All about envy at work

Each person can at any time experience a feeling of envy for a colleague or feel a similar negative reaction to him from a colleague. Often, envious people prevent others from moving up the career ladder, ruining their reputation.

The subject of envy can be the employee's talent or his ability to get along with the boss. There are other reasons as well:

• struggle for a position;
• jealousy of the success of a colleague;
• high salary envy.

Sometimes an employee achieves great success in the labor field, gets a well-deserved promotion. But then he notices the strange behavior of others. Co-workers suddenly begin to show restraint in relationships. More and more often you have to catch envious glances on yourself. Discontent is guessed in the insincere smiles of colleagues. A successful person begins to feel uncomfortable at work.

Feminine jealousy in the workplace has some characteristics... Female colleagues often look askance at beautiful, smartly dressed ladies. An envious collaborator is strenuously intriguing to an annoying subject. Spiteful critics like to emphasize undeserved status, illegality of money, injustice of any goods. Envious people always show an intrusive interest in someone else's life, constantly compare themselves with others.

You can understand that your colleagues are jealous of you by the following signs.

• The sudden presence of a large number of competitors means that your success has a strong effect on those around you. They want to get ahead of you by all means.
• Unreasonable criticism and unfounded nagging from colleagues become your constant companions. For example, the management gets you a new computer. Colleagues speak of him disapprovingly. Someone makes stupid jokes, others chuckle displeasedly. Another's joy is unbearable for envious people.
• One of the signs of envy is the appearance of gossip. You have always existed calmly in your team. We have never heard any rumors about ourselves. Suddenly you realize that everyone is gossiping behind your back. Denunciations to the authorities are becoming more frequent. The reason for this is the desire to annoy you. An impressionable person is always very upset about any gossip. And then the desire of the envious reaches its goal.
• Often, envy manifests itself in an attempt to ignore or avoid a successful person. The employee begins to feel like an outcast. People around him do not communicate with him during the lunch break, they try to avoid spending time together. The achievements of other people annoy some people so much that they are ready to completely abandon any communication with a successful person.
• Colleagues come up with different stories in their attempts to denigrate you. They suggest that the promotion was due to your boss's biased attitude toward you, rather than your talent and tenacity. Envious people instill in everyone that you fell into the category of the lucky ones by accident.
• Ill-wishers always try to belittle the importance of even minor victories. Instead of sincere joy and encouragement from colleagues, a person hears such phrases: "Just think about it!" or "So what's wrong with that?"
• Most envious people begin to copy the manner of communication, style, habits, habits of the subject who is envied. Imitative behavior indicates a desire to be closer to the idol, to bathe in the rays of his glory.

Unenviable people are rare. This unpleasant feeling can be completely absent only in a person with a very high level of spiritual development. Never brag about your success and high salary, but don't complain either. Talk less about yourself.

You need to find for yourself a modest but elegant style of a business lady. Don't enhance your beauty with bright makeup.

In this case, the boss will also pay attention to your professionalism, personal qualities and achievements in work, and not to external data. You should not struggle with the leadership. You are initially in an unequal position. The requirements for you must be fulfilled. When proposing to your boss a specific plan of action, be sure to wait for his approval or the adjustments he made.

In envy lies the lack of professionalism and immaturity of the personality. You should not underestimate your own self-esteem. Reduce your willingness to harm the other person out of fear that they will surpass you. Do not stoop to various gossips.

Take someone else's success as a motivational sign for you. It means that the time has come for personal changes: get new knowledge, master modern technologies.

Experts offer some recommendations:

• do not oppose yourself to other team members;
• show respect for others;
• listen carefully to the interlocutor;
• do not pretend to be a mysterious and unpredictable person;
• honor the established traditions of the team;
• do not ignore the successes of others, praise them;
• do not sort things out with the envious person with the whole team;
• never make excuses;
• do not give in to emotions;
• strive to build relationships;
• firmly follow the intended goal;
• do not pay attention to spiteful critics, do not try to please them.