Choleric child: character and recommendations for education

The attitude towards children and the peculiarities of their upbringing depend not only on age. It is extremely important to take into account the specifics of the child's temperament. It is necessary to bring up children of "choleric" by temperament according to special schemes.

There is often an opinion that any children are easily excited, show emotions violently, continuously and actively. But even against the general background, the choleric child stands out strongly. His emotions are overwhelming. To cope with such a "living test", it is necessary to thoroughly study the features of such a temperament.

The mood of such children changes unpredictably in one direction or the other. Moreover, all cases are cyclical. Choleric people prefer games in which there are many participants. Communication for them is usually not a problem and even desirable. But already in kindergarten, high contact is darkened, devalued by an increased tendency to resentment and conflict. Observers will immediately notice that they:

• love pranks;
• constantly fussing;
• restless in their pursuits.

The choleric child is not only clearly visible, but also perfectly “heard”. He, regardless of gender, manifests itself:

• voice volume;
• speed of speech;
• active gestures.

Such a temperament leads to a rapid expenditure of psychic energy. After all, the nervous system of children is unstable. Plunging into every business, in every action without a trace, children spend almost all their strength. But instability makes itself felt all the same: it is expressed in the absence of perseverance. The upbringing of choleric people is a complex matter that requires attention and accuracy.

This temperament (both in adolescents, and partly even in preschool age from 2 years) is expressed in leadership inclinations.Choleric people almost always, in whatever company they find themselves, act as ringleaders. It is under their influence that others start and leave games. Taking gaming is not just serious; attempts to interrupt such entertainment are met with irritation. Of all the games, those where you need to take risks and be physically active are the unconditional priority.

Once in an educational institution, in a collective, choleric children are forced to slow down their desires and impulses. But outside of school or kindergarten (in the yard, on the street, and especially at home), self-control weakens. Therefore, the educational process is further complicated, requires strong nerves and composure. To make sure that the child is exactly choleric, it is useful to consider all four temperaments using an example of a specific situation.

For example, it’s time to leave the playground. Sanguine people will try to postpone leaving until the last, will feverishly engage in "additional construction", digging holes, slide down the hill. Melancholic people will be upset and will express it emotionally. However, they will still comply with the request. Phlegmatic people will least of all cause problems for parents and educators - they will immediately leave all the games, no matter how enthusiastic they are, and go wherever they are told.

Choleric people in terms of emotional stress will surpass everyone. They will not just fight, resist, scream and cry, some are capable of interfering with other children, breaking what they have “built”, and getting into a fight. At this point, you need to make a retreat. It may seem that kids with a choleric temperament are just lovers of aggression, completely uncontrollable personalities. In fact, they also have strengths:

• less inclination to loneliness and self-delusion;
• relatively rare bad mood;
• the ability to establish contacts and defend your "I", your opinion in communication with other people;
• easy adaptation to an unusual environment for yourself (not only for children, but also for adults).

The bad traits that educators need to overcome in the development of the personality of choleric people are as follows:

• increased conflict level;
• the tendency to participate in conflicts, make enemies;
• unwillingness to sometimes complete the work started;
• a sharp change in attitudes towards individuals, objects and things.

Adolescents with a choleric temperament have their own characteristics, slightly different from those of other ages. You need to know them if only because this group includes over 50% of boys and girls. Such minors are not only active, they are also physically strong and trained. Other distinctive features are:

• enterprise;
• inclination to socially significant activities;
• the desire to overcome even serious difficulties;
• willingness and ability to take on the resolution of the difficulties of other people;
• not too high academic performance;
• priority in school and striving for what is pleasant or taught personally by nice teachers;
• ability to quickly respond to non-standard situations;
• the ability to easily memorize information;
• orientation towards new and unusual things.

With all the versatility of temperaments, there is still a significant specificity depending on gender. If a son in a family belongs to this particular group, he will inevitably be extremely restless. It is necessary to overcome this problem by introducing clear and consistent rules. For example, on weekends, the whole family does not start their day earlier than a certain hour. Or, after finishing work, give adults 1 hour of rest.

Each rule must be followed very strictly and rigorously. Much depends on the adults, on their sequence. If they decide, say, that they need to adhere to a certain schedule, to give priority to individual activities, they should only retreat from this under very compelling circumstances. It is advisable to immediately explain to the children why they decided so.They must firmly know that whims, tantrums, scandals and antics will not allow them to achieve their goal.

It so happens that it is impossible to correct some bad property of the choleric person. Many children cannot fall asleep alone for a very long time. Parents are extremely annoyed that they waste a lot of time on this. Another negative aspect is often excessive childish talkativeness. In such cases, you must first change your attitude to the problem, find advantages for yourself in it - and then try to introduce the situation into a certain framework. The time spent can be used for:

• thinking about the past;
• planning further actions;
• listening to audiobooks through headphones;
• other similar cases.

But the desire to dominate, in spite of everything, cannot be treated with the same complacency. It is very important to reverse this trend, otherwise the world will be replenished with another family tyrant. But you need to focus, especially in adolescence, to take care of other family members. This property is already characteristic of adult choleric people, but it is important to help its formation. It is necessary to ensure that the negative emotions received in an educational institution, at work and in public places would not spill out at home in the future.

