All about female envy

Envy can be called one of the most unpleasant feelings, which can lead not only to personal destruction, but the end of relationships with loved ones and friends. What is it, and is there an opportunity to fight envy? To understand this, it is necessary to study the reason for the manifestation of this feeling.

It should be noted that almost every person experienced this feeling, because nothing is alien to us. Envy manifests itself in everyone, regardless of age, social status, gender and other qualities. But the question is what to do with this feeling, whether it is worth fighting or letting it destroy inner peace and tranquility.

If you describe envy, it is characterized by a feeling of annoyance that someone has something that I do not have... Often this is accompanied by a desire for that person to be deprived of the opportunity, circumstance or thing that he received. Female envy, like male envy, is closely related to psychology, which is important to understand. She is born in childhood, when a friend had a beautiful dress, or an enviable toy was bought for an older sister. Over time, this negative feeling can manifest itself towards co-workers who get promoted, and even friends who have made a profitable investment or meet a soul mate.

Whatever it was, envy can quickly cloud the mind and negatively affect both behavior and character in a short time... More often than not, a woman is not able to see the path that the object of her envy of success has traveled. Only the tip of the iceberg is visible - the happiness and joy of a person, and they cause irritation, resentment, and sometimes anger. All thoughts begin to revolve only around this.

To understand whether you have envy or are envious, you need to know several characteristics of this feeling, which often manifests itself in women in different ways. It is enough to pay attention to the behavior of the other person, and it will be very easy to recognize the unfavorable attitude.

• External manifestations are that a woman withdraws and does not show emotion when she hears about the success of a friend or loved one... If we are talking about good news regarding a raise, increase in salary or a long-awaited vacation, instead of showing joy, the face remains indifferent, and the words of congratulations do not carry the appropriate meaning.
• If any initiative and undertaking is met with immediate criticism, this is a sign of envy. The person himself does not want to engage in self-development, but only shows irritation, which is not so easy to hide. It is easy to see this in the many arguments and the belief that nothing will work out, that the matter is not worth it.
• Imitation is also an indicator of envy. If after a while you notice that your friend bought the same shoes as yours, or started hanging out with a guy you like, most likely she is experiencing this negative feeling towards you. Copying often does not mean admiration, but confirms the opposite. Success must be achieved on your own, to look for your own path to the goal, but envious people do not think about it, as they are focused on others.
• Increasing interest in another person's personal life often says that they envy him. This is a kind of "intelligence", thanks to which a woman can look for flaws in her friend's relationship in order to point out them to her, or secretly rejoice at failure. This is often found in people who cannot boast of their personal life and begin to gossip about others.
• Regular banter and incorrect statements towards the object of envy are a sign of negative attitudes. The realization that someone is more successful and happier leads to humiliation of a friend in the circle of her own friends. Facial expression can say a lot about how you feel about you. If your friend looks away or pulls away, you might want to consider whether this destructive feeling has interfered with your friendship.
• Slander often found among envious people who want to slander and denigrate, as well as belittle the successes of others. Flattery keeps pace with envy, so if a person begins to fall asleep with deceitful and insincere compliments, you should think about his attitude towards you.

There are many factors due to which a person can begin to envy. Often this lasts from early childhood, and then it is much more difficult to deal with this feeling.

Parents who consistently compared their child may have unknowingly created feelings of envy... Punishment for any oversights and non-observance of the rules did not allow the child to show his own initiative and make mistakes, as is typical for children. Lack of love gives rise to deep spiritual wounds that may not heal over the years and manifest themselves in other character traits, most often negative ones.

Self-doubt and low self-esteem are not always found only in quiet and calm people. Often this becomes the cause of envy, since a person sees happiness in others, but for some reason himself cannot achieve this, while he is unable to rejoice for his loved ones.

Parent-child relationship problems lead to serious psychological impairments that affect behavior and decision-making in different circumstances... If the elders did not praise the child, often humiliated and cited someone else as an example, this undoubtedly led to a sense of their own inferiority, which is projected onto others.It is difficult for unemployed people to be happy for those who have achieved success, especially if the reason for the lack of earnings is the usual laziness or unwillingness to do something to move up the career ladder.

At the same time, she tries in every possible way to look for flaws, gossips about her with her friends and can slander. The appearance of others can often cause negative emotions just because we do not look so attractive. Girls with short hair may have envy of women with long braids.

Due to negative feelings, many women begin to think that it is much easier for the thin, rich, young to live, and success itself comes to them, but this is not so. Those who work in a team often find themselves in a maelstrom of gossip, discussing everyone around. Financial condition can be called the most common reason, people are jealous because of a large apartment in a beautiful area, a successful vacancy, profitable connections... All these factors are capable of destroying the mental and physical state of a woman, if you do not start to fight the negative influence of envy in time, and this is possible.

There are several options for how to deal with this condition. First you need to decide whether you have become an object of envy or whether the feeling has captured you.

It is very easy to find envy in oneself; it is enough to analyze the personal attitude towards friends or simply successful women and beautiful girls. If you are sincerely happy for them, and they inspire you, you do not need to worry, but when a lump appears inside and resentment rises, you need to take action.

• It is important to understand that you need to deal with this condition at an early stageas jealousy can lead to more negative consequences, including revenge, quarrels and deep wounds. The first step is to admit envy to yourself. If you find yourself regularly gossiping or starting to gossip about a certain person, you need to stop it.
• Of course, dealing with feelings and emotions is not as easy as we would like. But they cannot be ignored. You can start by looking for the reason why envy arose.... If this drags on from early childhood, it is recommended that you talk to your parents about the feelings you are experiencing. Having a clear conversation can ease internal conflicts and soothe pain.
• Psychological support plays an important role, so you can make an appointment with a specialist, which will find the source of the problem and tell you how to deal with it. It might be worth talking to someone you envy and sharing your emotions. If we are talking about a close and dear person, you can be sure that he will be ready to help you.
• Dealing with jealousy will require self-control and regular analysis of your motivations.... It is important to stop focusing on failures and remember what you have already done. You need to be as honest with yourself as possible. Try to find in yourself the positive qualities that have already helped you achieve success in different areas of life. Concentrate on the good that you have and thank fate for it.

There are many ways to respond to jealousy, but if you want to change your friend’s attitude towards you and stop the negative emotions from flowing, there are several steps you can take to help her deal with it.

• First of all, have to be honest, and for this you can arrange gatherings, prepare a delicious dinner and create a relaxing atmosphere. You should speak openly, but at the same time be restrained so as not to injure your friend. Explain that her attitude has changed and it makes you sad.
• It's important to show that you value friendship and want things to work out., this will allow the interlocutor to open up emotionally. When it comes to your personal success or work, it is important to cheer and comfort your friend by saying that the best in her life is yet to come. Psychological support plays a big role, it is important to express understanding.
• You should not belittle your own achievements to make your friend feel better, this will not correct the situation.... It is impossible to please, as this can generate even more negative feelings and completely ruin the relationship. It is enough to push and inspire a friend so that she can see that she has every chance of achieving success in different areas. Painful topics should not be touched upon; the help of a psychologist may be needed here. All of these actions can save women's friendship and help deal with negativity.