his lead, and not ignore. There is a close connection between the physical state and the psycho-emotional state. Hands are shaking, which means you really need to shake them. For example, imagine how the water is shaken off and with it the tension.

Darkened in the eyes - cover them and do breathing exercises or meditate. If your knees are shaking, stretch your joints.Palms sweat - wipe them with wet wipes or rinse with warm water, and then do a warming massage.

If it is difficult to cope with anxiety on your own, you need to help the nervous system. There is nothing wrong with sedatives, and you should not choose the most expensive and strong ones. Often, a tincture of motherwort or valerian root is enough. If the state of anxiety is prolonged, especially with a long job search, it is recommended to visit a neurologist.

The best sedative for the applicant, and at the same time other drugs, can only be prescribed by a doctor. The general condition can be influenced not only by excitement, but also hormones, as well as general well-being.

It is difficult to cope with anxiety when thoughts constantly return to the upcoming interview. You need to distract yourself and stop winding yourself up. Physical work helps best. For example, you can put things in order in the house, disassemble trash or shelves for which there was always no time. Cleaning will not only restore psycho-emotional balance, but in general will have a positive effect on psychological well-being.

Helps with distraction and physical activity... You can do fitness, run in the park, or just take a walk. Communication with loved ones distracts well, sometimes it is enough to call and share your experiences.

Before the interview itself you should sleep well, and the day before the meeting, exclude from the diet foods that may cause digestive discomfort. For example, legumes, cabbage, cheese, flour products. These products cause increased gassing. Hot spices and sauces can cause heartburn, and onions and garlic can cause bad breath.

You need to be careful with fruits and dried fruits. Some can be laxative, such as apricots or prunes. And nervous tension will only aggravate the situation. At the same time, you should definitely have a snack, even if your appetite has disappeared from excitement. It will be unpleasant if your empty stomach rumbles during the interview. Enough cottage cheese or an apple.

It is better to show up for an interview in advance. Haste only spurs excitement. Additional time will allow you to calm down, look for information about the company on your phone, and talk to employees.

You can take drinking water and wet wipes with you in case your throat gets dry or your palms sweat. Be sure to turn off the phone. For some models, the silent mode is very noisy and the vibration will distract both the applicant and the recruiter.

Sometimes the job seeker is given a stressful interview, for example, can deliberately make you wait for more than one hour. Screaming, scandal, and outcrying are not behaviors that should be demonstrated, but a humiliating attitude should also not be allowed. It is important to show patience and even behavior, periodically remind of yourself, but without scandal and vivid manifestations of discontent.

During communication, it is important to monitor breathing and speech. Speak clearly and slowly. If you find it difficult to cope with the excitement, you need to take a break and take a breath. The pose should be relaxed, but you should not "spread" in the chair. To calm down, you can twist an object in your hands, for example, a pen and a notebook. At the same time, they will come in handy if you need to write something down.

It will be lucky if the interview will be conducted by a direct supervisor. He is better aware of the job responsibilities and work of the entire department, he can be asked all questions of interest.After the interview you should definitely thank the recruiter for the time spent, and also clarify the way of feedback.

For advice from a psychologist on how to properly prepare for an upcoming interview, see below.