As for the speed of reaction, the ability to make decisions very quickly is worth encouraging. Making sure, however, that the decisions made are not lightweight and emotional. If the parents are able to instill that it is necessary to take into account all the information, it will only be better. When educating, you should pay attention to work with such a trait as sociability. The craving for communication, for making new friends should be limited to the ability to understand people.

They have slightly fewer of these problems than boys. But the main features of the choleric temperament are still manifested. We must put up with the fact that the girl will have a strong character, a strong will, that serious ambitions will soon arise. Experienced educators take these circumstances into account and try to make behavior softer, more flexible, teach to bypass new corners. By the way, about training: choleric girls learn new skills without any problems, they love to try things that were unfamiliar to them before.

Therefore, it is easy to "switch" them from unwanted hobbies to those that parents consider the best for their children. But attempts to overcome insufficient attention to fashion trends, unwillingness to wear jewelry and various accessories are unlikely to give a result. Such girls are somewhat masculine, and when raising, it must be borne in mind that they value comfort and the opportunity to act more. Pretentiousness, unhurried activity is not for them.

It is not easy to educate choleric people correctly. You can cope with excess energy by redirecting it to useful areas. So, girls will be calmer when doing:

• figure skating;
• speed skating;
• athletics;
• performing arts.

Choleric boys calm down while practicing Greco-Roman wrestling, martial arts, football and basketball, swimming. But you don't have to focus on these sports - any active activity will do. Additionally, it is worth reducing the number of irritants. If an object acts as an irritant, it is removed. If there are frequent conflicts with one of the other children, you should not invite them home.

But these techniques will give a positive result only if the active periods are periodically changed by elementary games with low mobility. It is desirable that such activities are of an intellectual nature and allow for realization. Hobbies are selected individually, looking not for something that is convenient for themselves in the first place, but for the optimal compromise solution.It is necessary to strive to find at least some hobby in any case - this will help to streamline life and increase organization. At the same time, one should try to convince children of the need to complete everything that has been started, even if they no longer like it or a new hobby has appeared. This approach should be applied in everything:

• in communication;
• in teaching;
• in Game.

But in control over actions, compromise is unacceptable. Yes, it is difficult, and even meets with resistance, however, otherwise children can do harm, cause pain. It is better to somewhat exaggerated, but firmly show how bad deeds are unpleasant for a particular parent, educator.

With all the severity and intensity of work with choleric people, it is categorically impossible to raise your voice, especially to use physical force. These techniques will only intensify the negative consequences, in addition, they can cause rejection. Often, children, out of a sense of contradiction, only begin to violate the established rules even more. Others try to do it covertly, disguising themselves from their parents and others. Gradually, this behavior becomes a habit, and if serious problems arise, it may be too late to learn about them.

It so happens that persuasion and rational explanations, gentle nudge in the right direction do not work. In order not to break down, it is better to choose the tactics of silence and ignorance. The accentuated coldness on the part of the parents is very quickly felt by the children. It is imperative to teach choleric kids the rules of courtesy in the most common situations. Compliance with these rules in each case should be praised, and for violation - censured.

It is very important to be able to empathize and listen to children. They need to know that parents care about what they do and even say. You should definitely show by your own example, by examples from your life, what is good and what is bad. But striving to remake a girl or a boy is pointless. Many famous people with a choleric temperament achieved tremendous success.

With very strong emotionality, modeling and drawing, games and hobbies that develop perseverance help. Sessions should take a strictly defined time and be held on schedule. Choleric children should be given clear responsibilities, consistently instructing them. A specific goal and milestones should be negotiated.

Psychologists advise to involve choleric children in household chores, the purpose of which is clear. It is also desirable that the kids already understand the result, its meaning. It is better to get used to pronouncing the stages of work out loud and to clearly implement the plan. When walking in the woods, in nature, in hiking, choleric patients need to be given increased attention. If they do something uncontrollably even for a short time, unpleasant accidents can occur. For the same reason, one must be very vigilant at sea, and on the streets of a big city, and on the train. To reduce impulsivity, to increase attention, activities such as:

• handicrafts;
• embroidery;
• game constructor;
• assembly of the mosaic.

When participating in games, as well as during developmental activities, it is necessary to extinguish irritation. Any case when choleric people try, show patience and hard work, should be encouraged. Maximum attention should be paid to the ability to fully communicate and not alienate others from yourself. Let the children learn to think about their behavior, plan a conversation, and recognize and avoid provocations. Good model situations can be gleaned from literature, cinema, even folklore and mythology.

There are a few more nuances that will help to establish contact with choleric children. Communicate with them clearly, expressively. Quiet, slurred speech can be irritating. It is absolutely necessary to avoid rude, frankly insincere compliments on duty. After visiting theaters, circuses, concert halls, museums and so on, you need to find time on the same day for a confidential conversation with your child.

Let him understand that he is appreciated and his experiences, assessments are interesting to adults. When listening to what a child or adolescent has to say, it is important to keep in mind that they are sincere ... but express a poignant, emotionally charged assessment. A little later, when the passions subside, it will be possible to talk more thoroughly, more productively. It is worth remembering that after the end of the conflict, choleric people tend to consider disputes irrelevant, and soon the claims will only cause them surprise, sometimes new irritation.

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